Rev Tim Herring?

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

Hi Y'all!

I have been reading this board for a while, but have not said anything yet because you guys are so helpful, that I haven't had any questions...until now that is! We are getting married Nov 28 at Leu Gardens, just the two of us. We are staying at one of the WDW resorts, having Disney cosmotology do my hair, face, and nails, and enjoying our honeymoon there. I have Randy Chapman as photographer, and just talked with Stan today about being videographer. I'm getting really excited, but have one reservation about my plans now. I booked Rev Tim Herring after talking with Rev Knox and Rev Day. Rev Knox was not available for my date, and I seemed to bond more with Rev Tim than Rev day. However, since booking Rev Tim, I have received some emails from him that make me wonder if maybe he just wasn't the right choice for us. I really liked his style and the way he put me at ease at first on the phone, but then he seemed to get defensive about the service afterwards. I had asked him about adding the hands ceremony, and about the vows, and the wording for the ceremony. (I had a few lines of scripture and such that I wanted included.) He said that he never showed his ceremonies to brides, and for those that insisted on seeing the ceremony he just used a standard one instead of writing a special one. This statement is really what bothered me. Instead of asking what I had in mind he just immediately got defensive. Am I being to sensitive? He never did get back to me about whether or not I could choose or write my own vows. He just says that he wishes that I would leave the service up to him. Am I over stepping my bounds here? Should I just trust him, and hope he does a great job? Has anyone here had him as an officiant that can put my mind at ease? Sorry this is long, but I'm worried about it, and I don't want to offend him further if I am being to over bearing about the service. Thanks for listening!

 

[tink too]

Although I wasn't married by Rev Tim, my sister-in-law was and we attended the wedding. This was back in 2002 in Leu Gardens.

Rev Tim took care of all their requests - limo hire, flowers, photographer, videographer, etc. They had to go to Downtown Orlando to pick up their marriage license - I think this is the only thing they needed to do in person. As we live in Scotland, the bride-and-groom-to-be just had to trust him in that all the arrangements had been done. They were instructed to contact him upon arrival in Orlando and he would go over everything with them then.

I know that when they first called, the groom-to-be was very worried because the Rev. was just like "everything is under control, call me back a day or two before the wedding and just you collect your marriage license."

They did as asked, and when they contacted him nearer the time, he advised what time our limos would be arriving and said he was looking forward to meeting us all.

Sure enough, on the big day, we were all decked out in our dresses and kilts, hair and make-up done and a bit nervous of what would happen as no-one in our party had even met Rev Tim yet. We received a call from our hotel's front desk to let us know that we had 2 limos waiting downstairs (they were 15 minutes early).

Most of the guests left with the groom-to-be, so we met Rev. Tim first, he was waiting out for the cars, instantly introduced himself and tried to help the groom to relax and gave him some pointers on married life! He kept us away from the bride until the ceremony - we were all down at the Gazebo waiting for her grand entrance!

It wasn't until we were all down there (apart from the bride and her dad) that he asked if they wanted a religious or civil type ceremony, he did wear his robes however, regardless of their choice. He did include something that they had requested of him in one of their e;mails, he used some quotes and I do believe that some were from the bible if my memory serves me correctly. The ceremony was very beautiful as was the location and the photographers were well versed on the best spots for photos and obliged when we asked them to take some of our own choosing.

They called him a few days after the wedding to see when the photos were going to be delivered to our hotel. (Although many people choose to just take the films back home to develop, they were afraid that any of them hadn't turned out well - atleast if we knew about it before we left the US, we could return to Leu Gardens and get them done again if necessary). The pics were delivered along with the video as planned - everything was great!

Maybe just because Rev. Tim is doing this every other day, or maybe nothing phases him but everything went well and I think they were pleased.

Just to make sure, keep a copy of all correspondance and bring it with you on the day, along with your license, birth certificates, etc!

I hope this helps - and I hope you have a magical wedding day!

 

[hmgolden]

We used Rev. Tim, but honestly I am not sure that I will be able to put your mind at ease! We booked him becuase my husband met him during our site visit and really liked him. After that I put my husband in charge of all dealings with him. We didn't want to write our own vows or anything, so we didn't have the problem you are facing. I know that other brides have gotten a similar reaction to the one you got when asking Rev. Tim about adding elements to the ceremony. Honestly, while I thought Rev. Tim did a fine job for us (I truely loved our ceremony, and we got many compliments on it), you may want to talk to Rev. Day again. From what I understand, he is far more accomodating for brides who want a large say in their ceremony. Good luck!

 

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

Thanks guys, you did help me put my mind at ease a little bit. Does either one of you have the wedding video available that I could watch his service? I would love to see him actually performing one. I'm glad to hear that you had positive experiences, and am also glad that no one spoke up, and told me a horror story!

 

[mufasa0505]

I just wanted to add that I think he comes off a little short through email. I don't think he means to. I think he's also one of those guys who's like "just let me do the job you're paying me for." JMO, though.

 

[yusinskas]

I just wanted to add that I think he comes off a little short through email. I don't think he means to. I think he's also one of those guys who's like "just let me do the job you're paying me for." JMO, though.

I have no knowledge of the man, but I wouldn't try to determine what someone's attitude is through email. Email can often lead to misunderstandings because it lacks much of the non-verbal communication we get from people.

 

[tink too]

Hello again
I do have access to a copy of the wedding video but I am unsure as to how I can get a copy to you as we live in Scotland. Although U.K. use the VHS system, we use the PAL version and I think the U.S. is different.(?)

I am not very computer literate and have absolutely no clue as to how to share this via the web and not sure if SIL would want images of her most memorable day floating around in cyber-space!

I hope someone more competent than me can share their memories with you!

Good Luck and Best Wishes

 

[wildernessbride52105]

we were just married by rev. tim a few weeks ago. i never had a problem with him...he emailed me a lot just to check up and vise-versa. the ONLY complaint was that he pushed back our cermony time because the bride before me was an hour late to her wedding..other then that it went great. he even included our son in the ceremony which was very nice.

 

[NJBride2Be]

I'm getting married May 29, 2008 and so far Rev Tim has been short and almost rude through email. I actually picked him through a phone conversation and he also was on one of the wedding shows that I happened to see. Hopefully everyone is right and it's just an email thing!

 

[Chantelle]

Our wedding on July 17 was done by Reverand Tim and it was beautiful. I had reservations as well because he didn't really give us any information on what was going to happen or be said, but I trusted he knew what he was doing.

The things he said were very lovely and even though I may be a little biased, I do think it is one of the nicest ceremonies I have been too. He managed to bring in some scripture readings but not make it completely religious which was perfect for my husband and I.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

We used Rev Tim on July 2nd. I agree that the ceremony was beautiful, actually I don't remember much of it. My only complaint is that he used nothing we emailed him about. He didn't even remember we were having a Rose Ceremony till he saw the face, etc layed out. He's a very nice man. Just wasn't to pleased with his communication.

 

[aprincess72]

I have to tell you that i wasn't happy with him at all. I did not like that he would not discuss the ceremony with us, his communication prior to the wedding was terrible, and our ceremony was nothing that we asked for.

We tried to contact him for weeks before our wedding. Granted he had surgery but his emails were short and never addressed the questions we sent. I finally tracked him down the week of the wedding and had a phone conversation throughout which he said not much more than "yep yep yep".
I followed the conversation with an email recapping all we discussed. Other than our bobble head ceremony he did nothing I asked for. We could not for the life of us figure out where he came up with some of the things he included in our ceremony. He went on and on about some Native American culture thing... and then some quotes from a poem whom he would not name the author. When we went back and watched the video all we could do was laugh.

My suggestion would be to write your own ceremony if you are concerned about it. I would also super duper over communicate everything with him if you decide to go forward with him.

 

[FranP]

Rev. Tim performed DD's marriage ceremony at WP almost ten years ago - DD and DSiL wrote the vow portion, but Rev. Tim chose the readings and poems, and also did the unity candle and rose ceremony to the mothers - it was all beautiful and perfect. At that time, his services were arranged through DFTW and she just contacted him with the things she wanted and emailed him the vows.

This November, she and her husband will be renewing their marriage vows at Sea Breeze Point - we had to arrange for his services ourselves, and his commuication with us has been nothing short of amazing. Phone messages and emails are returned within 24 hours (usually sooner) - although I will admit that the messages are brief (but I don't find them to be "short" , meaning with any type of bad attitude or annoyance).

DD has had a rough year health wise, so we want to make sure that the meaning of "love conquers all" is stressed in her vow renewal. Rev. Tim has assured us that it will be beautiful.

The "Native American Thing" one of the posters referred to above, is the Apache Wedding Prayer - quite beautiful, but probably not something many people are familiar with. Imagine our pleasure at seeing that Rev. Tim likes to include it, because the prayer has been hanging framed in their foyer these past ten years - and we are most certainly not Native Americans!!!!!!!!

Good luck to everyone for the weddings of their dreams!!!!!

 

[Ticky Toria 78]

Rev. Tim married us in May, and our ceremony was beautful.

No problems at all.

The Native American poem he quoted fit in really nice with our ceremony, and guests commented on how lovely it was.