Remembering our loved ones Dec. 20

[safetymom]

I started this last year. The holiday season is tough for many people. Personally this is not my favorite time of year. I have lost several family members in December and remember many years where loved ones spent Christmas in the hospital.

So I thought we could post the names of those people we would like to remember on December 20. We could all light a candle in our homes and offer up our thoughts and prayers.

I will put all the names in the first post as everyone posts here to make it easier for all of us to see and remember the names. If you would like to tell a little story about this person please do.

If you have someone that is struggling with health issues please post their names also.

Thank you.

safetymom- late husband Fran, Mother and Father. Health issues my friend Beverlee, and sister in law Virginia are both battling cancer.

mommasita- Grandmother, Bertha Dec. 14, 1985. Great-Aunt (Bert's Sister) Laura died on Christmas Day.

Tinkerbellfan1962- I lost my older sister in 1982 she was 29.
My first born passed away in 1986 at 17 months old in a swimming pool accident.
My Mom passed away in 2000.
My Dad was gone only 14 months after her, a week before he was to move in with my husband and twin sons.
I also lost one of my older brothers in 2006, he had just sent me flowers to say he was sorry for not talking to me in over 3 years.

Sunny37- My son, Zachary, was killed this past March in an automobile accident.

helenk- My mother, Helen, passed away August 1st of this year, she was only 76 years old.

WDWLVR- My Grandmother Marie who helped raise me. She was a wonderful cook and always there for me.

My Mother Mary Ellen who has now been gone for 10 years and left us way too soon from lung cancer.

PattyR- I would like to remember my father Jim who passed away when I was just seven years old (1972). I would also like to remember my Grandmother Thelma, who passed away in 1978. I have many others but those two are the ones I remember the most, they were the ones who died too soon in life. I would also like to mention my mother Ann who is currently in very bad shape with her Alzheimers and I just found out this week her cancer is back and we are most likely down to months unless we do chemo which given the Alz. may not be the right course.

kesha- I would like to remember my big brother Terry. He has been gone 30 years on Dec. 3rd. I still miss him so much. He was 31 when he was killed in a car accident.

Charleyann- My Only brother Bill was killed in a Tornado in Glassville,NB on August 3rd/ 07.
My dad died July 17th, 2004 from lung Cancer. My Mom lives in body, but not in mind. She lost total memory of us all the night I found out my brother was killed...I lost two people on August 3rd....

dixipixi- Our oldest son, Chris (18) was killed in an automobile accident this past Saturday (Dec. 8th) night. He was actually my stepson, but he was always a major part of our lives and he lived with us for the last 3 years.

jordansmomma-My grandma Sylvia Jones, she passed away December 19, 2006.

pumba-My sister passed away a year ago this past June......miss her very much. My Mil passed away five months ago....she was a great friend......and my dear mother passed away last week........this will be a hard Holiday

dhcoffey-My dad passed away in 1997 from lung cancer. He was 67. My niece passed away in 1997 in a car accident. She was 18 and two weeks before high school graduation. My mama passed away in 2004 from a stroke. She was 74. My brother-in-law Kenny passed away in 2004 from cancer.

Iluvthemouse-My mother died March 27, 2007 quite unexpectantly. I am trying to keep busy but everytime I get a free moment I bust out crying. I miss her so much

smilie-My Granny died suddenly during the blizzard of 1996, we never got to say goodbye. My Grandfather died of Lymphoma August of 2003. We lost a baby October of this year. It hurts to know we'll never get to meet our first baby.

coinkc-My mom passed away December 13, 2001.

TB'sWidow-My mom died 05-29-1983 never got to meet any of her grandchildren I was pregnant with my first at the time Dad died 01-22-1994 of heart disease during an ice storm. My DH died 08-08-02 from lung cancer at the age of 44 leaving three children and my self who still miss him terribly

snow88-My two cousins were out fishing on Monday, December 17, 2007 and the boat turned over. One tried to pull the other to shore but a big wave hit and tore them apart. One cousin drowned and the other is taking it very hard. Please pray for him as well as the rest of the family.


Please say a special prayer for Marsha(Mackey Mouse) and Tommy and their family. They are battling health issues and I am sure they would appreciate a prayer being said for them.

We say this prayer every year when we lit the candles.

Memorial Candles

As we light these four candles in honor of you,

we light one for our grief,

one for our courage,

one for our memories,

and one for our love.



This candle represents our grief. The pain of losing you is intense. It reminds us of the depth of our love for you.



This candle represents our courage-- to confront our sorrow-- to comfort each other, to change our lives.



This light is in your memory-- the times we laughed, the times cried, the times we were angry with each other, the silly things you did, the caring and joy you gave us.



This light is the light of love. As we enter this holiday season, day by day we cherish the special place in our hearts that will always be reserved for you. We thank you for the gift your living brought to each of us.



We love you

 

[mommasita]

This is a great idea...

I hate December for the same reasons. My family (prior to marriage) was so small, it hardly existed.

I had one grandmother and one great-Aunt.

I lost my Grandmother, Bertha Dec. 14, 1985. She was my absolute favorite person in the whole world. I cherished her then, as I do now, and I think about her every day. She was a saint, and angel, and set the mark for me as a woman, and all that she achieved. They joy she would have in seeing my children. God took her way too young from Guillian Barre disease. I was 15, and am now 38, and feel as if it was yesterday..

My great-Aunt (Bert's Sister) Laura died on Christmas Day. Marking this day for me with great ..It will be 15 years this Christmas, and sadly this is my first memory Christmas Day...That dreaded call.

Sorry I went on and on.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I loved this last year.. thanks SafetyMom for doing this..

 

[TinkerbellFan1962]

Hello all,

I normal do not post but this suggestion really touched me.
As I read all that had replied to the original post I started to think of all who I would like to honor and pray for on December 20th.

I lost my older sister in 1982 she was 29.
My first born passed away in 1986 at 17 months old in a swimming pool accident.
My Mom passed away in 2000.
My Dad was gone only 14 months after her, a week before he was to move in with my husband and twin sons.
I also lost one of my older brothers in 2006, he had just sent me flowers to say he was sorry for not talking to me in over 3 years.

Thanks again for the wonderful idea.

 

[Sunny37]

My son, Zachary, was killed this past March in an automobile accident. He had a heart of gold and was the light of our lives...life will never be the same again.

 

[helenk]

My mother, Helen, passed away August 1st of this year, she was only 76 years old. She had been in good health until last year when she got a cough that just hung on. She was diagnosised with lung cancer the beginning of February and was gone by August.
It has been very hard for all of us as we were very close, it was hard just getting through Thanksgiving and I absolutely dread Christmas. My father passed away 17 years ago so now both parents are gone, but losing our mother has been the worst.

 

[WDWLVR]

The two women who definately helped me become who are am are remembered at this time of year even though they both died in October.

My Grandmother Marie who helped raise me. She was a wonderful cook and always there for me.

My Mother Mary Ellen who has now been gone for 10 years and left us way too soon from lung cancer.

 

[safetymom]

bumping

 

[PattyR.]

Thank you Safetymom for doing this. It is indeed a hard time of year.

I would like to remember my father Jim who passed away when I was just seven years old (1972). I would also like to remember my Grandmother Thelma, who passed away in 1978. I have many others but those two are the ones I remember the most, they were the ones who died too soon in life.

I would also like to mention my mother Ann who is currently in very bad shape with her Alzheimers and I just found out this week her cancer is back and we are most likely down to months unless we do chemo which given the Alz. may not be the right course.

For those of us who spend much time at the holidays missing the ones we've lost, may we all be there for each other and just get through the whole thing.

 

[kesha]

I would like to remember my big brother Terry. He has been gone 30 years on Dec. 3rd. I still miss him so much. He was 31 when he was killed in a car accident. I was 6 months pregnant. I can remember everything about that day yet sometimes I can hardly remember what happened yesterday.

 

[Charleyann]

My Only brother Bill was killed in a Tornado in Glassville,NB on August 3rd/ 07.
My dad died July 17th, 2004 from lung Cancer

My Mom lives in body, but not in mind. She lost total memory of us all the night I found out my brother was killed...I lost two people on August 3rd....


Charleyann

 

[dixipixi]

Our oldest son, Chris (18) was killed in an automobile accident this past Saturday (Dec. 8th) night. He was actually my stepson, but he was always a major part of our lives and he lived with us for the last 3 years.

I cannot imagine how the holidays are going to be this year. I will be praying for and thinking of you all.

 

[Charleyann]

Our oldest son, Chris (18) was killed in an automobile accident this past Saturday (Dec. 8th) night. He was actually my stepson, but he was always a major part of our lives and he lived with us for the last 3 years.

I cannot imagine how the holidays are going to be this year. I will be praying for and thinking of you all.

Charleyann

 

[safetymom]

Anyone else want to add names before I update the first post?

 

[jordansmomma]

My grandma Sylvia Jones, she passed away December 19, 2006. Ironically she left this crazy note and we found it a few months later while cleaning out her room.
Don't a shed tear for me this year, as I am spending my Christmas with Jesus this year.
It was as if she knew.

 

[pumba]

thanks for doing this.
My sister passed away a year ago this past June......miss her very much

My Mil passed away five months ago....she was a great friend......

and my dear mother passed away last week........this will be a hard Holiday

 

[dhcoffey]

Thanks for posting this.

My dad passed away in 1997 from lung cancer. He was 67.
My niece passed away in 1997 in a car accident. She was 18 and two weeks before high school graduation.
My mama passed away in 2004 from a stroke. She was 74.
My brother-in-law Kenny passed away in 2004 from cancer.

Thanks again,
Heather

 

[Iluvthemouse]

Thank you for doing this.

My mother died March 27, 2007 quite unexpectantly. I am trying to keep busy but everytime I get a free moment I bust out crying.
I miss her so much.

 

[smilie]

My Granny died suddenly during the blizzard of 1996, we never got to say goodbye.
My Grandfather died of Lymphoma August of 2003.
We lost a baby October of this year. It hurts to know we'll never get to meet our first baby.

 

[coinkc]

My mom passed away December 13, 2001. I think of her everyday and wish that she were here to see her grandkids grow up.