Registry Question

[PrincessBride07]

I realize I have some time before this becomes an issue, but I am going back and forth on registering for gifts or not. First off it is a small wedding, but we are planning a reception at home. I don't know if it is appropriate to ask our guests to spend their money to come to our wedding, and then tell them we have registered somewhere. The same feeling goes with the at home reception, do you inform them of a registry when they weren't invited to the wedding? What did you guys do?

 

[Gina Loves Disney]

Yes for the guest who will be at the home reception

no to the guest who travel to disney

Just MHO though

 

[princessdisneybelle]

I just tell people that ask. It's on the wedding website, so if others want to know they can look.

 

[lurkyloo]

Ettiquette says the bride and groom are not supposed to tell anyone where they're registered (especially not in the invitations) and that it's up to friends/parents/members of the bridal party to get the word out.

Doing this would solve the problem of whom to tell because you wouldn't tell anyone - just be sure your friends/parents/bridal party knows the answer!

 

[IrishCinderella]

I didn't want to register at all.

My DH and I had been living together forever, and we didn't need a toaster or pots and pans and such. DH and I also didn't want people spending additional money on wedding gifts. We really just wanted people to come share the day, and not worry about a gift.

Then...my mom and MOH weighed in, and I thought there might be some sort of wedding-related mutiny. Seriously, I have never seen women freak out that fast. I relented. I agreed to register only for formal china and stemware, since that is one of the only things we had not already bought for ourselves and probably wouldn't.

I then complicated matters by not agreeing to having a bridal shower. My nickname during planning was the "Anti-Bride". You might be able to tell why.

In the end though, my mom, maid-of-honor and bridesmaids surprised me with a shower the day before the wedding (in Florida). I then understood the value of having some sort of registry...well, I didn't, but the bridal shower guests certainly did.

I agree, though, that it's up to your families and wedding party to inform everyone where you have registered. Although, in this day and age, I don't see the problem with putting a link on your wedding website.

 

[dznystar]

We are registering, probably just at target and bed, bath and beyond. DF and I have also been living together for a while, and have an overflowing house with all of our things and my 3 year old son. We're hoping for gift cards or money from people rather than lots of gifts. Anything we get will be used to pay off the wedding debt. But the things we picked out for our registry were things that we wanted, but wouldn't spend money to buy ourselves.

 

[DisneyFairy19]

I am putting a crate and barrel insert in my wedding invite.. but my guests can choose what they want to do..Kind of tough I feel bad that they are spening money to come up to orlando..... we will see