Purses and family getting into them without permission? UPDATE!!!

[cheermom1]

Just as the title says, how many let their spouses or SO's or their kids in their purse without permission. And the only way you know that someone has been in your purse is b/c something is missing such as money or say lotion or lip balm is gone and only the empty container is left. Just wondering if anyone else would be upset if they found out that someone got in your purse and did this without telling you or without permission? I mean there is a lot of important info in ones purse and if it was lost or something??? I am more upset that this someone was in my purse without permission or even asking me to get it, I would have let them use what they use.

I want to know why I am being labeled as nuts for being upset ONLY after I found an empty container in my purse which is how I know someone was in it. And why i shouldn't be upset that it was all used and the empty container was left like it was no big deal. AND after I said to this person how would they feel if I got into something of theirs without asking (it was something that means A LOT to them) and their reaction was I wouldn't let that happen and walked away!!! BUT I"M THE ONE THAT OVER REACTED?????

 

[happygirl]

My hubby does this all the time. I really wish he would stay out of it. He never puts anything back like I have it. My kids aren't ever allowed to be in it.

 

[Mkrop]

The only one that goes into my purse is DH. He usually asks, it is because he needs money and doesnt have time to tap the ATM. There are times when he has left super early that he did not tell me because he did not want to wake me. Semi annoying but I do prefer to sleep

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

It would really depend if I needed that something they used up right then (like no tissue and it was a messy sneeze), or if I went to pay for something thinking I had money and didn't. Otherwise, I'm fairly easy going and try not to get too worked up about things.

 

[cheermom1]

I don;t mind if my dh takes money as long as he lets me know with a note or something. that a tad different, I can handle that. but the other things is what annoys me and no this was not my dh that used something in my purse and just left the empty container like it wasn't a big deal. and like I said it was more the fact that this person got in my purse in the first place. I don;t like others on my purse for a reason.

 

[JerseyJanice]

If I didn't want my husband or child in my pocketbook, they wouldn't go in there. They're kind of afraid of me.

Seriously, if you don't want them in your bag, put it where they can't get into it easily. Or in a place where you would see them if they tried. Tell them it's off limits and if they want something they think is in there, they must ask you for it.

And if they go into it anyway? Go nuts yelling at them! "If you touch my bag again, I will kill you!" It works for me.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't care but no one wants to look in there. They bring my purse to me.

I get more pissed when my DH cleans out the car and then doesn't put my stuff back.

 

[cheermom1]

If I didn't want my husband or child in my pocketbook, they wouldn't go in there. They're kind of afraid of me.

Seriously, if you don't want them in your bag, put it where they can't get into it easily. Or in a place where you would see them if they tried. Tell them it's off limits and if they want something they think is in there, they must ask you for it.

And if they go into it anyway? Go nuts yelling at them! "If you touch my bag again, I will kill you!" It works for me.

They all know not to go in it so I didn't think I had to worry. guess I was wrong!! I am still not understanding why I shouldn't be upset? especially after this person got angry with me about their stuff but think it is ok to do the very thing to me that they said I had no right to do to them.

 

[Mermaid02]

Nobody is allowed to get into my purse. NOBODY.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

They all know not to go in it so I didn't think I had to worry. guess I was wrong!! I am still not understanding why I shouldn't be upset? especially after this person got angry with me about their stuff but think it is ok to do the very thing to me that they said I had no right to do to them.

As it wasn't your DH, I'm assuming it was a child that entered into your personal space. And children are not known to be reasonable, especially if they are teenagers.

 

[Motherofboys]

No one is allowed in my purse or in my DH's wallet. We are adults and can have personal items that are private.

DH is always taking cash out of my purse or the debit card and then I am screwed when I go to pay, so my purse is off limits to him too!

My kids know better than to go into my purse without asking, I don't have to hide it from them or put it out of reach.

I am an adult, I am the parent -- they are not. They have different rules b/c they are kids, I know it's

Now that my oldest is 14, we have a lot of the "I'm the rule maker, not you, it doesn't have to be fair" conversations

 

[Handbag Lady]

No one goes into my bag without my permission. It just is the way it is.

If my husband wants to get my iPod to update it, he asks, "Where is your iPod?" and I tell him it is in my bag. THAT gives him permission to go in and he knows which pocket holds the iPod.

OP, you didn't over-react. Stick to your guns and get back to this bag invader and let it be known that this is one thing you are not going to let slide. It would bother me to no end. I have my bag organized a certain way and that is how I like it.

Other people might not be as protective as we are, and that's fine, but they must realize that this is our thing and to respect it.

And they used something and left the empty container? Unacceptable. They've now lost privileges. I don't know what they are, but I'm sure you can come up with something.

 

[cheermom1]

As it wasn't your DH, I'm assuming it was a child that entered into your personal space. And children are not known to be reasonable, especially if they are teenagers.

You guessed it!! I say which one b/c I'll get slammed for it but the thing that was used is something I can only get online and I was trying to make it last till I could place another order without having to order that one thing and the shipping wouldn't have been justified. plus what they used it for was not it's intended purpose anyway.

ETA: it is quite expensive too.

 

[horseshowmom]

I don't have a problem with DH or DD getting something out of my purse. Now if they take something out, I would expect them to tell me they did so (that's just showing respect and good manners).

The problem that I have is that DH's mother was adamant that nobody went into her purse (of course, she had 5 kids, that may have had something to do with it ). Even now (at 53 years old), if he wants something that's in my purse and I tell him to just get it, he won't do it (brings the purse to me). She sure got her point across.

ETA: OP, it's your purse, and you are entitled to make whatever rules you choose to regarding it. The snide remark about they "wouldn't let it happen" would have ticked me off big time. They know you don't want them in your purse, they ignored you. There should be some sort of consequence for that.

 

[DisneyLover83]

It only bothers me if Dh takes cash from my wallet and then I go to buy something and it's not there. It is not a huge deal because I just use my debit card but it is annoying! There is always that split second where I am thinking "Did someone get into my wallet and steal the money?" I would just perfer he always tell me!

 

[cheermom1]

I don't have a problem with DH or DD getting something out of my purse. Now if they take something out, I would expect them to tell me they did so (that's just showing respect and good manners).

The problem that I have is that DH's mother was adamant that nobody went into her purse (of course, she had 5 kids, that may have had something to do with it ). Even now (at 53 years old), if he wants something that's in my purse and I tell him to just get it, he won't do it (brings the purse to me). She sure got her point across.

I can see her point as we have 5 kids together. If I have something missing i know it! I wish they would respect boundaries

 

[agnes!]

You guessed it!! I say which one b/c I'll get slammed for it but the thing that was used is something I can only get online and I was trying to make it last till I could place another order without having to order that one thing and the shipping wouldn't have been justified. plus what they used it for was not it's intended purpose anyway.

ETA: it is quite expensive too.

Expensive substance with a container that's in a purse... sounds like some kind of brand-name makeup, maybe a lip-balm or a concealer or a certain shade of lipstick...

I bet someone used lip-balm to make a squeaking pulley run smoother (or something similar).

agnes!

 

[JerseyJanice]

Well, if yelling doesn't work, a good shot to the back of the intruder's head with the bag should.

This would be me, "I told you to stay out of my purse!!!"

Then I would take said purse and clock that person over the head with it. I'm not big on hitting, if that's what it takes to get the point across...

 

[cheermom1]

Expensive substance with a container that's in a purse... sounds like some kind of brand-name makeup, maybe a lip-balm or a concealer or a certain shade of lipstick...

I bet someone used lip-balm to make a squeaking pulley run smoother (or something similar).

agnes!

WOW you are good!! not only did they use it all but the even dug their figures in there and took every last drop!

 

[mtdevine615]

Been married over 25 years and have never gone into DW's purse. If I need something that's in there I bring it to her. That includes the few times when she has my wallet in there. But likewise she never goes in my wallet. My money clip on the other hand seems to be fair game if someone is running a little short of cash.