springandmac
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but haven't told my DH or DD13. Anybody have a good way to break the news?
I really don't want to go with either one of them but I feel guilty. (Side note: My dad used guilt to raise me, so I'm easily guilted into doing things that I don't want to do and often feel guilty for doing things that I shouldn't feel guilty about.)
A bit of history: Get out your
DH and I took DD13 for her 13th B-day last November, halfway through the trip I regretted bringing her and wanted to go home. Also during this trip DH spoke the blasphemous phrase "too much Disney" and not just one time but several times. This is when it became apparent to me that DH was not eat up with the dumb over Disney. For various reasons, the trip went so badly that I swore I would never do that again. But I just couldn't let it rest that a trip to Disney could go badly, so I planned a family vacation for June (another side note: DH and I got married 5 years ago and we each have a child from a previous marriage. I have DD13 and DH has a DS12. Unfortunately, our children view the step-parent as a neccesary evil. DD13 barely tolerates DH, DSS12 doesn't talk to me, unless I asked him a question and them it's one word answers) but I thought a Disney trip would overcome some these issues. I booked us a 2 bedroom villa at OKW (our previous trip we stayed in a studio), I allowed each child to invite a friend (our previous trip DD missed her friends and became extremely bored and snarky with me and DH). DD had no problem with finding a friend, her and her BFF are pretty much inseperable but DS couldn't find a friend who could go with us. (He did have a friend that was going to be at WDW some of the time we were and he met up with him and his family one day but that was a fiasco to say the least). Since DSS was friendless he clung to DH, he whined about the restaurants we ate at, he was too scared to ride the good rides (ToT, EE, RRC, etc) so he and DH would sit out (we didn't know about the chicken exit). I think he acted up on purpose just to spite me. Everyone knows I love all things Disney
and what better way to get even with me (his mom has convinced him that I'm evil and ruined her chances of reconciling with DH 
) than to ruin my trip!
Picture a grown women walking through the TTC, soaking wet in a Mickey poncho bawling because all she wanted to do was plan a nice vacation that her family would have fond memories of, not a pretty picture. I told DH that this would everyone's last trip to WDW and that from now on I would come by myself (I also may have added that since I bought the points I can do that).
He laughed and thought I was kidding. I mentioned it again when we got home and he said that he wanted to go and thought it would be fun if it was just us, no kids. I said that I would feel guilty not bringing DD.
Well the other day I was about to put out my new Mickey Halloween flag and DD declares that I'm a Disney Freak
and that she doesn't want to go to Disney anymore and that she's tired of it. 
One down, one to go. Of course, she could have just been having a teenager moment but too late now, she said it!
So after having a really bad week at work and the realization that I don't have any vacation plans until June 2008, I booked my first 5 day solo trip at SSR and BCV the week of January 6th. I thought the beginning of January would be good for me as I hate the holidays (probably because of my family issues) and my birthday is on January 4th so I thought a vacation would give me something to hold on to while I try and get through the holidays.
I'd just like some "me time" and there are certain things I want to do and see that DH and DD don't want to do but if I don't bring them I think I'll feel bad.
How do you solo-ers with family get over the guilt?
I really don't want to go with either one of them but I feel guilty. (Side note: My dad used guilt to raise me, so I'm easily guilted into doing things that I don't want to do and often feel guilty for doing things that I shouldn't feel guilty about.)
A bit of history: Get out your
DH and I took DD13 for her 13th B-day last November, halfway through the trip I regretted bringing her and wanted to go home. Also during this trip DH spoke the blasphemous phrase "too much Disney" and not just one time but several times. This is when it became apparent to me that DH was not eat up with the dumb over Disney. For various reasons, the trip went so badly that I swore I would never do that again. But I just couldn't let it rest that a trip to Disney could go badly, so I planned a family vacation for June (another side note: DH and I got married 5 years ago and we each have a child from a previous marriage. I have DD13 and DH has a DS12. Unfortunately, our children view the step-parent as a neccesary evil. DD13 barely tolerates DH, DSS12 doesn't talk to me, unless I asked him a question and them it's one word answers) but I thought a Disney trip would overcome some these issues. I booked us a 2 bedroom villa at OKW (our previous trip we stayed in a studio), I allowed each child to invite a friend (our previous trip DD missed her friends and became extremely bored and snarky with me and DH). DD had no problem with finding a friend, her and her BFF are pretty much inseperable but DS couldn't find a friend who could go with us. (He did have a friend that was going to be at WDW some of the time we were and he met up with him and his family one day but that was a fiasco to say the least). Since DSS was friendless he clung to DH, he whined about the restaurants we ate at, he was too scared to ride the good rides (ToT, EE, RRC, etc) so he and DH would sit out (we didn't know about the chicken exit). I think he acted up on purpose just to spite me. Everyone knows I love all things Disney
and what better way to get even with me (his mom has convinced him that I'm evil and ruined her chances of reconciling with DH ) than to ruin my trip! Picture a grown women walking through the TTC, soaking wet in a Mickey poncho bawling because all she wanted to do was plan a nice vacation that her family would have fond memories of, not a pretty picture. I told DH that this would everyone's last trip to WDW and that from now on I would come by myself (I also may have added that since I bought the points I can do that).
He laughed and thought I was kidding. I mentioned it again when we got home and he said that he wanted to go and thought it would be fun if it was just us, no kids. I said that I would feel guilty not bringing DD. Well the other day I was about to put out my new Mickey Halloween flag and DD declares that I'm a Disney Freak
and that she doesn't want to go to Disney anymore and that she's tired of it. One down, one to go. Of course, she could have just been having a teenager moment but too late now, she said it!So after having a really bad week at work and the realization that I don't have any vacation plans until June 2008, I booked my first 5 day solo trip at SSR and BCV the week of January 6th. I thought the beginning of January would be good for me as I hate the holidays (probably because of my family issues) and my birthday is on January 4th so I thought a vacation would give me something to hold on to while I try and get through the holidays.
I'd just like some "me time" and there are certain things I want to do and see that DH and DD don't want to do but if I don't bring them I think I'll feel bad.
How do you solo-ers with family get over the guilt?
