So Sorry I haven't updated sooner, but I am having some computer issues. Looks like the laptop finally died and we'll need a new one. Regardless I still wanted to update everyone on the sister and disney situation. If you have no idea what I am talking about, the thread is Am I being selfish (sorry i have no idea how to link it using my friends computer.)
I never really got to have a good discussion with her about the trip. She never spent another night at my house and spent the last three days moving out. She feels that we are being selfish and mean and she doesn't want to be around our negative energy.
I tried to work things out with her but she has no interest. She said it's not fair that we are going before her. I explained that in some ways people could say it's unfair I have to wait and she said to stop being so self centered. It was at this point that I explained, I offered to take Jayda. I offered to move our trip to a move inconvenient time, you weren't interested in either option. That's on you. You certainly didn't refrain from going to the beach this summer even though you knew we weren't able to afford it this year. She responded with UMMMM excuse me but I think I deserve to have some fun and it's none of your business what I do with my money. To which I responded and it's none of yours what I do with mine and we really haven't spoken much since.
So thats where we left it. Dh did give her a bill for damage to the carpet that her cat did. It was more symbolic because we know she'll never pay it. I think he just wanted to make a little jab.. did i mention that she has no money but last time she was at the house i noticed that she got the new tony hawk sidekick ( cell phone t-mobile) even with an upgrade, which she's not even eligible for, they run about $350. Guess disney isn't that big a deal.
Thanks for listening, and hopefully I'll be around soon. We are going to look at new computers tomorrow.
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Just read the rest of the posts from the other thread. Thought I would add I am taking two kids under the age of 2 because I HAVE ( or will have at the time) two kids under the age of two. The alternative is waiting till my youngest is 4 and making my daughter 13? umm no. Not taking my two youngest children? umm no. I spend everyday with all my kids. Alone while dh works, we go out in the pool, we grocery shop, we go out to the lake (granted it is behind the house but we go there lol), we visit my grandmother, go shopping, go to restaurants.... the point is, my life includes me being the mother to four kids and soon enough five (For six months I have been the mom to five) Why not let them enjoy the magic of disney?
And I think I have proven that I am not hurting my sister. She filed for divorce, her decision, and it was a long time coming and she certainly isn't still in love with her horrible ex, hence the new bf. She's moved on. If she was solely upset because of Jayda then she should have said I could take her.
I never really got to have a good discussion with her about the trip. She never spent another night at my house and spent the last three days moving out. She feels that we are being selfish and mean and she doesn't want to be around our negative energy.
I tried to work things out with her but she has no interest. She said it's not fair that we are going before her. I explained that in some ways people could say it's unfair I have to wait and she said to stop being so self centered. It was at this point that I explained, I offered to take Jayda. I offered to move our trip to a move inconvenient time, you weren't interested in either option. That's on you. You certainly didn't refrain from going to the beach this summer even though you knew we weren't able to afford it this year. She responded with UMMMM excuse me but I think I deserve to have some fun and it's none of your business what I do with my money. To which I responded and it's none of yours what I do with mine and we really haven't spoken much since.
So thats where we left it. Dh did give her a bill for damage to the carpet that her cat did. It was more symbolic because we know she'll never pay it. I think he just wanted to make a little jab.. did i mention that she has no money but last time she was at the house i noticed that she got the new tony hawk sidekick ( cell phone t-mobile) even with an upgrade, which she's not even eligible for, they run about $350. Guess disney isn't that big a deal.
Thanks for listening, and hopefully I'll be around soon. We are going to look at new computers tomorrow.
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Just read the rest of the posts from the other thread. Thought I would add I am taking two kids under the age of 2 because I HAVE ( or will have at the time) two kids under the age of two. The alternative is waiting till my youngest is 4 and making my daughter 13? umm no. Not taking my two youngest children? umm no. I spend everyday with all my kids. Alone while dh works, we go out in the pool, we grocery shop, we go out to the lake (granted it is behind the house but we go there lol), we visit my grandmother, go shopping, go to restaurants.... the point is, my life includes me being the mother to four kids and soon enough five (For six months I have been the mom to five) Why not let them enjoy the magic of disney?
And I think I have proven that I am not hurting my sister. She filed for divorce, her decision, and it was a long time coming and she certainly isn't still in love with her horrible ex, hence the new bf. She's moved on. If she was solely upset because of Jayda then she should have said I could take her.
I have been thinking about you the past couple of days and am so glad I found your follow up. I am glad that she has moved on and is doing her own thing. It is very sad when someone is a "taker" all the time. I think/hope the distance will be positive for the both of you. Now if we could just work on your mother
(I think you had problems with her criticizing sp?)......but alas that would be another thread.
(and as a mom of 4, I see nothing wrong with taking 2 under the age of 2....what's wrong with that?????).
