Rudest twins comment!

[tw1nsmom]

I've had a lot of comments that could be taken as rude when some people find out that I have twins. "Better you than me" "Double Trouble"...

But, yesterday at the doctor's office really took the cake. I was talking to another mom who had an adorable baby on her lap. She was saying that she had three children and this one was her most challenging. We were basicly making funny faces at the baby and commiserating a little about how much we love our children but how much work they were.

She asked how many children I had and I told her two. DS, who was with me and his twin DD who was at school. This upper middle age man who wasn't even part of the conversation spoke up and said "Twins?!, I would slit my wrists!"

I didn't even know what to say. I think I was stunned. Not only did he say something incredibly rude, he said it in front of DS! We were called in to the office almost immediately after that. I so wish I had thought of something to say to that man.

 

[MzDiz]

I once told a cashier at the grocery store that I would rather dig out my own uterus with a rusty spoon than have another baby. The look of horror on her face was priceless. And, as luck would have it, I had another baby.
Don't take it personally, some people (myself included) are just crude but harmless.

 

[Stitchfans]

Yes, he was VERY RUDE. I would of simply told him outloud he was very rude and lucky for the children he wasn't their father. Some people have no class or manners.

to be honest my first thought was since you where in a drs office was to say I'm sure the dr has a scaple to assist you, but that would be just as rude and lowering yourself to his level.

 

[Virgo10]

Yeah, I've got to go with the don't take it personally line. My favorite was that if I got pregnant again, I'd head to the Bourne Bridge. You Massachusetts people will know what I mean.

Honestly, I don't think that guy meant anything against you, your twins or pregnancy in general. Just that it was not for him.

If I got pregnant now, I'd be rich and famous!

 

[golfgal]

I've heard them all too. I guess they never bothered me. Twins are a lot of work when they are babies and some people just can't handle that, which is probably why they don't have twins.

The funniest thing I had happen though was I was in the grocery store and had the twins along, they were maybe 2 months old at the most, both in their carseat carrier things. A woman came up to me and asked if they were twins, yes, then she looked at them and yells, "they can't be twins, they don't look anything alike". DD has brown hair/dark eyes, DS is blonde/blue eyed. I told her they were fraternal twins and didn't "need" to look alike. She proceeded to follow me around the store telling me that there was just no way they could be twins. Finally I had enough of her and said, 'you know what, you are right, they aren't twins, we just had our kids really close together". She looks at me and said 'ha, I just knew it". Whatever.

 

[noodleknitter]

Sounds like a mom going through a really rough time. I feel bad for her, because she may have been talking from her heart.

OT, and rude- I often state that I would rather stick a fork in my eye than have to share a bed with my youngest son ever again. And I mean it.

 

[mtemm]

I've heard lots of comments re: twins once we had ours. thankfully most were encouraging, but some people just don't thinkand say really rude things. and to say something like that in front of a child that can understand is inexcusable. People talk way too freely in front of kids who do hear and understand things, as we are now learning (our eldest is 4 and very aware).

 

[Nancy]

Some people feel the need to make a comment and just don't think how it comes across to the person they are directing it to.

My 2 oldest are 18 months apart. #1 was a tiny, petite baby, she had really light very curly hair and blue eyes. #2 was a bigger baby, she has dark brown hair, on the straighter side and dark brown eyes. By the time they were 2 and 3 they were the same size. I would get people asking me if they were related and when I'd say yes, they are sisters I'd get weird looks. I had one lady ask me if they had the same father (I think she was trying to ask if they were adopted) my comeback was "I have no clue who their fathers are" The look on her face was priceless!

 

[mtemm]

I've heard them all too. I guess they never bothered me. Twins are a lot of work when they are babies and some people just can't handle that, which is probably why they don't have twins.

The funniest thing I had happen though was I was in the grocery store and had the twins along, they were maybe 2 months old at the most, both in their carseat carrier things. A woman came up to me and asked if they were twins, yes, then she looked at them and yells, "they can't be twins, they don't look anything alike". DD has brown hair/dark eyes, DS is blonde/blue eyed. I told her they were fraternal twins and didn't "need" to look alike. She proceeded to follow me around the store telling me that there was just no way they could be twins. Finally I had enough of her and said, 'you know what, you are right, they aren't twins, we just had our kids really close together". She looks at me and said 'ha, I just knew it". Whatever.

omg, that is hysterical. seriously. and you just know she went home and told whomever about the crazy lady who tried to pass her obviously different kids off as twins. hehehe.

 

[tw1nsmom]

Ussually I just and let it roll right off my back. This bothered me a little more because, I wasn't even talking to this guy, and DS heard what he said. DS has a disability, part of which is that he doesn't understand sarcasm or figures of speech. He couldn't understand what was so bad about being a twin. I think his feelings were hurt even after I tried to explain it to him. And we all know how we moms are when our kids feelings get hurt (or at least how I am).

I'm really not holding on to it as much as it seems. I just needed to vent.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would have said, "Well if they were your offspring I can see why!"

 

[Holly]

I've heard them all too. I guess they never bothered me. Twins are a lot of work when they are babies and some people just can't handle that, which is probably why they don't have twins.

The funniest thing I had happen though was I was in the grocery store and had the twins along, they were maybe 2 months old at the most, both in their carseat carrier things. A woman came up to me and asked if they were twins, yes, then she looked at them and yells, "they can't be twins, they don't look anything alike". DD has brown hair/dark eyes, DS is blonde/blue eyed. I told her they were fraternal twins and didn't "need" to look alike. She proceeded to follow me around the store telling me that there was just no way they could be twins. Finally I had enough of her and said, 'you know what, you are right, they aren't twins, we just had our kids really close together". She looks at me and said 'ha, I just knew it". Whatever.

When mine were tiny, I would always get:
"Are they identical?"
"Yes."
"Oh, are they a boy and a girl?"

 

[golfgal]

When mine were tiny, I would always get:
"Are they identical?"
"Yes."
"Oh, are they a boy and a girl?"

We always got the opposite, are they identical? Um, no, do they even LOOK alike, aside from the fact that they are a boy and girl. I had a NURES in the hospital ask me that, I asked if she was taking care of them-she wasn't thankfully.

 

[mom2rb]

My twins don't look alike at all. We used to hear comments about it all the time. When my DH was alone with them and people would tell him they couldn't be twins. He would say " Yes they are but they have two different mothers ". Then he would walk away while they tried to figure that one out.

 

[BoyLovesBuzz]

I've had a lot of comments that could be taken as rude when some people find out that I have twins. "Better you than me" "Double Trouble"...

But, yesterday at the doctor's office really took the cake. I was talking to another mom who had an adorable baby on her lap. She was saying that she had three children and this one was her most challenging. We were basicly making funny faces at the baby and commiserating a little about how much we love our children but how much work they were.

She asked how many children I had and I told her two. DS, who was with me and his twin DD who was at school. This upper middle age man who wasn't even part of the conversation spoke up and said "Twins?!, I would slit my wrists!"

I didn't even know what to say. I think I was stunned. Not only did he say something incredibly rude, he said it in front of DS! We were called in to the office almost immediately after that. I so wish I had thought of something to say to that man.

The only thing that makes it rude, is the fact that he butted into your conversation uninvited. Asided from that it was just an "Al Bundy" weak attempt at humor.

 

[Disney Doll]

I've heard them all too. I guess they never bothered me. Twins are a lot of work when they are babies and some people just can't handle that, which is probably why they don't have twins.

The funniest thing I had happen though was I was in the grocery store and had the twins along, they were maybe 2 months old at the most, both in their carseat carrier things. A woman came up to me and asked if they were twins, yes, then she looked at them and yells, "they can't be twins, they don't look anything alike". DD has brown hair/dark eyes, DS is blonde/blue eyed. I told her they were fraternal twins and didn't "need" to look alike. She proceeded to follow me around the store telling me that there was just no way they could be twins. Finally I had enough of her and said, 'you know what, you are right, they aren't twins, we just had our kids really close together". She looks at me and said 'ha, I just knew it". Whatever.

I probably would have looked at her and said "stop following me. You're annoying".

 

[Sleepy]

I once told a cashier at the grocery store that I would rather dig out my own uterus with a rusty spoon than have another baby.

I need to remember that one.

 

[CindysGusGus]

twinsmom, I have 9 yo b/g twins and I usually just tell people that I had the instant family. No harder with 2 than there is with one. Dont let it get to you. Hugs to you and your twins

 

[Keli]

As a twin I grew up hearing people say things like that to my mom. Honestly? It never bothered me.

I think you just gotta let comments like that roll off your back. If you said something 'rude' back you would look like you were over-reacting to a 'harmless' comment.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

The only thing that makes it rude, is the fact that he butted into your conversation uninvited. Asided from that it was just an "Al Bundy" weak attempt at humor.

I agree with this. Our friends recently were surprised to find out they were pregnant, and then even more surprised to find out it was twins. Lots of comments like this flew around and it was all in good fun. They weren't offended and even joined in. I would NOT say that stuff to a stranger though.