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[Sparx]

Number 5 sounded like my first terrible experience with a guy. It was horrible.


I figured I would broaden the subject matter of the thread, so it is just about relationships in general

1, 2, 5 were the worst. I don't regret them, because they taught me to respect myself and that I deserve better than that. But I really wish I could have learned that lesson in a better way. I don't have any bad memories about 3/4, but I learned in those that its hard to go from being friends, to dating, and back to friends, if you truly cared about each other.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

1, 2, 5 were the worst. I don't regret them, because they taught me to respect myself and that I deserve better than that. But I really wish I could have learned that lesson in a better way. I don't have any bad memories about 3/4, but I learned in those that its hard to go from being friends, to dating, and back to friends, if you truly cared about each other.

I agree, it was a very hard lesson to learn, and I do regret hurting my family, and I wish that I had done things differently, but you're right. It taught me to respect myself, and not to try to be the person who wants to fix broken people. They just bring you down with them.

I always thought it was best to date strangers because you don't have the complicated "lets be friends like we once were" but I also heard that your boyfriend/girlfriend should be your best friend. Confusing.

 

[Sparx]

I agree, it was a very hard lesson to learn, and I do regret hurting my family, and I wish that I had done things differently, but you're right. It taught me to respect myself, and not to try to be the person who wants to fix broken people. They just bring you down with them.

I always thought it was best to date strangers because you don't have the complicated "lets be friends like we once were" but I also heard that your boyfriend/girlfriend should be your best friend. Confusing.

My boyfriend is my best friend. But we didn't start that way, if that makes sense. we didn't go from friends-dating. we went from kind of casual acquaintances to dating.

 

[wilmabride'sdaughter]

Ok, so my past life is a bit complicated and i'm not really going to go into it, but i used to live in the north of England until about 3 years ago, when i moved to come and live with my mam.
I don't really keep in contact with my friends from my old school, but i have their facebooks and stuff. But there's my one best friend that i've kept in touch with since i moved, and we talk about everything.
So last year, i was talking to her about when i was going up to visit my family and that i'd meet up with her, and her boyfriend took over her phone and asked me if i'd meet with his friend and i agreed that i would. I guess it seems kinda weird, because i didn't know this guy and so it's weird that i agreed to meet his friend, but he was/is the boyfriend of my best friend, so i decided that it wouldn;t be that bad, as long as she was with me.
Anyway, he gave me his friends number, but i didn;t text him straigfht away i thought if this guyy was interested in meeting me he'd text first. And i wanted to be sure that he wasnt texting me because he felt like he had to, and that he was texting me because he genuinely wanted to talk to me. And after that we texted each other loads. It literally took us days then we were texting all the time.
So when the time came to me going up to visit my family and stuff, I arranged to meet them. And i liked him instantly. I mean, i knew i liked him before i met him, we texted all the time about everything and anything just to keep talking to each other. And so when i met him all these feelings just got better, i loved the fact that he was so down to earth and friendly. And after a while we started to meet up without my best friend and her boyfriend and we used to flirt MAJOERLY. I mean like, we used to go to the coves on the beach and just cuddle and chat.
And so when i went home i got a little upset about leaving him, because i started to really like him. And the day after i got home, he asked me out. Sure he asked me out over text but it was the only way he could, and to be fair it was pretty sweet. And ever since then we've been going out. The last time i saw him was August last year, and it is really hard not seeing each other for so long, but we love each other SO much we reckon that if it's meant to be then we will be able to survive the distance. I love every second i spend with him and i got really upset last time i left him.
We're still going strong, and we've talked about everything and anything. I'm not afraid to tell him anything, and we've talked about anything from babies to marriage. He's almost like my best friend as well as my boyfriend.
I love him to peices and i would never have thought we'd get this far but we have, and i love it . I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else, it just never seems to picture the same.


So yeah....i'm going to shut up now xD

 

[BmxAsh]

Im single as well although its quite complicated. Basically the guy i like is one of my best mates. We first became friends when we were like 10 and we absolutely hated each other. Things have kind of changed since then! We are now both 16 and we both know we like each other which is awkward enough but neither of us will just go for it. He can be a bit of a player, flirting with other girls while im there but then he is so sweet at other times. He keeps making comments (sometimes a bit inappropriate seen as we arent together!) about the two of us but i just cant take him seriously. We had an arguement a few weeks back and it ended with him saying that the worst mistake hes made is saying no to me, btw not that i asked him out. And last night we went out and he had his arm around me and he was flirting with me so much and being just generally nice. And if we argue he will text me straight after apologising to me.
He spoke to my friends about us and he said that he didnt know what to do, that his heart was saying go for it but his head was saying dont because it might ruin the friendship. We are really good friends so we shouldnt like each other, right?
I told myself i was over him but then everytime i see him i fall for him again and its starting to do my head in because i know it cant happen between us.
We'd not seen each other in a week till last night and he said he'd missed me and i felt the same.
It has been like this for months now, people at school keep asking if we are going out and although it doesnt seem to us that we are close, it does to evreyone else.

So as you can see im confused! We really shouldnt like each other if we are such good friends but i guess we couldnt help it. But still hes quite shy and to an extent so am i thats why we are in such a mess!!!

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

That is such a cute story Willmabride :]

And Ashby, maybe you guys can just talk about being in a relationship. It's really hard to make the gesture, but it really seems like he likes you, so it could be worth it!



I have an update on my situation... it pretty much sucks...

So I was talking to Ben today, and he was flirting alot, asking me if I thought he looked sexy, and I was messing around with him, and he says how he likes spending time with me because I make him happy, so I go,
"Why don't why hang out?" to which he replies
"I don't know, we're really good friends, but I don't hang out with people after school." or something like that...
and I continue with "You wouldn't like to go bowling or something?"
and he goes, " not really." And asks me if he hurt my feelings.
Of course I say no, even though it did hurt me...

But then he walked with me out of class and was telling me about his friend who wants to ask a guy to prom, and he was telling me that his advice was that girls shouldn't ask guys to prom, because if the guy doesn't like you he won't ask you...
and I tell him, that girls like me who aren't going to get asked need to ask the guy...


I am just confused, and a little upset...

 

[lilmissdisney216]

I have kinda news for those who don't know....

IM ENGAGED!!!!!

 

[telescope]

We both noticed eachother in the hallways long before we actually talked to eachother. The first time I saw him, and this sounds really really corny and cliche, my heart skipped a beat. I always thought he was adorable but I never thought we would actually talk or anything. Then I stopped seeing him at school but never really forgot about him, once in a while he'd cross my mind. I never knew his name so i'd just be like "I wonder how that cute boy is doing." So a year or so passed and I never saw him around or anything and it made me a little sad sometimes because something about him was not letting me forget. Then the following year I was sitting with my friends at lunch when he came and sat with us because we had a mutual friend. It took me a second to recognize who he was because he looked more mature. So he sat with us at lunch everyday and once in a while we'd exchange glances or something. The whole time i'd be like "pleeeeeaassseee talk to me" in my head haha.
So I gave him a little paper star one day, I don't know why though. Then he sent me a message on Facebook that night saying thank you for the star and stuff. We talked for hours that night and almost every night for a couple days. We somehow got to talking about where we lived and he was describing where he lives and it sounded just like my area. It turns out we're pretty much neighbors. So that night I told him to meet me in this area by our houses and he said alright. It was freeeeeezing and it was a full moon and all the stars were out and we met and it was perfect. We exchanged numbers and started talking a lot more and he would tell me that he saw me a longgg time ago and thought I was adorable and he would think about me sometimes wondering where I was and stuff. It was like he felt the same way I did. It was really cool. So we started hanging out a lot and talking and we both reallyyy started to like eachother. And now we're dating and everything is great :] We both make eachother really happy. I hope this story made sense haha.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

That's so cute telescope!

 

[DramaQueen]

that's such a cute story tyler

and congrats on your engagement lilmissdisney216