Question about M/F Communication

Maleficent13

<font color=blue>Heh Heh, you're all gonna die<br>
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Background: Saturday night, it is decided that my SO and I will go to my SO's parents on Sunday. I am having lunch at MY mom's, so it will be after that. He has to call his mom Sunday morning to work out details and then he will call me.

My SO called me at 10am on Sunday, while I was out mowing my grass. When I came back in, I got the message and called him back. He asked what was up and I said I had just gotten done mowing. I asked what was up with him, and he said "nothing". I asked why he called. He didn't answer. I asked if anything was going on. He said no. His tone implied I was asking dumb questions. I said "Sorry; I guess I just assumed that when someone calls me and leaves me a message asking me to call him back, he must have something he wants to tell me." Then I ask, "Have you talked to your Mom today?" He says yes. No elucidation, just "yes". I say, "And?" "And what?" he replies.

So, I say, "Ok, I think we should just hang up now and start over later. This conversation isn't working for me."

He responds, "Well, if you would just ask what you wanted to know, we wouldn't have this problem."

Then he proceeds to tell me that he's going to his Mom's at 12:30. I say, "Oh, okay. Did you just want to get together later then?" He says, "You're not coming with me?" I respond, "Well, didn't I tell you last night I was going to my mom's for lunch?" He says yes. I then say, "Well, I can't be in two places at once, can I?" He gets mad, we say some snippy things, and we hang up.

Is it ME? I am so confused about what happened here!!:confused:

Sorry, PD - long post -
 
oye - that sucks...I'm sorry.

but it boils down to this - yesterday was mother's day - you each have your own mother who you wanted to spend time with. I don't see why he got all snippy. I mean - so what if HE got to his parents house at 12:30 and you showed up at 2/3pm AFTER you spent time with your mom.

Yesterday - I went to my mom's, DH went to his mom's....cut and dry. I'm not going to blow my mom off on mother's day to visit MIL, and I don't think my DH would want to do either. Same thing when father's day rolls around.

Sometimes guys can be odd on the phone...have you talked to him since?
 
I talked to him last night for about 20 minutes. I think maybe six actual words were spoken. Finally I said that if we didn't have anything to say we should hang up. So we did.

This is a good guy. I still don't understand how all this happened!
 














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