Romance Poll....

[transparant]

Ok...who in your relationship is the one that *Keeps the spark going* Which one is the one who suggests a babysitter and a night out? Which one is the one who leaves little notes around the house, or calls the other at work for no reason. Who's the *communicator*? I'm just using these descriptions to try to cover everything....if you'd like to add to the lise feel free.

.My husband is always the one who makes the plans - HE ROCKS!

.I'm always the one who makes the plans and I love it!

.I am the one who makes the plans and I wish HE/SHE would more often

.It's pretty much 50/50 around here

.Neither one of us...we don't do nothin.

 

[transparant]

If you voted for the 3rd option...what are some of the things that you would really love if your significant other did? Something that would surprise you and make you very happy?

 

[PryncessChrysty]

I make the plans and I love it! I used to get upset and wish that he would plan more (or at all!). Then one day it dawned on me....if he made the plans, things wouldn't go the way I wanted them to. So I finally just learned to accept it. It's much better this way for both of us. He doesn't really have many preferences as to how things go down, but I do. So I make sure to plan things according to how we'd both like them

 

[Beth76]

I actually made DH call for the reservations for my birthday dinner this year. Usually, I do it. I think I made him for our anniversary too. He does absolutely nothing romantic. I always give him a .5 on the romance scale. The .5 is because he has--a few times--brought me flowers for no reason. Other than that--nada.

 

[NMAmy]

I'm very lucky. DH is very romantic and takes the initiative quite a bit--which inspires me to do the same.

He's definitely a keeper.

 

[luckywife]

I had to vote for I make the plans but wish DH would do it more often. He's not a real romantic kind of guy but he has brought flowers for no reason and surprised me a few times with things he knew I wanted. Other than that, I make plans for our anniversary, I threw him a huge 21st birthday party etc. He does, however, remember our anniversary, birthdays, and Valentine's Day. I do the biggest part of the romantic planning but he always goes along with what I plan/suggest.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Originally posted by transparant
If you voted for the 3rd option...what are some of the things that you would really love if your significant other did? Something that would surprise you and make you very happy?

Take me shopping buy me a new outfit and then out for dinner at a fancy place or out to a nightclub.

Go biking, hiking, or exercise together then off for a picnic.

Take me to the city and see the sights.

Take me shopping then surprise go to the airport and off for a weekend to Vegas, Sandals, Hawaii, something that is just for adults.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Neither one of us are particularly romantic people. So I'd say neither.

But if I had to pick, I'd say I'm the one who usually makes the plans.

 

[Rippington'sFan]

Very interesting topic. I know (as a guy) that I could be more romantic sometimes. I try but maybe I could try harder. For the people like me who have been married for 10,15 or 20 plus years (15 for me) do you find it hard to keep that "romatic spark" alive?
I'm sure everyone has extremely busy lifestyles etc... so how do you do it? Do you just "make the time"? Do you expect something romantic done once a day? once a week? once a month? I think you can see where I'm coming from here.
I am just curious about all of your ideas and input on this if you care to respond.

 

[transparant]

Well...we have been married for 16 years. I for one try very much to keep the spark alive. I leave little notes in his drawers, desk at work, in the shower stall - you name it. I also will call him at work just to say "miss you, love you, etc" I've also called him and arranged a few eh-hem *meetings* shall we say, in a deserted parking lot I've planned surprises for him, I've also made a video for him of *our years together* with our favorite music.

Now...HE on the other hand - well, to put it bluntly - he just plain sucks at romance. He's *trying* to be better - I'll give him that. He's a really great incredible guy...don't get me wrong (otherwise I wouldn't be doing all the stuff I mentioned up there) but he just gets himself so wrapped up in work that it drains whatever else is left...not to mention we have 6 children. But....I always say, "If I can make the time for it - YOU can make the time for it"

 

[Rippington'sFan]

Originally posted by transparant
Well...we have been married for 16 years. I for one try very much to keep the spark alive. I leave little notes in his drawers, desk at work, in the shower stall - you name it. I also will call him at work just to say "miss you, love you, etc" I've also called him and arranged a few eh-hem *meetings* shall we say, in a deserted parking lot I've planned surprises for him, I've also made a video for him of *our years together* with our favorite music.

Now...HE on the other hand - well, to put it bluntly - he just plain sucks at romance. He's *trying* to be better - I'll give him that. He's a really great incredible guy...don't get me wrong (otherwise I wouldn't be doing all the stuff I mentioned up there) but he just gets himself so wrapped up in work that it drains whatever else is left...not to mention we have 6 children. But....I always say, "If I can make the time for it - YOU can make the time for it"

Wow! I will say that you are certainly doing your part that's for sure.
Thanks for the reply. Now I need to get my wife to read this.

 

[Raysplus1]

I believe it is about 50/50 but I am sure my DW would not agree.

 

[nativetxn]

Pretty much 50/50 here

 

[NMAmy]

Originally posted by Rippington'sFan
I'm sure everyone has extremely busy lifestyles etc... so how do you do it? Do you just "make the time"? Do you expect something romantic done once a day? once a week? once a month? I think you can see where I'm coming from here.
I am just curious about all of your ideas and input on this if you care to respond.

My DH doesn't do big romantic things but he does little things to pamper me every day. My favorite is this: he gets into bed before I do and while I'm puttering around, he'll lie on my side of the bed so that when I come to bed--my side is all warm. Doesn't cost a dime or that much effort but it's one of the sweetest things anyone has ever done for me and he does it every night!

Yesterday, for example, he had the day off. So when I got home from work--the house was tidy, dinner was ready. We had dinner and then, since I'd had a really bad day and had a headache--he rubbed my feet and fetched me things (like pop, a heating pad, etc.) Gentlemen--never underestimate the romance factor of cleaning the house and making dinner for your wife!

 

[snoopy]

One of the most romantic things my husband does is this:

For a wedding present, 18 years ago, we got this little chalkboard/letter organizer thingie that hangs in our kitchen. Every single day since we've been married he leaves me a note on the chalkboard before he leaves for work in the morning or goes out for his morning run/workout. Never fails. Sometimes it just says "I love you", but other times its more personal or funny or serious. Sometimes he'll leave little notes for the kids too. Today's note said "Everybody Loves an Italian Girl, especially me". He wrote that because I told him about an argument I was having with someone, and how my Italian temper got the better of me. He also had good wishes for Luke, who was taking a test today, and another note to Drew, who has a loose tooth. He remembers those little details and puts them in the note, which always knocks my socks off and makes me love him all the much more.

That chalkboard thingie was the best wedding gift we got. The lady who gave it to us is a friend of my grandmothers and I remind her of it everytime I see her.

 

[Rippington'sFan]

I couldn't resist putting this picture up. I think it goes well with the subject.

 

[BuckNaked]

"Everybody Loves an Italian Girl, especially me". He wrote that because I told him about an argument I was having with someone, and how my Italian temper got the better of me.

I read this and my mind instantly went to that line from M*A*S*H (the movie):

That one. The sultry ***** with the fire in her eyes. Bring her to me. Take her clothes off and bring her to me.

 

[jeleebeene]

While I know that DH loves me, has doesn't have a romantic bone in his body. I would settle for a nice cozy evening at home watching a nice movie and cuddling on the couch. He used to be to some extent, and while we go out, I usually plan everything. he claims he lets me do it as he seems to think I enjoy it...

Maybe I need to find some books to "teach" him how to be romantic??

 

[snoopy]

Originally posted by BuckNaked
I read this and my mind instantly went to that line from M*A*S*H (the movie):

LOL, really? Wow, I'm not sure what to think about that, but then again, I never saw the movie MASH, I don't think?

 

[BuckNaked]

Italian girls - temper - fire in her eyes