Registry annoucements

[toyotaae86lg]

How early do you sent out the annoucements for the honeymoon registry? I'm about 11 months away is it too soon?

 

[WDWAurora]

What do you mean send them out? Generally, at least in my experience, etiquette experts recommend to let people ask you, or your family members, about registries. Announcing them can indicate that you are making the assumption you'll get a gift, as well as telling them what to get you. What I did was make sure bridesmaids, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. knew where I was registered and left it at that.

This could be different for honeymoon registries, though. I'm not all that familiar with them. I understand what they are, but I haven't known anyone IRL that had one. Do they provide you with some sort of announcement? We were given cards to put in with our wedding invitations from our registries, but that's definitely a big-time etiquette faux pas, at least here.

I hope this didn't come across rude, I'm just saying how we do it in NC with normal registries.

 

[Moonpie]

Yes, you are right...it's better not to "announce" any registry. However, if you've got a wedding website, it's okay to display a link to your registries. ...at least I think it's okay!

 

[WDWAurora]

Yes, you are right...it's better not to "announce" any registry. However, if you've got a wedding website, it's okay to display a link to your registries. ...at least I think it's okay!

I would agree with the website. Just not anything you send to anybody.

 

[CivilTwilight]

I too have heard conflicting reports about this. In the case of my family, I wouldn't feel awkward sending them out with my bridal shower invitations. That way they're not with the formal wedding invites. And I'd definitely also get a wedding website together...that's a nice non-chalant way to announce your registry.

 

[Gina Loves Disney]

When DF's brother was married the registry anouncments came with the Bridal Shower invitations... I think that's okay because the bridal shower invites come from the MOH usually.

 

[toyotaae86lg]

I'm glad I posted this...because I do see your reasoning. I thought it might seem rude also. Here's my thoughts those...were having a intimate wedding with only like 15 guests. We were going to send out annoucements after the wedding letting all our family and friends that we had gotten married so knowing our family they would more than likely send gifts and money...so on. I figured I could some how just get them to get me something from the disney honeymoon registry. The hard part is sending something out but not making look like were asking for anything because were not. I figured if i'm going to get gifts after the wedding I would just as rather use it for my wedding and honeymoon. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can do this? Amy (bride) is not having a bridal shower....please let me know if you can think of anything..

 

[Gina Loves Disney]

I'm glad I posted this...because I do see your reasoning. I thought it might seem rude also. Here's my thoughts those...were having a intimate wedding with only like 15 guests. We were going to send out annoucements after the wedding letting all our family and friends that we had gotten married so knowing our family they would more than likely send gifts and money...so on. I figured I could some how just get them to get me something from the disney honeymoon registry. The hard part is sending something out but not making look like were asking for anything because were not. I figured if i'm going to get gifts after the wedding I would just as rather use it for my wedding and honeymoon. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can do this? Amy (bride) is not having a bridal shower....please let me know if you can think of anything..

I do think there is a way to do this that would not seem really rude, if you believe your family is the type not to get offended and think you're just out for gifts.

My suggestion would be this.... have a "Jack and Jill Shower" or call it an Engagement Party, and have either the MOH or Best Man throw it, if there is neither one, have your parents throw it (either or both) and have a party... depending on the time of year and if someone has a home with a nice yard, throw a BBQ, or if it's not a good time of year for that throw a dinner party.... have the person sending the invites (preferably not you guys) indicate on them that they'd like to throw you a shower and that you're having a tiny destination wedding and this is the chance to celebrate all together.

IMHO it is rude to register and ask for gifts if you're not going to do something for those giving the gifts.

 

[toyotaae86lg]

I should have said this before but our two families live in two different states way far from us. The only people that live in town here are her parents and mine....I could still have a party but none of our families would come...because they live so far away.

 

[Gina Loves Disney]

I should have said this before but our two families live in two different states way far from us. The only people that live in town here are her parents and mine....I could still have a party but none of our families would come...because they live so far away.

I think you have a unique situation on your hands then.... so did you choose the intimate because no one could travel to the wedding anyway? If so I would say that you're okay in sending wedding plan anouncements to family members including registry information, but I would have your parents do it.... then after you or your parents (preferably) send the registry info I think it would be cool to send the family little news letters showing them the steps in your planning so they feel like a part of it even though they can't be there. I think in your situation that's fine because it seems like they wouldn't be able to go even if invited, right? It would be different if they'd like to go, and could go, but I think it's fine, but like I said, have your parents send the first letter....

 

[toyotaae86lg]

Yes you are correct. That is why we picked intimate wedding because our majority family live in ohio and mississippi so even if we did invite them to our wedding they more than likely wouldn't be able to come. I like the idea of letters updating our family on how we are progressing in our wedding and then maybe attaching the disney honeymoon registry..thanx

 

[Gina Loves Disney]

Yes you are correct. That is why we picked intimate wedding because our majority family live in ohio and mississippi so even if we did invite them to our wedding they more than likely wouldn't be able to come. I like the idea of letters updating our family on how we are progressing in our wedding and then maybe attaching the disney honeymoon registry..thanx

you're welcome! Glad to help! I think it's a fun idea showing people how it was since they can be there... keep them involved in the plans and send them some pics, or links to pics when it's over and everyone will be happy!