Prom issues

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

Originally posted by amid chaos
I'm glad we don't have these issues...prom is on a Sunday night, kids have to be in school by 8 or they are suspended and seniors have to be there by 10 or they get suspended also.

prom was this past Sunday and everyone was in school...on time!

I don't envy you these decisions...good luck.

And it was the first time except for one day since we got back from March break on the 24th that all the seniors were in school...all 23 of us

 

[worm761]

ok. i will give my opinion. i went to high school just south of cedar point in fremont, ohio. the big thing for prom weekend was to stay in sandusky both saturday and sunday night. monday was senior skip day. our school didnt really expect any of us to show up. as for your son, personally, i think that after a long day at cedar point and a group of teenagers... that is too long of a drive for them to do. i went home but hey, it was about a half hour drive and i was there almost weekly! but your son is looking at about what... a 2 hour drive. after a day in an amusement park? i vote let him go, stay the night. he will prbably drink but he will be in a hotel room. most likely not leaving it. call him in. i would rather call in for my DS and know that he will come home safe. than make him make the decision to drive and God forbid something happen. i love cedar point but you are tired when you leave. let him skip.

 

[TRAPPED-PARENT]

I stand by my earlier advice, if you as the parent are uncomfortable with the situation, then say NO. Many, many times my parents held the minority opinion of their peers -- but they successfully raised 14 children and I'm glad they took their parental responsibilities seriously!! [Of course, I didn't realize how lucky I was to have parents that cared enough to say NO until I got to be 21 or so. LOL]

Do what YOU feel is best.

 

[springsteenmickey]

Seriously, what is the debate here? Your son is 18, wants to “hang with his friends’ on Prom weekend, something he worked so hard for and wants to miss a day of school. If this is the worst thing that your son has ever done or has asked you to do then you did one hell of a good job raising the young man. Let him go, cover for him, let him know that his parents understand. You can always make it clear that you regularly do not condone this behavior but in this situation you will. Have we all forgotten what it felt like to be 18? Also remember one thing regarding the over night party with guys and gals, what your son does at 2 in the morning he can always do at 2 in the afternoon. Show a little of trust and faith in the guy.

 

[Towncrier]

Our school's prom was moved up to this weekend to avoid the Cedar Point post-prom problem. Last year, a large group of students decided to go to CP instead of the organized post-prom activities. They got a couple of hotel rooms and somehow got their hands on a large quantity of beer. They got drunk. They got rowdy. And they got busted. The hotel was right across the street from the police station. One of the students arrested was the son of the school superintendent.

My opinion is that, if your son wants to skip school on Monday, that he should take the responsibility for doing so and not have you call in sick for him.

Parenting is never easy, is it. Good luck with your decision.

Hope you can make it to our picnic on Memorial Day.

 

[tkyes]

Wow - It sounds as if some parents consider this a big monumental decision.

So none of you have ever called in to work "sick" when you weren't really sick? I guess you are all better people than I.


My parents (and the parents of my 9 others in our group) allowed us all to go to prom, drive 3 hours north and stop at a casino to gamble a little then go stay in a hotel. The next day we explored the town and then came home. We all also stayed home the next day for Senior skip day Oh the horror.

I am now an irresponsible adult and have been convicted of multiple felonies.


It's one day - there will be consequences for him to face with some of his classes even if it you call it in for him - some teachers will give large amounts of homework, pop quizes, etc. to punish the students who miss. He'll have to deal with that and I'm sure he is aware of it.

Best of luck with your decision.

Tamie

 

[ChiTownZee]

My graduating senior 18 year old told me that he would not be attending school on Monday following prom weekend.

I don't have a problem with missing one day as much as I do the thought of my teenager "TELLING ME" that he won't be attending school.

 

[FOJMO]

The problem I would have with my DD wanting to stay home on a particular day from school (Prom time or any other) would be that I would be the one put on the spot to lie when calling in "sick" for her.

What she decides she wants to do is one thing, but I don't want to (and won't) have to lie to help her do it!

 

[Minnesota!]

Why would have to lie? All you have to say is "My son/daughter will not be attending school today". If they ask why - tell them the truth. Mental Health. One day is not going to make or break a person. If any of you saying that it is a horrible thing to do, can honestly say that you have never called in sick to work when you weren't, or played hooky as a child, then you are a better person than I. But, give the kid some slack. HE IS A SENIOR!!!! He has earned this right. It is better than him having dropped out in freshman year, after skipping the first 5 months, and doing nothing for the rest of his teenage years but go back and forth to jail. This would be my brother. Look, at least he told you he is not going, rather than just skipping...hiding out somewhere until you left for work. He probably would have faked sick Monday morning anyway, and you would have ended up calling in, regardless. Let him do it.

And, another can of worms - a co-ed party/sleepover is not a big deal. It does not automatically mean sex.

 

[wvjules]

Miss Jasmine, do we have the same mom???? Your prom experience and skip day sound just like mine. LOL

I don't think you necessarily need to lie about why he's not attending school that day. Just call and say "so and so" will not be at school today and leave it at that.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Wow the morality of this place...I often forget. I am surely going to hell. Yep mom lying for me ruined my life. I am unethical, poor worker, lazy, don't owe up to my own faults, have no responsibilty, heck I'm lucky I'm not in jail. At 17 I surely was influenced by my mommy "calling in sick" for me. Nevermind all the pitfalls I was running into with my friends and the decisions I had to make on my own. I hung out with a bit of a wild bunch in which I was the goody-goody. Talk about responsibility.

Come on think back. It's really not a BIG deal if there is TRUST.

 

[Tiger Lily 03]

Wow, thanks for all of your input.

 

[nsyncraider17]

I'm a sophomore in high school. Last weekend was my school's prom, on Sunday a lot of seniors went to King's Island, and Monday was senior skip day. If seniors don't bring a note from their parents, they get an unexcused absence. Most seniors get their parents to write them a note, and a few who don't forge notes from their parents. Since I'm only a sophomore, I only have a few classes with seniors, but there were several people I know who came to school anyway because they have advanced of AP classes that they didn't want to miss. Some even slept in and then came in the afternoon when they have their harder classes.

This is just my opinion, but I think most people who skip don't do it because they actually want to skip school, but becaue it's tradition. To all of you who say this is wrong, did you not have any traditions that went against school rules when you were a senior?? What about senior pranks?? The teachers practically expect the seniors to skip, and most don't really enforce the consequences that day as much as they normally would. I think the administration dislikes it more because of all the extra papers they have to sign than for the students not showing up!

I'm just not seeing that this is a huge issue. One day of skipping school is not going to ruin someone's life, especially if they have been brought up well.

 

[jan/cape]

Now keep in mind I graduated a long time ago (1982). Seniors got out of school approx. 2 weeks before everyone else, so our prom was held during that time so we didn't have the issue of having to show up the next day. We didn't have prom weekend, but my God every weekend there seemed to be a party somewhere. I was too afraid to go to them though.......my dad is a big guy with a voice just a big, if ya catch my drift.
As for skip day......I'm torn, it is a right of passage, but I don't think that I would write an excuse for my daughter, she would have to face the music if she skipped.