Separate bedrooms

[HOGFAN]

Ditto what KimR said. We are in the same boat except my DH's legs also shake all night(every 20 sec) Try sleeping thru that plus the snoring!

 

[Steamboat Marti]

A friend of mine has seperate bedrooms and was worried when I found out that I would think it was weird. Weird - NO; heaven - YES!

 

[pearlieq]

I think that I'm absolutely not entitled to an opinion on how other people choose to sleep...

 

[2BigKIdz]

I used to think it was odd when I heard of married couples having separate bedrooms, until I started working the same shift as my husband and tried to sleep at the same time he was sleeping! Now I completely understand. If I get to sleep before he does, I can sleep fine, but if he starts his snoring before I can get to sleep, I have to sleep on the couch.

 

[disneychrista]

Do what works for you, is my opinion. In the end it really doesn't matter what anyone other then the two involved think.

 

[Michie]

I think that I'm absolutely not entitled to an opinion on how other people choose to sleep...

My DH has sleep apnea. For years I endured elbows to the kidneys, ribs, he once broke my nose, always had bruises. After being so sleep deprived I once even feel asleep driving. That was the breaking point. Told him different bedrooms or or else I actually have a dentist chair in my room.And my DH's life is no longer at risk when he sleeps

 

[Planogirl]

There are plenty of people who sleep in separate bedrooms and you're looking at one. My DH had everything medically done that anyone could think of to stop the snoring but nothing worked. Neither one of us were sleeping between his snoring waking me up and me waking him up to complain, so we finally gave up.

I can see him when I'm awake, I don't need to see him while I'm sleeping.

 

[nwdisgal]

I know if I was married to someone who snored, I would be sleeping in a separate bedroom. I say "Go for it" with the separate bedrooms - especially when it prevents sleep deprivation.

 

[graygables]

If it weren't for the fact that the GOOD mattress is in the master, I'd sleep in a seperate room. I stay up late every night, so I know I disturb DH when I go into bed, then he's all cuddly or touching me all night long and I HATE that!!! Leave me alone and let me sleep...I came to bed for a reason: I'm TIRED!!!

I did buy 2 twin mattresses this last time, but we have them joined as a king. I've already decided that when DDs move out, I'm moving into my office and turning *their* rooms into guest rooms!

 

[Jackie0824]

Id say if it works for them, then why not. Why have one person miserable night after night. Heck, if we had an extra spare bedroom, Id LOVE to have my own room.

 

[princesspumpkin]

If the spouses don't have a problem with it, then neither do I.

Plus, they can "visit" each other when they want to.

My sentiments exactly. But then again, DH and I work opposite shifts a few days of the week so I guess I have the best of both worlds.

 

[crz4mm2]

I would LOVE to have separate bedrooms. He snores. If we had an extra bedroom I would He could have visitation rights

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well in my next house I want 2 master suites downstairs for my "old age".

As you get older sleep is important to function and sometimes you have a "bad night". It would be nice to have a suite to go to so you would let the other spouse sleep in comfort.

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm one the separate bedroom sleepers!!! I have sleep issues to begin with (started with the 'big change'!!) Then dh's snoring got progressively worse. Until I started just leaving in the middle of the night and going to the guest room. I am on Ambien for sleeping and don't like to take it every night. Dh did go to many doctors to find out why he snores. Seems he had a deviated septum but they aren't sure if the surgery will cure it and is not covered by insurance. No sleep apnea at all. So, he decided that since he keeps his clothes in the guest room bureau and closet (he is up at 5 and out of the house by 5:30) he might just as well sleep there every other night. It is working great for us. Now his question at night is..."Am I in in the big boy bed tonight??" It might not work for some but for us, it's heavenly. In fact, some of my girl friends are quite jealous!!!

 

[Serena]

I know for a long time I needed a seperate bedroom. I couldn't sleep with his snoring and the couch was not comfortable at all. I was very cranky.

 

[poohlover]

ALL WIVES OF SNORING HUSBANDS have them tested for sleep apnea!!

I have put up with my DH's snoring for years!!! I am an RN, I have told him for years that he MUST have sleep apnea...he was just tested 2 nights ago in a local clinic, and yes...I was RIGHT!

Now we have to get used to the "darth vader" mask & sound...but he feels a WHOLE lot better in the morns.

There were MANY nights that I ended up on the couch or in a kids room due to his snoring. I had to deal with kids & such the next day...I needed sleep too!! I see nothing wrong with it.

BUT BE SURE IT ISN'T CAUSED BY A MEDICAL CONDITION

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would do whatever I could to not use different bedrooms. Saves on sheets too.

 

[helenabear]

Depends... sometimes it works out when you are trying to fix the problem like snoring. Sometimes it take a while to get that all straightened out.

What I don't get are the people who aren't attempting to fix what the underlying problem is. I think after a while it becomes a crutch. There are a few families I know that just try one thing and give up then go back. They also are the ones who say they won't be intimate for other "strange" reasons.

My husband likes it cold... I freeze at night... I just add lots of blankets & throws.

Not saying all who sleep apart don't have good reasons. I just don't know about those that do it with excuses that *could* be fixed!

 

[NMAmy]

If it works for others,that's fine. I prefer to sleep with DH even though he does snore and is up a lot at night. I grew up with my mom snoring right across the hall and I have no problem tuning it out.

I remember thinking it so odd as a child that my grandparents slept in separate beds. My IL's have separate bedrooms because his dad snores. I guess a lot of people do it and I can certainly understand why. I'm just grateful that I can tune stuff like that out--which is weird, I'm a fairly light sleeper but I have no trouble going right back to sleep.

 

[Chattyaholic]

DH and I have slept in separate bedrooms for several years now. We both snore, although DH sleeps through more stuff than I do as I'm a very light sleeper.

Doesn't mean we don't have a good marriage or that we don't love each other. We've been happily married 30+ years.

We both enjoy having a bed to ourselves, no one is hogging the covers, etc.

In hotels if we sleep together we each worry about turning over and waking the other so we try not to move much. If the room has two beds, we each sleep in one and get a better night's sleep that way.

I've heard so many times elderly women say when their spouse passed away it was so hard to get used to sleeping alone. Well, that is one thing I won't have to deal with when the time comes, or vice versa if I go first.

Another nice thing of separate bedrooms, DH likes to go to sleep with the TV on. I don't. This way we're both happy. Or, if I wake up during the night and can't get back to sleep I can turn the light on and read awhile without worrying about disturbing DH.