sand ceremony

[lov2b@disney]

Anyone have any vow wordings for the sand ceremony?

We are including children, so anything that would include them would be great!

Thanks!

 

[Shalanel]

whats a sand ceremony? I haven't heard of this before!

 

[Swmhc]

I just googled "sand ceremony" and came up with several different ones, then I took the parts from each one that I liked and put them together. I will see what I can find at home.

We didn't include my daughter in the sand ceremony part, but did an inclusion for her in that after my DH and I exchanged rings, he presented her with a daughter bracelet and we all three did vows for a family. I will look for that when I get home too, if you are interested !

 

[lov2b@disney]

I just googled "sand ceremony" and came up with several different ones, then I took the parts from each one that I liked and put them together. I will see what I can find at home.

We didn't include my daughter in the sand ceremony part, but did an inclusion for her in that after my DH and I exchanged rings, he presented her with a daughter bracelet and we all three did vows for a family. I will look for that when I get home too, if you are interested !

Please- that would be great!

 

[lov2b@disney]

whats a sand ceremony? I haven't heard of this before!

It is in place of the unity candle! A cermony to symbolize 2 becoming 1!

 

[sajilunni]

I am totally freaking out because I don't know what ceremony to use or what vows to write or anything!

We're having a sand ceremony with our kids (5 vials of sand). I would love and deeply appreciate any suggestions about how to go about doing it.

We're not exchanging rings (since we already have our rings on). But we were going to give our kids some pendants that have a silver abstract family of 5. Could you let me know what your husband said while presenting the bracelet? This is another thing that I could really use some suggestions with.

Last night my husband said, "Wouldn't it be great if the kids read out loud during the ceremony. Like our son could tell you all the reasons why daddy loves mommy, and our daughter could say all the reasons why mommy loves daddy. Then we could say our vows to each other". I have been so nervous about this whole "writing our own vows" because my husband is romantic and articulate, and I'm afraid that I am not.

Sorry about bemoaning my fate, the mention of the sand ceremony just brought up all my anxiety.

Jil

 

[Swmhc]

I am sorry I didn't get those posted last night. I was having a really bad headache and went to bed as soon as I got home and didn't get up until this morning ! I do feel much better, but got nothing accomplished last night. I will try to do this tonight though. It was really sweet the way Rev Tim did the "family" ceremony though. We we were done he pronounced us "family" instead of just husband and wife. I wasn't sure how my DH and DD would respond to the idea, but both loved it and took it very seriously. It was a great addition to our wedding !

 

[Mrsdisneyb2b]

whoever your rev is talk to them. I am SURE that they have ideas. Ive seen a vow renewal and they had four children. Each child had blue sand, but lighter shades from oldest to darkest. First the mother poured light beige, then the father dark brown, then the children each from lightest to darkest, to represent the past and then again from darkest to lightest followed by the father and then mother again to represent the future...

so it looked like this:

dark brown
lightbrown
blue light
blue one shade darker
blue darker
very dark blue
blue darker
blue one shade lighter
blue light
dark brown
light brown

hope it makes sense lol

 

[lov2b@disney]

I am sorry I didn't get those posted last night. I was having a really bad headache and went to bed as soon as I got home and didn't get up until this morning ! I do feel much better, but got nothing accomplished last night. I will try to do this tonight though. It was really sweet the way Rev Tim did the "family" ceremony though. We we were done he pronounced us "family" instead of just husband and wife. I wasn't sure how my DH and DD would respond to the idea, but both loved it and took it very seriously. It was a great addition to our wedding !

Shelli-thanks! Glad your feeling better! I did google sand ceremony this morning and have come up with some ideas! Would love to hear what you did, when you get a chance! I think it is important to share the ceremony with our boys!

 

[lov2b@disney]

whoever your rev is talk to them. I am SURE that they have ideas. Ive seen a vow renewal and they had four children. Each child had blue sand, but lighter shades from oldest to darkest. First the mother poured light beige, then the father dark brown, then the children each from lightest to darkest, to represent the past and then again from darkest to lightest followed by the father and then mother again to represent the future...

so it looked like this:

dark brown
lightbrown
blue light
blue one shade darker
blue darker
very dark blue
blue darker
blue one shade lighter
blue light
dark brown
light brown

hope it makes sense lol

That is a neat idea! I think we have decided to do sand colors "loosely" based on eveyones birth stone color- by loosely based I mean- One of the boys is Citrine yellow-another Garnet red- so we decided on a more natural shade instead of bright yellow and a pink instead of red so the colors blend more. Now we are working on vows, including sand ceremony!

 

[IndyBride]

Thanks for all the information everyone! My ceremony is outside so I am planning on doing a sand ceremony as well.

 

[Swmhc]

I finally found the wordings we used, hope these can help you guys !


Sand Ceremony
There is a song that speaks of “a long and winding road” and before you met, your lives were on such a road... each going in different directions and seemingly leading to different destinations.
But somewhere along the way you took a fork in the road to a destination called “love.” Today, you find yourselves standing together at the entrance of a new path that will join your once separate journeys into one.
Before each of you there is a container of sand. Each container represents the separate journeys you once were on. They also represent your own sets of friends and families that once were apart. I will ask that in a moment you both blend your individual container of sand together... representing the coming together of your friends and family, through your marriage, into one. And as the sand is blended into one container, your once solitary journeys will now be one of companionship, as you walk a single path together into your future.
I now ask that you blend your containers of sand together.
(The couple picks up their individual containers of sand and blend them together.)
As the sand has blended together, your lives are now joined. Your friends and family are as one as well, for now you will share those who are in your lives and will walk hand-in-hand along the path of your marriage - united and strong as husband and wife.



Presentation of family
“Today, not only do we join together husband and wife but we create a family. An important part of that family is _____________” I then have the receiving parent place a ring on her finger (we used a daughter bracelet) and I ask the two of you if you will give her the guidance and counsel she will need and request in the years to come. I will then ask her if she will do her best to make this the best family it can possibly be. Following the rings, we will do the legal part, and I will have all of you hold hands in a circle and I will pronounce you husband, wife, and family.

 

[Maddiesmum03]

here is the wording we are going to use
**** and *****l , you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of the rings, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is their marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand. One, representing you, ****, and all that you were, and all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you ****, and all that you are, all that you were and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into their third container, the individual containers of sand no longer exist, but are now joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the original containers, so will your marriage be.

 

[lov2b@disney]

I am totally freaking out because I don't know what ceremony to use or what vows to write or anything!

We're having a sand ceremony with our kids (5 vials of sand). I would love and deeply appreciate any suggestions about how to go about doing it.

We're not exchanging rings (since we already have our rings on). But we were going to give our kids some pendants that have a silver abstract family of 5. Could you let me know what your husband said while presenting the bracelet? This is another thing that I could really use some suggestions with.

Last night my husband said, "Wouldn't it be great if the kids read out loud during the ceremony. Like our son could tell you all the reasons why daddy loves mommy, and our daughter could say all the reasons why mommy loves daddy. Then we could say our vows to each other". I have been so nervous about this whole "writing our own vows" because my husband is romantic and articulate, and I'm afraid that I am not.

Sorry about bemoaning my fate, the mention of the sand ceremony just brought up all my anxiety.

Jil

I will post what we came up with in my PJ!

I finally found the wordings we used, hope these can help you guys !


Sand Ceremony
There is a song that speaks of “a long and winding road” and before you met, your lives were on such a road... each going in different directions and seemingly leading to different destinations.
But somewhere along the way you took a fork in the road to a destination called “love.” Today, you find yourselves standing together at the entrance of a new path that will join your once separate journeys into one.
Before each of you there is a container of sand. Each container represents the separate journeys you once were on. They also represent your own sets of friends and families that once were apart. I will ask that in a moment you both blend your individual container of sand together... representing the coming together of your friends and family, through your marriage, into one. And as the sand is blended into one container, your once solitary journeys will now be one of companionship, as you walk a single path together into your future.
I now ask that you blend your containers of sand together.
(The couple picks up their individual containers of sand and blend them together.)
As the sand has blended together, your lives are now joined. Your friends and family are as one as well, for now you will share those who are in your lives and will walk hand-in-hand along the path of your marriage - united and strong as husband and wife.



Presentation of family
“Today, not only do we join together husband and wife but we create a family. An important part of that family is _____________” I then have the receiving parent place a ring on her finger (we used a daughter bracelet) and I ask the two of you if you will give her the guidance and counsel she will need and request in the years to come. I will then ask her if she will do her best to make this the best family it can possibly be. Following the rings, we will do the legal part, and I will have all of you hold hands in a circle and I will pronounce you husband, wife, and family.

Love the pronouncing of not only husban and wife, but family too! I'm going to try and incorporate that in!

here is the wording we are going to use
**** and *****l , you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of the rings, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is their marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand. One, representing you, ****, and all that you were, and all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you ****, and all that you are, all that you were and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into their third container, the individual containers of sand no longer exist, but are now joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the original containers, so will your marriage be.

Thank you! It is helpful to hear what other people have done!