RANT: If you are going to diet, then diet!

[FireDancer]

I eat very healthy every day. With very few exceptions I can find a way to eat healthy no matter where we eat. I will order an entree without a heavy sauce or get a half portion. It is not all that difficult if you put in a little effort.

It sounds like your relative was either manipulating you or has absolutely no self control once they are in front of a menu.

 

[Veronica Lodge]

Of course you would be wanting to stir up some drama. Otherwise, you would realize that it wasn't any of your business. He was no more required to share his meal selection process than you were to share yours.

Once the person insisted we go to a restaurant that had WW meals, he made his food selection my business. If the guy wanted to keep his diet or food preferences to himself, he would have not made such a big deal [rejecting FOUR other restaurant choices b/c the didn't have WW selections].

Sorry, he sounds like a rude SOB and that is all.

 

[C.Ann]

It was not appropriate for him to inconvenience others like that, but I do want to mention an experience a former co-worker of mine had with Weight Watcher's and their point system..

Monday morning through Friday afternoon she strictly adhered to the diet and point system.. She faithfully walked every night after dinner - regardless of the weather.. Friday evening through Sunday night was a "free for all".. She ate anything she wanted - as much as she wanted.. In one year, she lost over 100 lbs. - and is now just a tiny, petite little thing..

On the weekends, no one ever would have assumed that she was dieting.. I wonder if this might be something the OP's family member is doing?

Just a thought - and certainly doesn't excuse the inconveniences..

 

[sbell111]

Once the person insisted we go to a restaurant that had WW meals, he made his food selection my business. If the guy wanted to keep his diet or food preferences to himself, he would have not made such a big deal [rejecting FOUR other restaurant choices b/c the didn't have WW selections].

Sorry, he sounds like a rude SOB and that is all.

The OP didn't say that he insisted on anything. He did not like several suggestions. That's different from making people change restaurant plans that were already made.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

The OP didn't say that he insisted on anything. He did not like several suggestions. That's different from making people change restaurant plans that were already made.

You are really reaching, here...

 

[minkydog]

Sounds like someone is using their "diet" to manipulate others. Even if this person really is on a diet, I would not alter my plans for their diet. They could find a way to work it in, or they could stay at home...

That does sound very manipulative. Best excuse ever to do exactly what he wanted to do, because who would want to come off as unsupportive to a dieter?

My diet doesn't affect anybody around me. I can go to any restaurant and find a meal with a reasonable count of fat and calories and/or I can cut the meal in half to take home.

I'm not sure I would have called the person on it because he just would have made it out like you were being unsupportive, but I think I'd just avoid eating with this person, or suggest we split up for meals.

I agree. This was quite manipulative and I wouldn't have stood for it. We have 4 family members who have diabetes within the closest extended family. I have never heard one of them use their "diet" as an excuse to get their way.

I think that you are being too hard on him.

I can totally understand making decisions that would inconvenience others such as wanting to walk to burn a few calories or to choose restaurants because they offer food that is good for me. Still, I might certainly slip and not be able to resist that stuff that I shouldn't eat.

Dieting is hard. If it were easy, we would all be trim.

Dieting is hard. Those of us who will be successful on diets have to learn to eat the food that is available. Heck, I'm on WW now and I can eat pretty much anywhere except a wedding cake shop! There is no excuse for someone to bully the rest over food.

Then you must not be part of my family

When family vacations, my mother INSISTS that EVERYONE must do everything together because that is the point of it. We waist hours trying to decide on a place that will make everyone happy because mom says we have to everything together

Erg. My mother. the last big family reunion we went to Yellowstone. Even though I had made it clear that we would be following our own touring plan and would meet everyone for dinner, Mother wanted to do everything together all day every day. Have you ever tried to organize trips and food for 32 people in a National Park the size of Rhode Island?? I was ready to throttle her by the second day. In fact, we had a big blowup over the fact that I had not returned her calls. Hello! National Park! Do you see a cell phone tower anywhere?

OP, you were way more patient than I would have been. The first day I would have been my gift to them. The second day we would have had a "come to Jesus" meeting. and the third day I would have just called a cab and left them standing on the sidewalk. Life is too short to fuss so much about food.

 

[MushyMushy]

It was not appropriate for him to inconvenience others like that, but I do want to mention an experience a former co-worker of mine had with Weight Watcher's and their point system..

Monday morning through Friday afternoon she strictly adhered to the diet and point system.. She faithfully walked every night after dinner - regardless of the weather.. Friday evening through Sunday night was a "free for all".. She ate anything she wanted - as much as she wanted.. In one year, she lost over 100 lbs. - and is now just a tiny, petite little thing..

On the weekends, no one ever would have assumed that she was dieting.. I wonder if this might be something the OP's family member is doing?

Just a thought - and certainly doesn't excuse the inconveniences..

I'm so glad to hear that! That's what I've been doing with my diet and I've been a little discouraged about it because the weight's coming off so slowly. However, having my weekends free is helping me to stick with it, so I'd hate to give that up.

But the rest, I do agree with you. Anyone on WW should be able to eat anywhere and know how to stay within their points range.

 

[sbell111]

The OP didn't say that he insisted on anything. He did not like several suggestions. That's different from making people change restaurant plans that were already made.

You are really reaching, here...

No, I'm not.

The next day he rejects the first 4 restaurant suggestions (because they won't fit into his diet)...

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

No, I'm not.

Yes, you are. He rejected them, using his diet as an excuse, as proven out by his choices when he ate there. The evidence is to be found in the actions, not the words...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Yes, you are. He rejected them, using his diet as an excuse, as proven out by his choices when he ate there. The evidence is to be found in the actions, not the words...

It is called manipulation.

I agree that you were pretty patient OP.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Based on the thread title, I was ready with a mildly snarky response.... but in fact, I agree with you 100%. And I also just joined WW last week.

 

[lovetoscrap]

The ultimate outrage is that I will bet you $10 he goes to his next WW meeting and blames his lack of loss or gain on the fact that his family made him make bad choices on vacation!

 

[redlight]

Yes, you are. He rejected them, using his diet as an excuse, as proven out by his choices when he ate there. The evidence is to be found in the actions, not the words...

I agree with you. It was manipulative. The best you could possibly say is that he was not consciously aware that he was being that manipulative (but I even doubt that).

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

Based on the thread title, I was ready with a mildly snarky response.... but in fact, I agree with you 100%. And I also just joined WW last week.

Does that mean you'll be limiting scrapple to weekends only?

 

[Papa Deuce]

Does that mean you'll be limiting scrapple to weekends only?

I only eat it once a month now.

 

[shortbun]

Dieting is hard. It's easier when there are good choices BUT the dieter doesn't always make good choices-that's why they are dieting in the first place. Some of you guys are really quick to judge. Was the food at the restaurants horrible? Why not give the guy every opportunity to do well. Sounds like he was struggling to me but having good intentions. Also-sometimes what actually fits on WW or on a 'diet' isnt' what non dieters expect. Perhaps he didn't do as badly as the OP thinks. Ordering ice cream in a restaurant is often the safest place to do it because the rest of the half gallon isn't in the freezer calling your name. See, I have experience and it's obvious some of you are civilians.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Dieting is hard. It's easier when there are good choices BUT the dieter doesn't always make good choices-that's why they are dieting in the first place. Some of you guys are really quick to judge. Was the food at the restaurants horrible? Why not give the guy every opportunity to do well. Sounds like he was struggling to me but having good intentions. Also-sometimes what actually fits on WW or on a 'diet' isnt' what non dieters expect. Perhaps he didn't do as badly as the OP thinks. Ordering ice cream in a restaurant is often the safest place to do it because the rest of the half gallon isn't in the freezer calling your name. See, I have experience and it's obvious some of you are civilians.

I have been working to control my diet, not on a diet, for my entire adult life. My entire family (except me) is over weight. If I relax, I will be, too. I still see this guy as manipulative...

 

[FireDancer]

Sounds like he was struggling to me but having good intentions.

Hell was short of pavement, so luckily his good intentions came along.

 

[redlight]

Hell was short of pavement, so luckily his good intentions came along.

 

[Stacerita]

The ultimate outrage is that I will bet you $10 he goes to his next WW meeting and blames his lack of loss or gain on the fact that his family made him make bad choices on vacation!

Of course.