Should I contact the resort to tell them this?

[aubriee]

Exactly. It's a sad situation, and I in no way mean to downgrade that, but to ask for pixie dust is a little entitled in my opinion. Plan & pay for something special if you feel you need to. I hope he has a great trip.

This was my thinking too. Just about everyone down there is celebrating something or trying to get away from something. Three years ago my dad died in March, just before a planned WDW trip. I almost canceled, but my mom insisted that he'd want me to go, so I did. I was sad and very depressed, but I would never have expected WDW do anything. I had thought about releasing a balloon in his memory while I was down there, but since I didn't know where it would round up, decided to just buy a balloon and give it to a kid (after asking the parents first of course).

My husband and I will be down there Oct 27th-Nov 4th to celebrate both my birthday and our anniversary. No way do I expect WDW to do anything. I will be wearing a birthday button on Oct 30th and we'll wear anniversary buttons later in the week, but we are doing that strictly for ourselves, not to get anything from Disney. We would never ask for something extra. That just seems wrong and too entitled.

Pixie dust is supposed to be a surprise, not something you ask for. I know once at Chef Mickey's it seemed like the CMs were just going table to table singing Happy Birthday, passing out cupcakes and these plastic place mats the characters had signed. It was like every one in there had a birthday that night. We happened to overhear an arguement between a couple who was sitting right next to us. The wife was trying to wave the waiter over and the husband was arguing that it was not their kids birthdays and he didn't want to lie and say it was. The wife angrily told him, "Do you think half of these people they are singing to are actually having birthdays? Of course they're not. Now I want our kids to get one of those place mats. In fact, I want two." When the waiter finally came over, she grinned and said that both of their kids were having birthdays that week and she wanted a signed place mat, a cupcake, and the singing like everyone else was getting. You could see the look of disbelief on the waiter's face. It was absolutely ridiculous that night. People have gotten so used to hearing about the pixie dust that WDW sometimes scatters, that people are now expecting it or even demanding it.

 

[Missytara]

I am on vacation this week and doing a lot of lurking. I have read this thread for the last few days.

I will post my two cents worth.

Some of my best memories are those that were totally unplanned and unexpected, especially at Disney.

 

[TaraPA]

If you would like something special done for this family then it should be up to you to arrange and pay for it. It is not the resort's responsibility to treat your friend in any special way. Asking for "pixie dust" is opposite the whole idea of it.

1) What are you expecting?
2) Probaly MOST people at WDW have a special occassion.
3) What would you like them to do for the nephew?

to ask for pixie dust is a little entitled in my opinion. Plan & pay for something special if you feel you need to.

This was my thinking too. Just about everyone down there is celebrating something or trying to get away from something.

Pixie dust is supposed to be a surprise, not something you ask for. People have gotten so used to hearing about the pixie dust that WDW sometimes scatters, that people are now expecting it or even demanding it.

Some of my best memories are those that were totally unplanned and unexpected, especially at Disney.

All of the above!

 

[jgraney106]

I would hope that if anything they would only acknowledge the birthday aspect of this trip. If they do ....just fine...if not .......nothing is lost by letting them know. I have not told my nephew, so he will be none the wiser.
I asked for nothing specific , so I will leave it up to Disney and they will do what they will with the information.
And yes, I have already purchased a gift for his birthday that is Disney related, so that should let you know that I am not trying to get Disney to do something I am doing already.
I now would ask that you please refrain from posting anymore, as I originally only asked about who I should contact ,not opinions on what a bad entitled person I am for think of the idea.
Not that I don't respect your opinions , as we all have a right to our thoughts, but why does it always end up that instead of people just giving a straight answer, instead turns into a rant about how wrong the person is for asking about such a thing.
Thank you ALL for your responses, but since I can't close the thread,lets please end this discussion. Thank you again.

 

[staceymarie]

I think it is very nice of you to be thinking of your nephew and wanting to do something to help him with what is bound to be a difficult time for him. I don't see anything wrong with contacting the resort and just giving them a heads up. I hope you get a response from your fax.

Me too!

To heck and back with the naysayers! Why the attitudes and judgement of OP? (looking for pixie dust, etc.). Sooooo what? This kid needs some. Give us all a break from you, would ya?

 

[hsmamato2]

Op, I think your heart is in the right place,and you shouldn't tell your fam you faxed anything. If something extra happens,then YAY! if not, no one is wiser,or disappointed. And you can add a special balloon order or something to the room yourself,just to be sure something extra happens.

 

[TDC Nala]

Me too!

To heck and back with the naysayers! Why the attitudes and judgement of OP? (looking for pixie dust, etc.). Sooooo what? This kid needs some. Give us all a break from you, would ya?

Just don't want her to get her expectations up, if she's expecting anything to be done at no cost. It could happen, but some of this may not be based on realistic expectations. When the nephew gets home and says he didn't get a free birthday cake in the room or towel animals, then what happens?

 

[LilyWDW]

Me too!

To heck and back with the naysayers! Why the attitudes and judgement of OP? (looking for pixie dust, etc.). Sooooo what? This kid needs some. Give us all a break from you, would ya?

Because day in and day out we get people on these boards who whine and complain about not getting a free cupcake or towel animals or any other type of pixie dust. It seems a lot of people have unrealistic expectations when it comes to these sorts of things. People are simply explaining how it is actually done, how you should not get your hopes up, and how it can be perceived when you ask for these things.

 

[Missytara]

Because day in and day out we get people on these boards who whine and complain about not getting a free cupcake or towel animals or any other type of pixie dust. It seems a lot of people have unrealistic expectations when it comes to these sorts of things. People are simply explaining how it is actually done, how you should not get your hopes up, and how it can be perceived when you ask for these things.

Ditto that!

Disney should not be responsible for forging a relationship between a mother/son after a tragedy and add into the mix the boyfriend.

Let it happen on its own.

 

[sharadoc]

Because day in and day out we get people on these boards who whine and complain about not getting a free cupcake or towel animals or any other type of pixie dust. It seems a lot of people have unrealistic expectations when it comes to these sorts of things. People are simply explaining how it is actually done, how you should not get your hopes up, and how it can be perceived when you ask for these things.

... until Disney gets SO sick of everyone asking for everything that they stop it altogether. I do get so frustrated when threads (not this one, but threads in general) get started to ask how to get any form of "pixie dust". You can't - it just happens. I'll remind folks of the diver/specialty menu at Coral Reef as an example.

When it's your birthday, wear a button. Something may happen, something may not. That's it and all you or anyone should expect.

 

[staceymarie]

Ditto that!

Disney should not be responsible for forging a relationship between a mother/son after a tragedy and add into the mix the boyfriend.

Let it happen on its own.

Omg. Whatever. Who asked Disney to forge a relationship? And it was already said that nephew was perfectly fine with boyfriend. The kids father just died and it's his birthday. Aunt trying to do something nice. Not trying to rip Disney off. This is so not like other threads asking for ways to get free stuff. How sad for this kid?!!!

So mean!!!

 

[staceymarie]

Deleted double post.
Also, sorry argumentative. Everyone's entitled to their opinion.
I've been stuck in Maine(well, not stuck but vacationing and it isn't torture or anything as Maine's great!)for almost a week with no cable and two 13 year olds. I'm pretty much not right at his point and pretty opinionated.!!

 

[minnie mum]

Sorry, but I still think that this is the child's mother's job, not the aunt's. She is stepping on the mother's toes on this one.

 

[Missytara]

Deleted double post.
Also, sorry argumentative. Everyone's entitled to their opinion.
I've been stuck in Maine(well, not stuck but vacationing and it isn't torture or anything as Maine's great!)for almost a week with no cable and two 13 year olds. I'm pretty much not right at his point and pretty opinionated.!!

OMG, so you will be ready for another vacation, after the vacation!!!!!

 

[anhower]

Omg. Whatever. Who asked Disney to forge a relationship? And it was already said that nephew was perfectly fine with boyfriend. The kids father just died and it's his birthday. Aunt trying to do something nice. Not trying to rip Disney off. This is so not like other threads asking for ways to get free stuff. How sad for this kid?!!!

So mean!!!

Totally agree! My father passed away when I was 17, so I was older than the nephew but it was and is still a painful thing to deal with. I had only ever been to WDW with my parents and I was 6 at the time. Returning with my DH 19 years later and only having memories of being there with my mom and dad was very emotional for me, and that was after 19 years!!! This little boy deserves any happiness he can get to brighten his day, especially since it'll be his birthday! She's a wonderful and caring aunt, that's obvious by the time and thought she's put into trying to make the vacation a happy one for the boy. OP, I think you're doing a wonderful thing. I hope your nephew has a wonderful time, and if Disney is able to do anything for him he will greatly appreciate it, even if he doesn't know it's because of your thoughtfulness.

On a side note, I thought the purpose of these boards were to help others, not bash them. It probably makes a lot of people afraid to ask a question for fear of getting their heads bit off, and I find that pretty sad. I'm always seeing posts of people attacking others for their view points, and it's crazy. I see a lot of posts I don't agree with, some even make me angry, but I choose to not comment because I was always taught that if I didn't have anything nice to say, to not say anything at all.

 

[chigirl]

This was my thinking too. Just about everyone down there is celebrating something or trying to get away from something. Three years ago my dad died in March, just before a planned WDW trip. I almost canceled, but my mom insisted that he'd want me to go, so I did. I was sad and very depressed, but I would never have expected WDW do anything. I had thought about releasing a balloon in his memory while I was down there, but since I didn't know where it would round up, decided to just buy a balloon and give it to a kid (after asking the parents first of course).

My husband and I will be down there Oct 27th-Nov 4th to celebrate both my birthday and our anniversary. No way do I expect WDW to do anything. I will be wearing a birthday button on Oct 30th and we'll wear anniversary buttons later in the week, but we are doing that strictly for ourselves, not to get anything from Disney. We would never ask for something extra. That just seems wrong and too entitled.

Pixie dust is supposed to be a surprise, not something you ask for. I know once at Chef Mickey's it seemed like the CMs were just going table to table singing Happy Birthday, passing out cupcakes and these plastic place mats the characters had signed. It was like every one in there had a birthday that night. We happened to overhear an arguement between a couple who was sitting right next to us. The wife was trying to wave the waiter over and the husband was arguing that it was not their kids birthdays and he didn't want to lie and say it was. The wife angrily told him, "Do you think half of these people they are singing to are actually having birthdays? Of course they're not. Now I want our kids to get one of those place mats. In fact, I want two." When the waiter finally came over, she grinned and said that both of their kids were having birthdays that week and she wanted a signed place mat, a cupcake, and the singing like everyone else was getting. You could see the look of disbelief on the waiter's face. It was absolutely ridiculous that night. People have gotten so used to hearing about the pixie dust that WDW sometimes scatters, that people are now expecting it or even demanding it.

Lol...this happened to us at Ed Debevics, a kind-of touristy place here in Chicago. My son had become friendly with a waiter there because I'd take my son (who is an actor) to get a shake there after auditions and we'd always get this same waiter. He knew my son was an actor and they'd talk about that. So on my son's 10th birthday I took him there and we got this same waiter again. He did a bunch of special things, like give us these sundaes in these souvenir glasses. A lady next to us got mad and demanded LOUDLY the same treatment. She asked for a manager and of course got the free sundaes, etc, even though it was not her birthday.

We had it happen when we were posing with Mr & Mrs. Incredible at characterpalooza at HS...Mr. Incredible took a shine to us and ripped the velcro Incredibles sign off the podium and took a long time "posing" us and joking with us...a lady behind us looked at the character attendant and said, "We better get that same treatment!" Kind of kills the pixie dust when people demand it. Now, I do not think the OP is wrong and I feel bad for them since quite a few people here are being snotty toward the OP, but man entitlement stinks...and its always women guilty of it, sorry, but that is true.

 

[chigirl]

On a side note, I thought the purpose of these boards were to help others, not bash them. It probably makes a lot of people afraid to ask a question for fear of getting their heads bit off, and I find that pretty sad. I'm always seeing posts of people attacking others for their view points, and it's crazy. I see a lot of posts I don't agree with, some even make me angry, but I choose to not comment because I was always taught that if I didn't have anything nice to say, to not say anything at all.[/QUOTE]

I agree...I was flamed because I made a post that people shouldn't post political things here, in response to someone saying they were going to MNSSHP as an "overtaxed American". I sarcastically wrote, "You must not have been too overtaxed if you can afford a trip to Disney!" and I got some nasty posts that I was rude.

I've been on here for years, but people are really intense on here now. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but thee fighting and nastiness is insane...it is Disney, people! Calm down. I thought we were all here for our mutual love of all things WDW.

Plus, I have to say I hate this icon:
It is just so smart ast.

 

[*Fantasia*]

Totally agree! My father passed away when I was 17, so I was older than the nephew but it was and is still a painful thing to deal with. I had only ever been to WDW with my parents and I was 6 at the time. Returning with my DH 19 years later and only having memories of being there with my mom and dad was very emotional for me, and that was after 19 years!!! This little boy deserves any happiness he can get to brighten his day, especially since it'll be his birthday! She's a wonderful and caring aunt, that's obvious by the time and thought she's put into trying to make the vacation a happy one for the boy. OP, I think you're doing a wonderful thing. I hope your nephew has a wonderful time, and if Disney is able to do anything for him he will greatly appreciate it, even if he doesn't know it's because of your thoughtfulness.

On a side note, I thought the purpose of these boards were to help others, not bash them. It probably makes a lot of people afraid to ask a question for fear of getting their heads bit off, and I find that pretty sad. I'm always seeing posts of people attacking others for their view points, and it's crazy. I see a lot of posts I don't agree with, some even make me angry, but I choose to not comment because I was always taught that if I didn't have anything nice to say, to not say anything at all.

Agree!

To the OP... I'm sending you and your nephew some ~*Pixie Dust*~

 

[amberpi]

Sorry, but I still think that this is the child's mother's job, not the aunt's. She is stepping on the mother's toes on this one.

This.

 

[staceymarie]

This.

Wow-it just goes on and on! This is like a crazy circle!
I think the Aunt has been beaten up enough. Sheesh.

My husband says "no good deed goes unpunished"--I think that kind of applies here.