There was a really great article yesterday on The DIS, and I thought it was worth bumping this thread to add it to the discussion.
http://www.wdwinfo.com/walt-disney-world/why-the-message-of-happily-ever-after-is-so-important/
Although I truly enjoyed the show Wishes (and it's amazing opening theme song, pacing, and energy), I completely agree with the author, Philip Schoen.
Happily Ever After is a far better message for kids. Even as a child, I was a bit cynical about the premise that: "when you wish upon a star, makes no difference who you are, anything your heart desires will come to you." First of all, it's not true. It's a lie. It's an appealing lie that is suitable for a fantasy world, but passive wishing doesn't solve the heady problems when life is hard or when you want to achieve something of importance.
Just to quote one section of this excellent article, which is well worth reading (emphasis below, mine):
The message of ‘Wishes’ was rather obvious and had Jiminy there to guide you – “wishes can come true, if you believe in them with all your heart”. This is a nice thought – but implies that all you need to do is believe in your dreams and they will come true. In ‘Happily Ever After’, while the narration is only at the beginning and the end, we do get a very clear message – and a very powerful one at that. It’s great to have a dream – but that dream (or wish) isn’t enough on it’s own. As the narrator says: “that dream will lead us on a journey to discover who we’re meant to be.”
The show then takes us on the journeys experienced by many of our favorite Disney characters – including when they face adversity which needs to be overcome to achieve their “happily ever after.”
That is a message I hope my daughter takes with her. It’s great to have dreams and to make wishes, but rather than just saying “someday my prince will come”, I want her to do as the narrator asks and be “brave enough to listen, and bold enough to pursue.”