School dress code vent

[Debbie7452]

Plaid flannel shirts can be considered gang attire. Ex: Crips wear blue flannel shirts. I think its a bit dated though. Probably meant more in the 90's than now.

My DH wears flannel (in winter), maybe he's in a gang??

 

[Mermaid02]

Then how the heck are you supposed to know they're banned at a particular school? I'm confused.

In my experience, you get sent to see the Vice Principal. and NOW we know!

 

[Mermaid02]

My DH wears flannel (in winter), maybe he's in a gang??

My father in law too- I think it's the LumberJack Wannabe gang.......

 

[jrmasm]

In my experience, you get sent to see the Vice Principal. and NOW we know!

That's B.S.

I might have to ask them to put it in writing.

 

[Mermaid02]

That's B.S.

I might have to ask them to put it in writing.

I could, but I'm inclined to let it go. My son has some special needs and I really need to have a good relationship with the administration.

Besides this is Maine and in a week it will probably snow and he wouldn't want to wear them anyway.

 

[sbell111]

No offense, but school policy or not, I'm not sure sandals are ever proper attire for school. Just me, and I do sincerely mean no offense.

 

[TheZue]

Plaid flannel shirts can be considered gang attire. Ex: Crips wear blue flannel shirts. I think its a bit dated though. Probably meant more in the 90's than now.

In the 90s it was more of a grunge thing from what I remember. EVERYONE at my school had flannal that didn't fit, jeans that were six sizes too big, and doc martens lol, the way kids wear it now looks much much nicer.

I could, but I'm inclined to let it go. My son has some special needs and I really need to have a good relationship with the administration.

Besides this is Maine and in a week it will probably snow and he wouldn't want to wear them anyway.

I just don't get why they couldn't send a not home instead of summoning you to bring shoes RIGHT NOW.

 

[scrapquitler]

I just don't get why they couldn't send a not home instead of summoning you to bring shoes RIGHT NOW.

I think the idea is to inconvenience the parents so that the parent will read the student the riot act at home that night. Then they hope it won't happen again.

If they just sent a note, who knows if the parent would ever get it, and then the kid would be walking around in violation of the dress code all day. If they show up again in the evil flip flops the next day, wait to send a note home again, lather, rinse, repeat.

 

[minniebeth]

I think the idea is to inconvenience the parents so that the parent will read the student the riot act at home that night. Then they hope it won't happen again.

If they just sent a note, who knows if the parent would ever get it, and then the kid would be walking around in violation of the dress code all day. If they show up again in the evil flip flops the next day, wait to send a note home again, lather, rinse, repeat.

Bingo...

 

[Mermaid02]

I think the idea is to inconvenience the parents so that the parent will read the student the riot act at home that night. Then they hope it won't happen again.

If they just sent a note, who knows if the parent would ever get it, and then the kid would be walking around in violation of the dress code all day. If they show up again in the evil flip flops the next day, wait to send a note home again, lather, rinse, repeat.

My son actually did call me back and say he could finish the day with the sandals but at that point I was already pulling into the school driveway.

 

[tvguy]

Why not, it is school, HIgh school. What is the big deal. THis isn't corporate america, these kids are going to classes, dressing out for gym no big deal.

Our high schoolers are allowed flip flops, all other grades must have straps.

Well, probably because I'd be afraid of getting hurt from being stepped on. I just remember the crush of kids in the halls during passing time between classes.....it hurt enough with closed toe shoes when I got stepped on.

 

[okeydokey]

Then how the heck are you supposed to know they're banned at a particular school? I'm confused.

Well, now she knows.

 

[goofy!]

That's crazy, if they don't want them say no but until they did come out and say NO I would let him wear them. They are allowed in our High school. at the elementary level they aren't. I was told at the elementary level they are a hazard during fire drills going down the stairs- that is the only reason.

Heck I saw kids with flip flops on when it was -10 last winter at the high school.

That is the way our district is. Flip Flops, rubber or leather, are allowed from pre-school up through high school and kids wear them year round.

Heck, 90% of the teachers in my school (elementary) had flip flops on today.

Can't say we have ever had anybody hurt due to their flip flops. Our district is pretty anal about safety rules and flip flops are not even on their radar.

Kids do have to dress out for PE, including sneakers, but kids just keep those in their gym lockers. In the younger grades, they just have their sneakers in their backpacks.

But then again, I agree it must be a regional thing as I live in the land of adults shorts and Birkenstocks (although more flip flops now) year round and in the town where Crocs were invented - so kids and teachers in flip flops are not a far stretch.

If you do mani/pedi's - there is a great market here.

 

[jrmasm]

Well, now she knows.

I'm confused. Do you think it's ok that the OP didn't know the unwritten rule until her son was in trouble?

 

[traviesojmt]

Our kids are allowed to wear flip flops or sandals, but they have to wear tennis shoes for gym class. I am not big on having to pack extra shoes for my DD7 so she tends to only wear tennis shoes to school. My DS, 8th grade, wore his flip flops probably one time before he got tired to having to remember to bring the extra pair of shoes. It is just easier to wear his tennis shoes. There are plenty of middle and high schoolers that do wear flip flops and sandals and just change shoes for gym.

I do think that the school should send home an amendment if they have changes not in the handbook. How would you know otherwise?

 

[tvguy]

My son's high school (Catholic) had a rule that boys had to be clean shaved.
He is cursed with my heavy and fast beard growth. Oh, and as a teen, with acne. One teacher in the afternoon sent him to the dean of students office twice (they would sell you a disposable razor and shaving cream for a $1) to shave. He was clean shaven at 7 am when he left for school, but by 2 pm he had stubble. And shaving twice a day with acne was destroying his skin.
So I told him to stop by the office the third day before school, and ask the dean to verify he arrived clean shave, and ask the dean to send an e-mail to that teacher noting that. Never an issue again.

 

[wgwtgb]

My son's high school (Catholic) had a rule that boys had to be clean shaved.
He is cursed with my heavy and fast beard growth. Oh, and as a teen, with acne. One teacher in the afternoon sent him to the dean of students office twice (they would sell you a disposable razor and shaving cream for a $1) to shave. He was clean shaven at 7 am when he left for school, but by 2 pm he had stubble. And shaving twice a day with acne was destroying his skin.
So I told him to stop by the office the third day before school, and ask the dean to verify he arrived clean shave, and ask the dean to send an e-mail to that teacher noting that. Never an issue again.

How horrible for your son to have to put up with that!!! Not like he could help it!!!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well if they meant "dont wear it" then that's what they should have written!!!

I concur. Their handbook allows flexibility via the language they used.

Parents are not mindreaders. No means no.

The handbook doesn't say "no". It says--we don't want you to, but we'll let you anyway...by the use of the words "strongly discouraged".

Debating whether or not the shoe choice was appropriate or what other parents would have done is moot.