Sharing hotel beds

[mamagoose]

I have a question about how your families share the two beds when you stay at a hotel/ WDW resort. We have a son (12) and a daughter (9) and whenever we have gone on vacation, they have always shared a bed and never complained about it. I have a friend who thinks it is inappropriate for a brother and sister to share a bed under any circumstances and they always travel with a cot for one of their kids to use. I had never thought of this as being inappropriate, but when she mentioned her opinion, I started to wonder if this was something we should be moving away from now that our kids are getting older? For those of you who have one of each, what does your family do? Do you think it is inappropriate or do you think it is ok for them to continue sharing a hotel bed until they complain about it?

 

[tricia]

I had to share a bed with my brother who is 2 years younger to me until I was 17. Never seemed inappropriate to me, just a PITA. I now have 2 sons and they share a bed, but one moves a lot, so sometimes we bring an air mattress so there is less fighting.

 

[Janet Hill]

My kids boy (11) and girl (9) refuse to sleep together. So on the rare occassion we are in a hotel room, I sleep with daugher and dad sleeps with son. This is why we enjoy vacationing the timeshare way.

 

[christa112]

I don't think that is inappropriate but that is just me.

 

[drinkoj]

Your family dynamics are different from others, so if it has worked for you for years, keep doing it or just ask the children if they have a problem with it. They'll be honest with ya if you give them the cot or air matress option.

Two of my three DD will share a bed with each other at the drop of a hat, it's all about their comfort level.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

My son and daughter are about the same ages as your I don't see the big deal either.

 

[powellrj]

Once my DD and my DS started school, I started sleeping with my DD and my DS started sleeping with my DH.

Sorry, by that age I do think its inappropriate.

 

[snoopy5386]

I don't think it is weird, I shared hotel beds with my same aged boy cousins growing up. One of us would sleep under the sheet and the other between the sheet and the blanket because yuck! we wouldn't want to actually touch each other LOL! Now knowing what I know about hotel blankets it is a different story. I think with mom and dad in the next bed like 2 feet away it is not a big deal. But I would probably ask your son how he feels about it before you go on your next trip. He is getting near puberty and I could see how mortifying it would be to have a stiffy or a wet dream with your little sister in the bed with you.

 

[Belle5]

My older boys refuse to even sleep in a hotel bed with each other (Even if it's a king bed). One takes the bed and the other the floor.

I would think at some point the brother/sister might not like the idea of sleeping with the other and one would take the floor. They will probably do it in their own time.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't think it is innappropriate. They are laying down sleeping. They are not engaging in anything wrong. They are sleeping. What if the whole family decided to camp out on the living room floor? Isn't that the same thing? I don't have any issue with it.

 

[roscoepc1]

I'd ask them if they mind. Go with how they feel about it. It's not innappropriate, UNLESS there's creepy stuff in their pasts, which it sounds like there isn't.

Just for comfort's sake, and having a bit more room, one kid sleeps with dh, and one with me....double beds aren't that big, and it gives the two adults a tiny bit more "elbow room" to do it that way.

 

[wishtdream]

They will tell you when it is no longer acceptable. At that time I would abide by their wishes.

 

[bgirl29]

I wouldn't worry about it until the children decide to worry about it. I do not think it is inappropriate. I bet in a few more years your son will let you know that he no longer is comfortable sharing a bed with little sister. Then I would be bringing along an air mattress.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

I have found that DD16 and DS13 would prefer not to share a bed and split nights on the cot. (we just asked for one when we checked in) We stayed at Pop and if you move one of the beds up against the wall there is more than enough room for the cot. While I don't think it is a terrible thing to have them sleep on the same bed, you need to consider their feelings and what they prefer. For the 1st. night the cot hadn't arrived and DS slept on the floor. It is around $10.00 per night.

 

[disneybridetobe]

I don't see a problem with it. Of course I'm an only child and don't fully get the sibling thing, but for the most part it seems that brothers and sisters are grossed out by each other! If they're ok with it, whats the big deal?

 

[txloopnlil]

I wouldn't think it inappropriate, but as other posters have said, the kids are the ones to make the decision of when it is uncomfortable for them.

 

[LisaNJ25]

I have no problem with it.. My now 16yo and 9yo have done it plenty of times.

 

[pednurse]

DS shares a bed with DH. DD shares a bed with me. That way there has never been a need to explain a change in sleeping arrangements as they've grown older. (They are now 11, and almost 7.) And by the time they are school-aged, I do feel that having kids of different genders sharing a bed is inappropriate. Not that the majority of children would ever have a problem, but why risk it?

 

[stmize]

My kids are the same age and up until the last 2 yrs or so they shared a bed but once my ds started changing we then started bringing an air mattress for my ds. He actually thinks it is more comfortable than the bed.

 

[tracyncj]

I've been wondering about this myself. We are traveling with DD9 and DN11 in August. I am not concerned that anything inappropriate would happen, I just don't want him to be embarrassed if anything umm...personal...happens during the night. For that reason we'll have a boys bed and a girls bed. Sleeping with DD is like sleeping with an anxious Ninja, so I see Tylenol PM in my future!