Sex offender 3 houses away

[MoniqueU]

I agree that we don't need the law to cover consensual sex of a 19 year old and 17 year old, Now we know. I did google but I don't lknow the guys name and nothing came up with someone on our street. I will look for a van outside from now on and be extra careful about locking my door as the neighbor acrossed the street had seen my almost 13 year old out sometimes. I AM GLAD SOMEONE told me and I can take extra precautions and keep my youngest in the house. She is almost at taht age where she won't want to be outside but it isn't that big of a deal to tell her to just come inside.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

I agree that we don't need the law to cover consensual sex of a 19 year old and 17 year old, Now we know. I did google but I don't lknow the guys name and nothing came up with someone on our street. I will look for a van outside from now on and be extra careful about locking my door as the neighbor acrossed the street had seen my almost 13 year old out sometimes. I AM GLAD SOMEONE told me and I can take extra precautions and keep my youngest in the house. She is almost at taht age where she won't want to be outside but it isn't that big of a deal to tell her to just come inside.

If they don't come up on your street, they may not be listed for some reason and then I would wonder how the neighbor knows and if it's the truth.

 

[AshleyW]

I agree that we don't need the law to cover consensual sex of a 19 year old and 17 year old, Now we know. I did google but I don't lknow the guys name and nothing came up with someone on our street. I will look for a van outside from now on and be extra careful about locking my door as the neighbor acrossed the street had seen my almost 13 year old out sometimes. I AM GLAD SOMEONE told me and I can take extra precautions and keep my youngest in the house. She is almost at taht age where she won't want to be outside but it isn't that big of a deal to tell her to just come inside.

If you call the non-emergency number for the police department, they should be able to tell you if this guy is a sex offender, and if not, they should be able to provide you with a phone number of someone you can call to find out for sure what he did.

 

[Trixieplus2]

I'm not a fan of Megan's Law websites because I think it gives parents a false sense of security. You need to be vigilant with your child in teaching them to protect themselves, and YOU need to be vigilant in watching them.

When I was involved in Little League and we started criminal background checks, we had sexual assault detective speak to our board of directors.
He said two things that startled me. Over half the under age victims are assaulted by a relative. And over half the under age victims are assaulted by someone with absolutely no criminal report, not even a parking ticket.
Certainly made me conclude that I should never let my guard down in protecting my children.

Also those sensational,horrific kidnapping where a guy sits in a van looking fir his lost puppy handing out candy are so few and far between that it is ridiculous.

Anyone ever notice the offender is always "a wonderful ,great,pillar of the community type person!!!

And statistically speaking child molesters almost always are close friends or family members that you trust enough to leave alone with your child.

I was raped as a child (molestation escalated to rape) by my great uncle that was a war veteran,a preacher for the church of the Nazarene,my free babysitter as well as a member of his community's security watch program.

These people groom their victims, befriend them, earn their trust and then use that to control them and violate them.

 

[DizBelle]

Also those sensational,horrific kidnapping where a guy sits in a van looking fir his lost puppy handing out candy are so few and far between that it is ridiculous.

Anyone ever notice the offender is always "a wonderful ,great,pillar of the community type person!!!

And statistically speaking child molesters almost always are close friends or family members that you trust enough to leave alone with your child.

I was raped as a child (molestation escalated to rape) by my great uncle that was a war veteran,a preacher for the church of the Nazarene,my free babysitter as well as a member of his community's security watch program.

These people groom their victims, befriend them, earn their trust and then use that to control them and violate them.

 

[mamamary]

We had one exactly 3 doors down from us. He was a 17 year old accused of raping a 5 year old over a certain time period I was able to follow up on him online but then it somehow got put into juv. court instead of adult and then the records didn't seem to be public anymore. I was unaware of the outcome because a few months later the family moved I'm telling you we were all so glad to see them gone. I have tried looking it up to see whatever happened but I can't come across anything. I do know though that I watched my kids very carefully (actually extra carefully because I always watched them) during those few months he lived there.

 

[sbell111]

I guess the only comfort we have (and it is small to be sure) is that we KNOW about these offenders. We KNOW where they live and what they did. There are alot more out there we probably don't know anything about.

On the other hand, it pays to be concerned about the sex offenders that you are not aware of, also. If you are being vigilant against the unknown ones, the known ones won't get a chance to do anything.

 

[princessmom29]

O personally don't get all the hoopla about registries. The overwhelming majority of these crimes are nto commitend by stangers, but by people known to the children and thier parents well enough for the child to be left in their care. Registries are not going to help you there. I would rather teach my child how to be street smart, and vocal when anyone makes her uncomfortable, no matter the reason. Kids who speak up don't generally aren't good targets for molsetors. It's the ones who wont tell.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

We have a Level 3 4 doors down and across the street. I admit, as a mom of 3 young girls, I don't like it. However, my DH pointed out to me that he was one that was caught and one being monitored. There are many more who have not been caught living everywhere. You have to teach your kids to be careful but not paranoid. Mine know they are not allowed to be outside without a buddy. My oldest who is 16 has to walk past the house every day. She keeps her house key around her finger in case she needed to hit someone off (in the eyes) and has a very loud wistle that is always in her other pocket. She has to walk past the house, but she passes a lot of houses on the way home, not just his. I have her do this anytime she is walking alone. Just to be careful.

 

[JessicaR]

to make room for non violent drug offenders

Thats the way I think too. So screwed up.

 

[Green Tea]

I agree that we don't need the law to cover consensual sex of a 19 year old and 17 year old, Now we know. I did google but I don't lknow the guys name and nothing came up with someone on our street. I will look for a van outside from now on and be extra careful about locking my door as the neighbor acrossed the street had seen my almost 13 year old out sometimes. I AM GLAD SOMEONE told me and I can take extra precautions and keep my youngest in the house. She is almost at taht age where she won't want to be outside but it isn't that big of a deal to tell her to just come inside.

How well do you know the neighbor that came to tell you? For the person you are eyeing to not be on a list, Google turns up nothing, you have police on your street all the time........could it be your neighbor that is the one being watched she he/she is trying to deflect onto some random person.?

 

[nathalee81]

On the other hand, it pays to be concerned about the sex offenders that you are not aware of, also. If you are being vigilant against the unknown ones, the known ones won't get a chance to do anything.

That is what I meant, sorry I didn't phrase it right. We do know about the ones on the registry, but there are hundreds (thousands?) out there that aren't on the registry that are just as (if not more so) dangerous.
You are totally right about being vigilant about the unknown ones.

 

[Inigo]

I was raped as a child (molestation escalated to rape)

These people groom their victims, befriend them, earn their trust and then use that to control them and violate them.

The sex offenders I know can be some of the nicest people you'd ever talk to. I've been in their homes and have talked to them while they're in our office for their appointments with their probation officer. The assessment tools we use to classify offenders as low, medium, or high risk for recidivism usually shows sex offenders are a low risk to re-offend. It doesn't mean they're a low risk. It just means the standard assessment tools doesn't accurately rate these offenders. A lot of the reason these tools aren't accurate is because the sex offenders are so good at schmoozing people, which is what most did to their victims. There are specific tools that are more accurate for sex offenders, such as the ERASOR, but they still aren't a guarantee that the results are accurate.

I almost got the sex offender specialist probation officer position. I am so glad I got the juvenile job instead, although I do get assigned some juvenile sex offenders. And I don't mean the 17 year old who had sex with their 16 year old girlfriend. I have offenders who gave or got oral sex from a younger child, or who sodomized a younger child.

We had a hearing yesterday in Court to determine if a 16 year old male should be put on the registry. He has been to an intensive in-patient program for adolescent sex offenders. He was released and went back home where he again molested his younger sister. This time he went to the Dept of Corrections to a juvenile offender facility...in other words, juvenile prison. He needs to be on the registry.

The sad part is that his parents argued in Court yesterday for him not to be on the registry, and for him to be allowed to live in the family home. The same home where his younger sister/victim still resides. The same home where he molested her after being released from an intensive in-patient program, with the same parents who obviously failed to monitor him, allowing him access to his victim/sister.

I feel sorry for the little sister. Her parents are obviously willing to allow him free access to her.

 

[LukenDC]

now an adult and she was still a minor. The thing of it is, she was coming to his house for sex. When he gets out of prison he'll have to register as a sex offender, for the rest of his life.

That is so wrong. I support the sex offender registries and check all prospective employees for sex crimes as part of a background search (I'm an HR director). Sex crime registries are serious business and a valuable public service. But to require people convicted of consensual sex as teens to register as sex offenders for the rest of their lives is just wrong.

 

[bumbershoot]

Trixieplus2



OP, I would try to see if this is really true, just like many here have said. It's just gossip right now, and gossip you're not able to verify.

While vigilance is good, going to extremes based on unverified gossip doesn't seem right.


I swear I'm going to monitor the age of DS's future girlfriends...make sure that their birthdays are almost exactly at the same time, and take him on a long vacation between his 18th and her 18th birthday, just to make sure no one does any funny business that could send him to prison.

 

[MoniqueU]

Well I have calmed down a bit today, The rreality is my youngest doesn't spen that much time out and about. The one girl that comes over is down the street on the other side of my corner house and by 3 houses. Her house can't be seen by whoever this is. The other one that my dd spends time with is around the conrner and goes by the man in question but her mom is more of a normal thinking person then the other girls mom and will call to make sure I am meeting her daughter at the corner. My youngest DD someimes is out on the pourch gsissipping with other girls that come over. So it isn't like she is biking or roaming all over the neighborhood. We don't have bussing here so there is no reason to be waiting in the neighborhood for a bus where she might not be close enough to home or be out there waiting by herself. I have lost a son and that has stuck with me to the point I am obsessed with my kids safety and wherabouts at all time. Se unless this guy snaps and breaks into our home I think it may be ok. It is just disgusting and we feel violated. If this is just a case of underage sex I don't care or urinating in pubic but it sounds more then that.Most pedeophiles while knowing right from wrong can't seem to control their urges and often their behavior escalates., All in all I am glad i was let know but it is unnerving.

 

[scrapquitler]

I mean why would someone like that EVER get out and be allowed to live within a mile of schools???

Well firstly, not all offense are against CHILDREN.

 

[WDSearcher]

I agree that we don't need the law to cover consensual sex of a 19 year old and 17 year old, Now we know. I did google but I don't lknow the guys name and nothing came up with someone on our street. I will look for a van outside from now on and be extra careful about locking my door as the neighbor acrossed the street had seen my almost 13 year old out sometimes. I AM GLAD SOMEONE told me and I can take extra precautions and keep my youngest in the house. She is almost at taht age where she won't want to be outside but it isn't that big of a deal to tell her to just come inside.

What if what SOMEONE TOLD YOU is wrong? You can't find the address on the sex offender site. You can't find anything that comes up on your street. You heard that "apparently" there is an unmarked police car in front of your house. Yet you know none of this to be true because none of it has been validated. It's a rumor, nothing more. You should be taking reasonable precautions anyway, as everyone should. But to get all freaked out about something about which you have NO PROOF is kind of over-doing it, IMO. You're pulling your child off the street without even knowing why.

 

[NY Disney fan]

Another reminder: If your child is invited to a birthday party or sleep over at someone's house, check to see if a sex offender lives in the house. This happened to one DISer, I remember.

 

[msjprincess]

What if what SOMEONE TOLD YOU is wrong? You can't find the address on the sex offender site. You can't find anything that comes up on your street. You heard that "apparently" there is an unmarked police car in front of your house. Yet you know none of this to be true because none of it has been validated. It's a rumor, nothing more. You should be taking reasonable precautions anyway, as everyone should. But to get all freaked out about something about which you have NO PROOF is kind of over-doing it, IMO. You're pulling your child off the street without even knowing why.

ITA. Taking precautions is one thing but it sounds like the OP is saying she won't let her kids outside at all anymore. That to me is taking it too far especially since no one knows the true story.