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[minnie56]

I would not charge my child who was going to college any rent....period.

Ditto.

You sound like you have your head screwed on properly. The BEST of luck to you!!

 

[HMJ15]

Well, my situation was a little different than yours sounds... I lived with my in-laws (groan) while I was going to community college. My hubby and I paid them $100 a week and helped out with stuff around their house. My parents (who are AMAZING) paid for my car insurance, carried me on their health insurance, paid my tuition (they had money set aside for me and my sisters to go to school), and other small expenses. I did work a lot during my first 2 years, then for the last year I worked less due to the harder classes I was taking and I had clinicals to do as well. Sorry to hear that you had such a rough day. Hopefully you'll come to an understanding with your mother. And good luck with school. I was all about not taking classes unless I really needed them.

 

[cadchick]

It would have been wonderful if my parents could have paid for my education. But that was never a possiblity. It would have been nice if I lived rent free, but that wasn't in the cards either. It would have been wonderful if one day a week of work could have fully supported me, but it didn't. Your education is your dream to fulfill, not your parents. The fact that they contribute one dollar, let alone cover it all is truly a blessing from god. Treat it as such and prepare yourself for the day when you have to cover it all by yourself. Many people do and its not as hard as it seems. When its your dime and your time, suddenly the extras like an honors program don't seem so important. The real world that you haven't experienced fully yet dictates that we all must multi-task and that includes working more than one day a week for most. Its better to ween yourself now from your parents pockets and show them what a great child they raised than to go kicking and screaming into adulthood. Times are hard. But this is the best time ever to learn to take care of your needs.

 

[Took]

I would not charge my child who was going to college any rent....period.

MTE. As for the Honors Program, I'd be encouraing DD to stay in!

I will say that, for those who qualify and keep up with the extra work, our college's Honors Program not only is free, itself, but comes with a full tuition stipend. Of course, we're only a CC....

Took

PS And, in contrast to many here, I would not encourage my daughter to work more. I speak as one who did not work, studied a LOT, earned high marks at a very good college, and got a FULL ride through graduate school as a result (I literally did not need any loans for anything in grad school). Sometimes, it pays to get the most out of your education.

 

[shortbun]

I'd say you should apply for a Fafsfa loan to pay the difference. I think you are right that you should be in the honors program. Just so you know, the fact that your parents finiancial situation does not qualify for aid doesn't mean they are rich. Far from it. It's very possible that coming up with the tuition money not covered by your state aid is sucking them dry financially. I would guess that to be the case considering your mother's reaction to the news that you'll be in college longer and it will cost more. It's not unusual to take more than 4 years to graduate, especially in an honors program. Go for it-just find a way to pay for it yourself, like a student loan. As far as you paying them rent...no full time student with a part time job, getting all A's and B's would be paying me rent. Ask your mom to give you a few more jobs to do and monitor your computer time a bit. This should blow over. You are doing fine; just make some adjustments.

 

[golfgal]

Thank you all for your replies. I talked it over a little with my mom last night, and although we have not discussed everything we really talked. I'm going to continue the honors college for the next semester as the credits I am taking would be the same honors or not. I'm going to talk to the advisor after registration when I can actually get an appointment to see her and state my concerns and go from there. Most likely I will be dropping the program because I think it will be best. Thanks again!

That sounds like a good plan. Frankly, being in the honors program will not do much for your future career. As for working only one day a week, my guess is that you should be able to easily pick up more hours given your schedule and your major. I hate to say it but the elementary ed major is not all that rigorous and it isn't uncommon for students to carry 18 credits. All through college I carried 17-18 credit each semester AND worked close to 40 hours/week. I had the ability to get some homework done at work (on campus job) but not always. I don't see why you couldn't either take over all of the household chores, cooking and cleaning, or work more hours--3 nights/week and a shift on Saturday and Sunday should be more then manageable. You spend what, maybe 4 hours/day in class at the most, maybe 2 hours of homework (and that is pushing it), what are you doing the other 10 hours/day of awake time?

 

[aprilgail2]

MTE. As for the Honors Program, I'd be encouraing DD to stay in!
PS And, in contrast to many here, I would not encourage my daughter to work more. I speak as one who did not work, studied a LOT, earned high marks at a very good college, and got a FULL ride through graduate school as a result (I literally did not need any loans for anything in grad school). Sometimes, it pays to get the most out of your education.

I totally agree! I don't want my daughter having to add a job onto her school and study schedule. Funny how people here say that a kids job is school but once they go to college they change their tune to let them work their way through school.