Raising Money for School Tuition??

[kwelch10377]

A girl that I am friendly with from my jiu jitsu class is going back to college in Sept. Last night she posted a link to a website called Gofundme.com asking people to donate money for her to go back to school. She said she needs raise $400 by the end of next week for her fall semester tuition.

Now stuff like wedding/baby registries or honeymoom registries don't bother me and I am all for people including the registry info in invites. I also don't have a problem with things like school fundraisers. This though seems like a bit much.

Am I the only one that thinks it is a bit over the top to ask other people to pay for your tuition? (other than maybe your parents) I would think that she would have thought of wether or not she has the funds before she decided to go back to school.

 

[OhioMom02]

ITA. A college education is a choice, not a requirement.

 

[indygirl99]

ITA. A college education is a choice, not a requirement.

Depends on which side of the unemployment line you are standing on.

I don't see this as any different than baby shower/birthday/wedding shower requests.

Now how I would respond to the request would depend on what I know of the person and if I thought it would help make a difference.

Call it a judgment call.

 

[hereyago]

Wow, that is obnoxious. Yes, I would love to give someone who has planned to start classes in a couple weeks and hasn't planned it appears in advance to pay for it then thinks people should just jump in to help at her procrastination and ability to plan ahead lol, NOT.

 

[torinsmom]

I would reply with a link to the FAFSA site. She may be able to get grants and would almost definitely be able to get a federal loan(unless she has defaulted on one)

 

[bdcp]

IMO, its not anywhere near the same as a baby shower, wedding shower, or birthday. If you can't afford to go to school, work and save until you can. Sorry, but college is not required. Unemployment currently has almost nothing to do with whether or not anyone has a degree. You don't ask acquaintances for money, ever. She needs to talk to her college finance dept and see if they can work out something for that very small amount. I'm curious about how old she is.

I also have to wonder about the fact she can afford jujitsu classes but not have enough for her tuition....

 

[iheartdisney]

I am no longer surprised by what people will request money for. Earlier this year a friend of a friend posted a link to her website to contribute to her divorce expenses.

 

[WDWJDS]

IMO, its not anywhere near the same as a baby shower, wedding shower, or birthday. If you can't afford to go to school, work and save until you can. Sorry, but college is not required. ....

Sorry, but having a baby or getting married are also not required (and I suppose you could say that people should wait until they can afford to buy everything for themselves before they do these things, lest they need to have a shower and expect gifts).

Now would I do this type of thing to gain funds for DD's college - not a chance - but not because college isn't required.

 

[curious3069]

Eh, to each his own...not really all that different from a Kickstarter project. She can put it up there but that doesn't mean anyone is being forced to donate.

 

[Nohal]

Wow I can't believe people anymore. That is just ridiculous. Maybe she needs to get a job and save some money and apply for the next semester.

 

[brmom]

Was it a bible college... This is fairly common for that type of school.

 

[DebbieB]

Only $400?

 

[kwelch10377]

IMO, its not anywhere near the same as a baby shower, wedding shower, or birthday. If you can't afford to go to school, work and save until you can. Sorry, but college is not required. Unemployment currently has almost nothing to do with whether or not anyone has a degree. You don't ask acquaintances for money, ever. She needs to talk to her college finance dept and see if they can work out something for that very small amount. I'm curious about how old she is.

I also have to wonder about the fact she can afford jujitsu classes but not have enough for her tuition....[/QUOTE]


I am not sure what the deal is with class anymore for her. She hasn't been in a few months and one of the guys said she is coming back, however she also recently got married to one of the instructors so I don't know if she gets to go to class for free now.

Wow I can't believe people anymore. That is just ridiculous. Maybe she needs to get a job and save some money and apply for the next semester.

I know she was working. I have only talked to her a little thru FB since she hasn't been to class lately. I am not sure if she is working and going back to school or what the whole deal it.

Only $400?

I think that is all she needs just for right now. I have no idea what she is in need of long term. She might not have been able to get grants/loans in time since she just decided to go back to school about a month ago.

 

[Laura66]

I don't know - maybe I'm old-fashioned. I don't buy anything or go anywhere unless I have the money to PAY for it MYSELF!

 

[mhsjax]

Sorry, but having a baby or getting married are also not required (and I suppose you could say that people should wait until they can afford to buy everything for themselves before they do these things, lest they need to have a shower and expect gifts).

Now would I do this type of thing to gain funds for DD's college - not a chance - but not because college isn't required.

Around here showers are thrown by friends. Not family or you yourself asking for money.

I had a bridal shower and a baby shower, I never asked for either, I was told by friends that they were throwing them and I had to enjoy it.

Big difference that putting up a site that asks for money.

 

[bdcp]

Sorry, but having a baby or getting married are also not required (and I suppose you could say that people should wait until they can afford to buy everything for themselves before they do these things, lest they need to have a shower and expect gifts).

Now would I do this type of thing to gain funds for DD's college - not a chance - but not because college isn't required.

I never said having a baby or getting married was required. I said college wasn't and I'm not paying for anyone other than my own children to attend (which we did). But, they are far from the same thing. A shower is to celebrate the birth of a baby or a marriage and birthday party is to celebrate a birthday. College tuition is to pay for college, not to celebrate anything. Not the same thing at all.

 

[WDWJDS]

You know, I see so many threads about people getting upset over registries/invitations/requests for gifts and such.

No matter how you word it, it's basically the same result. Something new is happening in someone's life, someone has desires for something to assist in this new endeavor, and other people are expected to oblige. Whether you put the request on a shower invitation or ask for people to contribute towards tuition, you're still hoping for the same result.

Sure, you can wrap it up all pretty and spray it with perfume, but the end result is the same - wanting something and hoping your family and friends will provide it for you.

I don't have a problem with it though.

 

[Tink888]

Eh, doesn't surprise me, and I don't have a problem with it. I've seen people asking for worse things. I wouldn't want one of my kids doing that though.

As far as donating, I probably wouldn't. I guess it would depend on how well I knew the person and their circumstances. I'd be more likely to give if I knew this person was really struggling and trying to better themselves as opposed to someone with a history of expecting hand-outs.

 

[disykat]

Around here showers are thrown by friends. Not family or you yourself asking for money.

I had a bridal shower and a baby shower, I never asked for either, I was told by friends that they were throwing them and I had to enjoy it.

Big difference that putting up a site that asks for money.

Agreed. People showering you with gifts is not the same as asking for it. I also don't believe registering for gifts so people who want the information will know what you need is begging for things.

 

[WDWJDS]

Agreed. People showering you with gifts is not the same as asking for it. I also don't believe registering for gifts so people who want the information will know what you need is begging for things.

People picking out dozens of items that they desire and putting into a registry for others to purchase it for them is the same as telling someone that you want this item, if they want to buy it for them.

Sounds pretty similar to saying that this student would like $400 for school and if anyone wants to contribute to the fund, they are more than welcome.