Remembering a loved one who passed away at your wedding?

[LuluLovesDisney]

At the Catholic wedding ceremonies in my family, (my brothers) we've always placed flowers by the pieta (statue of Mary holding Jesus' body after the crucifixion) to remember loved ones who have passed away (my grandparents).

I would not be able to do it that way at a Disney wedding, so I was trying to think of other ways I could incorporate some type of remembrance of those who have passed away during the ceremony.

Has anyone here done something like this?

Thank you!!!

 

[p2oh]

I have seen a candle on a table with a picture or a poem. It is very beautiful.

 

[mindystar]

My sister had a vase filled with Cala Lilies to remember my mom's brother who passed away many years ago. They were set up on the side at the ceremony, and I don't remember where at the reception, and then my mom got to take them back to the resort with her.

Sorry you can't see the vase--it was kind of like a fish bowl shape.
HTH

 

[disneyheaven]

Hi there,
We are having a small memorial candle set up at the Wedding Pavilion. It will already be lit when the ceremony starts. Towards the begiining of the ceremony, Rev Jack will say something along the lines of, "Sarah and Mark thank all of those who could be here today to celebrate in their marriage. There are a few very special family members who, although unable to be here in person, are here with us today in spirit. We would like to lovingly remember: and then Rev Jack will read the names of 3 or 4 family members who are died and who are missed very much

This is just a nice way of remembering those who are missed and loved each day. Anything you do is nice. Something subtle like a lit candle or a flower in a vase. Anything you choose will be lovely.

Best Wishes

 

[juligrl]

My cousin and her husband each had their parents light a candle for their respective deceased spouse. It was beautiful because they had more candles up there then they otherwise would have.

 

[janine]

We had a candle (white with mickey icons) on the ceremony table alongside a little card that Disney Floral made up for us, to remember Damians Mum & Dad who have passed away. We both lit it as a unity candle. By doing this we both felt that they were there with us on our special day. Ask Rosie at the floral department to make up a card for you.

 

[CastMemberTinkerbell]

For our 02-02-02 Fairytale Wedding we did 2 things to remember those who could not be there with us. My grandmothers are no longer living so my bouquet was made up of their favorite flowers (roses and hydranias). To honor DH Grandparents (fathers side), my grandparents (my mom's side) , my grandmother (fatherside) who passed away we had their photos in silver frames on either side of our flowers on the table on the alter. It made me feel like they were watching over us. Also in our program we noted that some of our relatives could not attend due to medical reasons. Hope this helps!

 

[Kim10110]

I am going to be getting a memorial candle and vase on www dot rexcraft dot com you can have the peoples names put on to the candles and questiosn let me know

Kim

 

[pixie08]

You know if you provide Disney with the Pieta they can most probably set that up for you....just a thought if you want to keep up the tradition.

My Dad passed away a while ago. In his memory I am having a memorial candle set on a pillar near the altar area arranged with flowers. In my program I will have have a poem and a dedication explaining the significance of the candle.

Many people ask the rev. to ask for a moment of silence in memory of those who have passed. I am not sure I can do this since I may break down crying...I haven't decided. Disney I am sure can accomadate you any way you see fit.

 

[WDWAurora]

I did the candle, but they were plain candles (with floral, etc around them, no pictures though) and then had an inscription in the program. We did a candle per person and set them up on a little table, sort of opposite our unity candle.

 

[Fairy_Tale_Bride]

At the Catholic wedding ceremonies in my family, (my brothers) we've always placed flowers by the pieta (statue of Mary holding Jesus' body after the crucifixion) to remember loved ones who have passed away (my grandparents).

I would not be able to do it that way at a Disney wedding, so I was trying to think of other ways I could incorporate some type of remembrance of those who have passed away during the ceremony.

Has anyone here done something like this?

Thank you!!!

I just went to my friend's wedding and the bride's father has passed away. They were married outside and had a vase of beautiful white flowers to the left, next to the bride. It was also written in the program that it represented her father. I thought it was very nice.

 

[pixie08]

I just went to my friend's wedding and the bride's father has passed away. They were married outside and had a vase of beautiful white flowers to the left, next to the bride. It was also written in the program that it represented her father. I thought it was very nice.

Fairytale bride I love that idea. My father loved roses and I think I may "borrow" this by adding a vase of roses with the candle! Thanks for adding that.

 

[Janis]

At our vow renewal instead of a unity candle ron and I lit a memorial candle. This is the text that Rev. Jack read:

“In Memory of Loved Ones Past...”

Because this has been, is now, and shall forever be a time to remember, let us pause and thank God for the family and friends that are with us today and for our loved ones that are watching over us.
Although death has separated us physically; faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you, we know you are here with us.
Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile.
Today, we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits, and touched our hearts.
I invite Ron and Janis to please come forward and light this candle in the honor and memory of those friends and family members.
May the lighting of this candle be a reminder of the memories we have shared with you.
A representation of the everlasting impact you have made on our lives.

 

[LBelle]

That is the saddest thing I ever read on the DIS!! Thankfully, nobody ever died at EITHER of my weddings!!

 

[dsnyfan6/18]

we did a memorial candle and two roses and a note on our program - it was a nice touch

 

[Fairy_Tale_Bride]

Fairytale bride I love that idea. My father loved roses and I think I may "borrow" this by adding a vase of roses with the candle! Thanks for adding that.

You're welcome. I'm glad I could help with your special day.

 

[WickedWench]

At our vow renewal instead of a unity candle ron and I lit a memorial candle. This is the text that Rev. Jack read:

“In Memory of Loved Ones Past...”

Because this has been, is now, and shall forever be a time to remember, let us pause and thank God for the family and friends that are with us today and for our loved ones that are watching over us.
Although death has separated us physically; faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you, we know you are here with us.
Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile.
Today, we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits, and touched our hearts.
I invite Ron and Janis to please come forward and light this candle in the honor and memory of those friends and family members.
May the lighting of this candle be a reminder of the memories we have shared with you.
A representation of the everlasting impact you have made on our lives.

That is way too sad. If I ever get married, I would like to remember my mother in some way, but if I heard that during my wedding, I think I would burst out into (not happy) tears. I love the idea of incorporating favorite flowers into your bouquet, I read that somewhere else once, and I liked it then too. My mother loved yellow roses, so if I marry, my bouquet will be yellow roses.

 

[Kismetdreams]

We had my grandfather (who has passed) and my grandmother (who is not healthy enough to travel), as well as my hubby's grandparents (all but one gram had passed) mentioned in our program, as well as in prayers during the ceremony. Also, we had each wedding photo of our grandparents framed and placed on the cake table, around the cake to commemorate them.

 

[JandJ]

My mom passed 4 months before our wedding. I found a small vase that was inscribed "In Loving Memory of (mom's name) Who is Present in our Hearts" and I had Disney floral put a long stem peach rose (mom's favorite) in the vase and we set it on a table next to my daddy at the ceremony. Rev. Jack said a little prayer in mom's remembrance before the start of the ceremony, but we didn't want to make the sadness of losing mom the focal point of our ceremony - mom would have hated that too - and the guests, including daddy, said it was very nicely done, simple and sweet, and just right. Here's a picture of the vase and rose (with DH and me behind it, our Disney photographer did a beautiful job of capturing it)

 

[IHeartWayne]

I really couldn't imagine ever walking down the aisle without my dad (who passed away almost 10 years ago).
So, my mom gave me a heart shaped locket with my dad's pictures in it; had "Daddy" engraved on it and I pinned it on the inside of my dress right above my heart.
I know he was with me that day, because it was absolutely perfect!!