Quest for the Bride ears - a quasi-anniversary pre-trip report

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Twenty years ago this week I was busy planning our wedding. After a few years of dating, breaking up, dating again, discussing and negotiating, we decided to get married. It was late April and we chose Memorial Day weekend for the big event. As my Mom thought we would regret it if we went to City Hall, we got busy and managed a lovely wedding!

I bought a dress in the Prom Dress Department of Jordan Marsh - white with biggish sleeves and no train. My aunt and sister chose their own dresses as I was too busy for the traditional “choose-awful-dresses-for-your-bridal-party” event. My aunt had her friend do the flowers; they were not exactly what I would have chosen, but they were a gift and they were very pretty. Photographer? My girlfriend. Videographer? My uncle. DJ? None – just the classical music the restaurant had in the background.

Old (pearls), new (shoes), borrowed (veil) and blue (undies) – got it all! We chose an apartment, bought a bed and an ironing board, and received glasses, a hand mixer and The Joy of Cooking at my very-surprise shower. We were set!

Except….we were pretty broke. So we decided not to bother with a honeymoon. After the reception, I stuffed my dress into his car and we drove off to our new apartment. He carried me over the threshold! Then we opened all our cards, prayed for everyone who had come to our little wedding (48 including ourselves!), counted our loot and ordered Domino’s pizza, which we ate off the ironing board. It was just about perfect!

A few months later my new husband told me that we really ought to go visit his Grandmother in Florida. She had not been well enough to come to the wedding and was looking forward to meeting me. Then he suggested that, since we would be flying down, we ought to take a little vacation while we were there. I started thinking about leisurely mornings, a king size bed, room service, a glass of wine on a terrace somewhere…I was imagining a floaty dress or something like that when I realized that he was still talking. I heard the words – Disney World.

I said – What? He said – Disney World! I said – Oh!

I readjusted my thinking really quick-like – I had been to the Magic Kingdom for a day, once, and Space Mountain had been really cool. There were hotels with king sized beds and room service and wine there – right? OK – this could be nice. I think.

It was a long time ago, but I do remember smiling. Because we were actually going to go somewhere! Alone!! Like real grown-ups!!! Even if it was to Disney World. Still –I was 21 and I was grown-up and I was going to have a honeymoon. :goodvibes
 
My husband…..let’s call him – Jack. He is all for being anonymous online. He is a cop. He just turned 50. He makes me laugh. He is a saver, not a spender. He watches costume dramas with me – even long ones like North and South (the BBC one). He can fix anything. He is absolutely the best father to our children. He does not care for sports. He loves me no matter what.

Where was I?

My husband, Jack, planned our trip to Florida. Five days at Disney, then a week in Tampa with Grandma. {His Grandmother was the most amazing woman I have ever met. She lived to be 101, and did not need a nursing home or any assistance till she was 98!} I don’t remember the name of the hotel we stayed at but I do remember that it was not in the least, um, honeymoon-ish. Not that I would have wanted to spend any more – we are both pretty frugal! But….my vision was pretty dashed! No room service, no terrace, no nothing. So, I got past my embarrassment and asked Jack if he would please request a King sized bed. He did and I immediately felt better – my vision of the long, leisurely mornings returned and I felt good!

Till he reminded me about how we needed leave the room before 8 am. You know, so we would be at the Magic Kingdom when it opened. Now, I knew that he had been telling me this periodically, but I don’t think that it had really sunk in. Ok – maybe a few of the days, but our first morning? Of our first vacation? Really? Really.

So, I girded up the loins of my mind and got ready for an early morning. We hit the TTC early enough to put a big smile on Jack’s face, and we had a blast! I remember a lot of things – riding the carrousel and the People Mover. Space Mountain and the old Tiki Bird show. Figment, but an older version. We bought some Disney Dollars and brought them home – they were so pretty! Lunch on the Empress Lily and shopping in the Marketplace, I think it was called. Buying earrings on Main Street – I still have them!

By the time we left, I no longer felt like I was just humoring Jack – I was looking forward to our next trip! But…it took a few years. Eighteen, actually. We got a little busy with a lot of stuff, including our first child in 1991. And once we had her, we decided that we wanted our children (we were planning a few) to be at least five years old before we would go. So – we waited.
 
So, I am going to get to the hard part as fast as I can.

Baby #1 – I’ll call her…Wendy.
Baby #2 – I’ll call her….Alice.
Baby #3 – I’ll call him….Daniel. Because it is his real name. Daniel was born with a neuroblastoma on his upper spine, which we discovered when he was 5 months old. Surgeries, chemo, radiation, surgeries, just five years of trying everything. He had a long remission when he was three and the good times led to –
Baby #4 – I’ll call her….Jane.
After she was born, things got very bad for Daniel – now we were also dealing with a ventilator and nurses at night so I could sleep. The hard times led to –
Baby #5 – I’ll call him….Michael.
During my pregnancy with Michael, the doctor’s told us that they had run out of options. We were grateful to have several months after that, stayed close to home with Daniel and prayed for a miracle or a peaceful death. And….well, a peaceful death is a blessing.

Fast forward five years or so. It was August and it would have been Daniel’s 11th birthday. My husband and I were talking about him for a while, remembering all the things that you remember. And the conversation moved to Disney stuff – we still have his Tigger and his Fireman Pooh out. Although he loved all things Disney, we had not chosen to take Daniel to Disney World. At first he was too little. Then, when things were better, he was dealing with very brittle bones and casts for several months. Then…well, we just felt that he was too sick. But that day, as we were talking and feeling sad, it was like a blinding light hit me. Michael was FIVE! Shouldn’t we GO???

Did a little research, found the free dining, made our reservations and a plan and a bunch of ADRs and then had 10 marvelous days in Disney a few weeks later. Part of me felt awful that we had never taken him but part of me felt that we had made the right decision, as the trip would have been brutal for him. But he was with us in spirit and watching our other children enjoy themselves just gave us happiness of a kind that we never thought that we would have.
 












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