Saying Good-Bye

[verticalchaos]

I just wanted to let people know (since I have been on several different threads) that I'm going to pull out of this board.

Overall it's been good, and I've gotten some good advice, but for me it's just coming across as way too much pressure to do in-person meets, meals, etc. For me, it's just not who I am to suddenly be all chummy with people I've only interacted with online, and whether it's intended or not, it does feel like pressure. I don't think this kind of place is good for someone who's more introverted.

It seems to work for a lot of people, and that's fine. It's just not for me to do all of that, and I feel weird being on here and NOT wanting to meet up and wear lime green and all that.

So...thanks for the advice and all...

But good-bye.

 

[Sarah_Rose]

Wow... that's... something.

I find it highly ironic that you felt the need to start your own thread to tell all those people that you don't care about and don't want to hang out with that you're leaving. Narcissism at it's finest.

Good luck to you in your future races.

 

[hotblooded]

This thread is ridiculous.

 

[jmasgat]

Whoa, people. Remember, we should all be civil.

So....people come and go on this board. It's natural. I have been on the board for 3 yrs, and have seen ebbs and flows. It's good that people can come here, find what they need, for as long as they need, and then move on, if that's what they feel they need to do.

I can also say that I am by nature an introvert, and it was a bit scary to join a group of people I didn't know. So I understand what Beth is saying.

So, Beth, good luck with your running and thanks for your contributions to the board while you've been here.

Maura

 

[Sarah_Rose]

So....people come and go on this board. It's natural. I have been on the board for 3 yrs, and have seen ebbs and flows. It's good that people can come here, find what they need, for as long as they need, and then move on, if that's what they feel they need to do.

I've only been posting here for 2.5 years (but lurked for a fair time before that) but this is the first time I've seen a "hair flip" thread posted... goodbye posts on threads that they frequented, plenty, but never a full thread.

Ok, and I'm done.

 

[rubato]

I'm going to try really hard to word this properly:

Beth: This type of environment is not for everyone, so, since you aren't happy, I wish you luck with whatever you choose. I'm glad you have gotten some good advice, and, maybe you can just use the board for that from now on. I am not introverted (at all), and still felt a little shy and out of place at the marathon weekend meet. But, I quickly got over it because everyone was so nice. These people have 2 things in common: Disney and running. That's it. So, for some of us, it's fun to find out what else we all have in common by being on a team. It's also fun to put a face to a name, since we share so much of ourselves here. Again, not for everyone. I have never seen it written anywhere that someone HAS to go to a meet. Just because your team is having one, doesn't mean they will be upset with you if you don't go.

I do think it's a little grandiose to start the thread and to sound so negative, but if that's the way you handle things, that's ok, I guess. Anyway, I hope your running continues to go well.

 

[tmbacon]

Good luck to you Beth, hope you continue with running and that you find the 'groove' that works best for you.

 

[johde]

Sorry to see you go. Just because you feel the need to step back, don't be a complete stranger.

 

[John VN]

Good luck in the future. If you feel like dropping by, we're here.

 

[scoolover]

I have been here since '06 and have found that most of the people are great. I too am introverted and find meets tough. One of my many therapists pointed out that I go with the expectation of being an extrovert and it causes lots of stress. There is no rule that you have to chat up everyone in the joint. Now I go and sit back and talk if I feel like it. That makes it so much easier.

If I spot a WISHer during a race it's easier because you can make small talk for a few minutes and then either speed up or slow down if you are uncomfortable.

The whole idea of thistype of thread does make me laugh a little though. When I don't feel like frequenting a board anymore, I just don't.

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

*hugs*

Hope you're okay...

 

[KeenHo]

Whoa, people. Remember, we should all be civil.

So....people come and go on this board. It's natural. I have been on the board for 3 yrs, and have seen ebbs and flows. It's good that people can come here, find what they need, for as long as they need, and then move on, if that's what they feel they need to do.

I can also say that I am by nature an introvert, and it was a bit scary to join a group of people I didn't know. So I understand what Beth is saying.

So, Beth, good luck with your running and thanks for your contributions to the board while you've been here.

Maura

 

[ironz]

I just wanted to let people know (since I have been on several different threads) that I'm going to pull out of this board.

Overall it's been good, and I've gotten some good advice, but for me it's just coming across as way too much pressure to do in-person meets, meals, etc. For me, it's just not who I am to suddenly be all chummy with people I've only interacted with online, and whether it's intended or not, it does feel like pressure. I don't think this kind of place is good for someone who's more introverted.

It seems to work for a lot of people, and that's fine. It's just not for me to do all of that, and I feel weird being on here and NOT wanting to meet up and wear lime green and all that.

So...thanks for the advice and all...

But good-bye.

I'm just sorry that you're feeling some sort of pressure. I've posted intermittently on these boards for a few years now and have never felt any such pressure to meet people, etc. I don't wear the WISH shirts (I like the saying on it, but it's not my thing), I've never been to an organized meet (probably have done 4 to 6 Disney events since starting to post here), and have only less formally planned to meet up with people on one trip where I was by myself...I met 2 girls....hung out with one for half a day and had fun, but I would have been fine on my own all incognito just as easily. (Glad to have met the girls I did). Oh, and one time I met Big Vic when I was cheering. Oh, and I met Carrie during a race.

So...really...you can post, share info, etc...and not ever have to meet a soul. I can't see that anyone here would fault you for that.
I do tend to not post on the race-specific threads that talk more about meet-ups and such. I check them from time to time about specific race info, and I more often frequent a thread in which I think I have something to say or piques my interest.

 

[Rupert B Puppenstein]

I guess I never understood the point of good-bye messages...why not just stop posting? These threads are rarely met with warm fuzzies. Regardless, Good Luck to you.

With that, I have been on this board for a while now and have never ever felt pressured to join in meet-ups, run as a team, etc. I run by myself regardless, have never worn the lime green, and have not felt that anyone judged me for that decision. I would love to meet some of the people on this board some day (and have already met a few) to put names with faces, but don't feel pressured to join the group to actually accomplish that. To me, this forum is a great one with most of us wanting to meet the goal of finishing a race and having fun.

 

[smileyk8]

I guess two things came from this to me;

1) good luck to you for your future running-I'm certain that there would not be any hard feelings should you wish to return in the future and hope that you will find the time to pop back should you need further advice.

2) really pleased to see that not everyone feels the same way. Actually I find that internet support forums are ideal for introverted people and allow opportunites to chat and 'meet' people virtually that I personally would never have come into contact with before having the courage to start running. I- like most of you- have never felt under pressure and love to wear my WISH shirt.... that's my personal choice just as it is others' decision not to participate in certain things. Both are fine and nobody should ever feel judged.

I hope that you leave here with some fond memories