Really missing my dad today.

[binny]

If you have lost a parent do you have days like this?

Its been almost 12 years now. Sometimes it still feels as raw as it did then.

Thanksgiving was really hard this year too. Why is it so much harder sometimes?

 

[4greatboys]

Yes I still do have bad days. My mom has been gone 6 years on Dec 13. Most days Im pretty good. Some days are really bad and I will just be going about my usual business and bust out in tears.
And I find when I try to talk to someone one about my mom I usually end up crying then too. Honestly I think it will always be like this, the bad days mixed in with the good.

 

[mickeyboat]

, binny. THe holidays are such a tough time. I miss my MIL every day. Almost four years later I still can't picture my life without her.

Denae

 

[luvwinnie]

I am right there with you. 17 mths since I lost my mom...I think about her and miss her constantly and yes, some days are just much worse. Since right before Thanksgiving I've been crying a lot and I'm just so emotional. It still does not seem quite POSSIBLE for her to be gone.

Hugs to you.

 

[mallcat]

I just lost my dad April 25th. It has been extremely hard. I am still having bad days. It just always feels like something (someone) is missing - and they are. It has been harder still to see my mom try to adjust to living alone. My heart breaks for my dad and my mom who's left behind.

 

[binny]

Im sorry were all going through this.


I was talking to my cousin today who is pretty much my only link to his side of the family (they all love back east) and it just made it so much worse

(((((hugs))))) everyone.

 

[SC Minnie]

My Grandmother passed away the week before Christmas 25 years ago and I still miss her especially this time of year. Christmas has not been the same since.

 

[binny]

My dad died on New Years Eve in 93 so I guess the time of the year makes it worse anyway.

I just feel like a blubbering mess some days, you know?

Part of me feels so stupid about it because its been this long and it SHOULD be easier by now. Most times it is but for some reason Ive really been thinking about him a lot lately.

 

[doxdogy]

My mom has been gone for 12 years on Dec. 20th. It really gets hard around this time of year. Her funeral was on Dec. 23.

 

[Candleshoe]

Fred W Harris
Dad
born March 20 1926
died December 13 1996
missed every single day since

((( Hugs )))

 

[safetymom]

It will be 12 years for my mothers death in a few days. I can still remember after she died going into her closet and all the Christmas presents she had bought and wrapped were in there. Christmas still isn't the same. That was tough but then my husband died 6 months later. So the next Christmas we started new traditions and celebrated at WDW. It isn't the same but it is good now.

 

[MinnieM3]

I'm so lucky. My mom turned 85 yesterday and Dad will be 86 next month.
for you all!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I probably shouldn't even read this thread. Yes, sometimes it hits hard and when you least expect it. I hate that my dad wasn't able to even meet my 3 boys. I do cherish that he was able to meet and hold my DD when she was an infant. Those memories will be with me forever.

Sorry you're having a tough time.

 

[bsnyder]

to all of you who are grieving. I lost my mom in May, and can't believe how hard the holidays are without her.

 

[LoveWDW]

Hugs for all. My mother once told me that "they" say it gets easier with time but that it doesn't. My dear father has been gone 5 years and some days I still miss him sharply. I don't know how many times I've thought that Dad would know this or that.

 

[wvjules]

Its been 12 years for my dad too. Next week is his birthday. It makes me sad that he never saw me got married, never saw his firstgranddaughter, etc. Even though its been 12 years, I still have my bad days too, and we weren't even close. I think of what I missed out on while he was still here and it wasn't too late and that hurts the most. for all of us.

 

[DeborahKlein]

My deepest sympathies and hugs go out to you. My dad's been gone six years November 7, but according to the hebrew calendar, I lit a candle last night for today. It does NOT seem to get any easier, just less "raw". Unless you've been through it, you don't really understand. He was my best friend. I always said that I wanted my children to know him, not be named for him, but it just didn't work out that way.

Deborah

 

[Michie]

Both of my parents have been gone for many years now. I know that when I am stressed, under the weather I do seem to miss them. I think it is just natural. I think the holidays bring out a lot of unresloved feelings for some.

 

[nativetxn]

My father wasn't an ideal Daddy but I still miss him. I'm sorry that you are feeling your loss so keenly today.

Katholyn

 

[geffric]

I usually avoid threads like this since my loss is so new and the emotions are so raw but here I am. My Mom died a year ago in May and since her death, my father was in and out of the hospital with one thing or another. So last year my sibs and I didn't go throught the pain of the 1st year without her as we spent holidays and most of the time worrying about my dad and visiting him in the hospitals and rehab center. But he passed on October 19, 2005. So this year we had our first Thanksgiving with out both of them and made it through but some days are worse than others... to all who are in emotional pain