Public affection

Discussion in 'Gay and Lesbian at Disney' started by Lexx1214, Oct 3, 2018.

  1. Lexx1214

    Lexx1214 Mouseketeer

    Jul 1, 2017
    Hi everyone,

    I’m hoping this is the right place to post this.

    I’m a mom of a gay son and we are planning a family trip with me, my DH, our son and his boyfriend. DS will be 17 at the time and his bf will be 18. While talking about our plans DS raised an issue we never thought of before. They’ve been together for over a year and are super affectionate - hand holding, hugging, kisses - not full on making out in public but definitely couplely. This has never been an issue at home, we live in a suburb in Ottawa, Canada, and DS has never experienced any bad reactions. But he’s nervous about going down to Disney World in a more conservative area of the US. Is it likely that DS and the bf will get bad reactions? Will they face any flak because one is 18 and the other 17? Will them sharing a room be an issue?

    Anything that can help me reduce his nervousness would be great. TIA
  2. wnwardii

    wnwardii Mouseketeer

    Aug 3, 2016
    This is a perfect place to post this!

    For the most part, I think things will be fine. But I totally understand the concerns. If this trip was to Disneyland, I would say there would be little to no worries. I have seen many same sex couples walking around holding hands or hugging/holding on to each other in queues. I haven't seen this as much at Walt Disney World, but that doesn't mean people don't do it or don't feel comfortable.

    The best advice I would have is to have them be themselves and just be aware of things around them. Is it possible they may hear some snide comments? Possibly. I would hope most people are worrying about getting to the next attraction or next place and not focus on others. I know when I am at WDW, I tend to be more focused on that and not necessarily on other people outside of my group. In queues, this may be a little different since you have time to look at people and your surroundings. If someone starts becoming belligerent, then I would go talk to a cast member. But the best thing to do is to not engage with those other individuals.

    As for the room situation, the only issue I could see is that your son is under 18. I do not know how strict Disney is about having a legal guardian or parent in the same room as the under 18 individual. If you have requested adjoining rooms, this may help alleviate some of those potential issues. I am not a travel agent, nor do I know all of Disney's room policies. But this may be something to ask about to just be 100%.

    Two years ago, I had 4 male friends join me for a big birthday celebration. They had split up into two rooms and none of them were couples. When I made the reservation through Disney and spoke with Cast Members on the phone, I never got the feeling that this was an issue. Granted all of them were over the age of 18, so we didn't have to worry about the legal guardian or parent issue. 20 years ago, when I was in a relationship and we went to Disney, there was no issue back then with us sharing a room.

    Hopefully others may be able to chime in and provide other insights.
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  4. Jason_V

    Jason_V Mouseketeer

    Mar 24, 2017
    I've been to the parks multiple times with my now ex. Never ever had a problem. We were heavy in PDA, but appropriately so. We always held hands, hugged or gave little kisses. Again, nothing scandalous. Never had a problem.

    I have worn my PRIDE cutoff shirt to the parks...again, no problem. I have a rainbow bear claw tattoo which is very visible when I have a sleeveless shirt on. No problem.

    My best common sense advice in any park: make it appropriate. It's a family place.
  5. Hannahinwonderland

    Hannahinwonderland DIS Veteran

    Apr 7, 2014
    I've never witnessed a negative interaction for any LGBTQ couples. Of course I am POSITIVE they happen but I have been to disney many times, did a CP, and never personally witnessed anything despite being lgbt myself and having many friends in queer relationships. I'd say I hope you'd be fine!
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  6. King Dominic

    King Dominic Mouseketeer

    Jun 18, 2017
    Coming from a fairly liberal, straight, married man with kids, who has plenty of gay and straight friends, I don't want to see anyone being obnoxiously affectionate in public, lol. Walking with a hand in their partner's back pocket, heavy kissing, petting, etc. I don't think they will have any more issues than they would anywhere else. And by issues I mean the neanderthals who always have problems with LGBTQ couples. As far as the age and sharing the room question, you are under no obligation to disclose to the staff that they're in a relationship and I wouldn't bring it up. Relax and enjoy your trip!!!
  7. slpeters

    slpeters DIS Veteran

    Sep 7, 2017
    My husband and I went to WDW for a week last November. We've been together for a long time so we don't hang all over each other, but it is abundantly clear that we are a couple. Additionally, we ended up wearing matching 20 year anniversary pins for most of the week--photographers insisted on us doing kiss poses and an astonishing number of guests seemed to want to discuss our relationship, not a bad comment in the batch. Plus, another couple (straight as far as I could tell) picked up our bar tab at Nomad and someone sent over a bottle of Champagne at the hotel bar. I kind of expected well-wishes and freebies from the CMs I was a bit taken aback at how much good will there was from other guests.
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  8. Shanti

    Shanti Momketeer

    Nov 29, 2015
    I'm a native Texan and regular WDW vacationer, and can tell you that no one will be shocked at seeing a gay couple holding hands, hugging, or mildly kissing at WDW.
  9. amberpi

    amberpi DIS Veteran

    Jul 13, 2012
    Ya'll go and do you. I'm also a WDW vet and never had an issue with PDA, I'm positive it will be the same for your boy. Hooray for love!

    ETA: I have a very funny PDA story I need to share on the Dis sometime.
  10. MickleSt

    MickleSt Earning My Ears

    Aug 26, 2018
    Looking forward to being ourselves at WDW in Feb 2019. 31 years together, and it sometimes astonishes me how far we've come. I would never have even held hands when I first went with a boyfriend in 1980. But Disney is one of the companies which has been pretty progressive, starting in the 1990s. And there is a general no-hassle policy at WDW. Cast members turn up to cool things down when you least expect it. You won't even notice some of the security there. So happy for a time when parents are understanding and supportive of their LGBT DS, DD, and trans kids. Oh, and I agree pretty much with King Dominic. I don't want to see anybody making out in public; get a room! :)
  11. Pdollar88

    Pdollar88 DIS Veteran

    Aug 20, 2017
    I was super nervous about this going into WDW with my boyfriend last March. I think I still exercised caution and checked my surroundings, but we definitely held hands, kiss on the cheek, posed for photos as a couple, etc.

    I was put at ease, in each of my trips this year, seeing a number of same sex couples walking around holding hands. I personally never saw anyone bat an eye at that.
  12. stephk1981

    stephk1981 Mouseketeer

    Oct 11, 2013
    I love family trips, you all are going to have such an amazing time! I think as long as your DS and DS bf keep it PG then it's perfectly fine. We live in a conservative area in GA, I have no problem with my children seeing handholding, arm around each other, and quick pecks on the mouth/ cheek. Anything beyond that ( long kisses, hanging all over each other etc.) In my opinion don't belong in a family place from heterosexual or gay couples. Example: two years ago DS ( then 7) and I were in line at Test track. Two teenagers were sticking tongues down throats every few minutes and groping rearends.....not what I wanted my 7 year old to see. I'm sure your teens are better behaved. If it were me, I may remind my teen that it has to be kept family friendly when you and DH aren't around. Hope the four of you have a magical trip!

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