GEM, so sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, it was a baby, just as real to you as if you had carried it full term. I know, I've been in your situation - 6 times before we got the first one here, and once after the second one. We also had 6 adoptions fall through at the last minute before the first one. It was just as devastating each time. Time does heal, and you will go on. {{{hugs }}} to both of you. Personally, I think I'd be looking for another doctor.