prom costs for the guy

[Jenn Lynn]

For our prom we all met at one friends house and all of our parents showed up to take pictures. The limo picked us up there and we were off. The limo will probably only make one stop to pick people up otherwise it will cost more $$$ for more time. Maybe everyone can meet at your house and have the limo pick up the kids there? Then you can invite everyone over for pics.

 

[Tiggeroo]

For our prom we all met at one friends house and all of our parents showed up to take pictures.

This is what I figured would happen. Since son doesn't drive I will have to bring him somewhere. Might as well be where the limo is so I can snap a few photos.

 

[shortbun]

You need to find someone in the know. Find some parents
who went through this last year and find out what the local
customs are. Not all kids around here get a limo-not all go out
to dinner, some have a pre prom party at a home, some do not
go to the after prom as "dates." Even in 1971, my girlfriends and
I paid for dinner and our dresses; the boys paid for their tuxes/suits, flowers and prom tickets. It was about even.
Usually a parent took us or we double dated with an older couple
who had a car. It's not fair to expect the boys family to
pay for everything if it's a first date or just a prom date. Your
son could discuss this with his date. Good luck!

 

[kadaten]

Originally posted by Tiggeroo
Microcell - I kind of agree. I would like to see her help with the limo and pictures. Maybe split a package. Otherwise i'll be driving them there, no license yet, and they'll be taking the bus back. Any thoughts on how I can see the kids together dressed up ?

Many stop back by the guy's house for parent pics (if it isn't TOO far out of the way). Ask your DS if he would mind...

As for photos, I think they should buy their own, unless there are only big packages available then they should split one. Why would he be expected to pay for photos she's going to give to her friends/family? I went to 2 proms and I never expected my date (one casual, one boyfriend) to pick up that expense.....I bought what I wanted.

Other costs:
clothes: each pays their own, of course
transportation....limos weren't big at our school....very few to none did it, but most borrowed a nice car from a parent or friend
flowers: he pays for hers, she pays for his
dinner: since it was a date, the guy paid both times....well, the first one was going to pay, but when it was time for the check, it "had been taken care of" by a family friend as a surprise for our whole group (7 kids at a fancy French restaurant the second guy didn't have a great friend like that, so he paid)
tickets: they were usually very little cost, as our junior class did fund-raisers to defray the cost of the prom. We were at a small school so we were able to make sure that everyone helped with fundraisers... I think our tickets were only $40/couple...
after- these were usually thrown at someone's house and the parents paid for it

A note on your son not driving....one of my dates didn't either (well he did, but his mom never let him borrow the car ) so what we did was invite a friend who planned on going "stag" to go with us! She drove (almost like our own personal chauffer) so we had a ride without parents and she had someone to go with...worked out great for both of us!! That was a serious boyfriend, and my friend hung out with us a lot anyway, so it wasn't a big deal to have her along.....just an idea if a limo's not in the budget but he doesn't want to ride with mom...

 

[Pooh's Pal]

Not sure on the guys standpoint, I have a girl..she is going to the prom, no date!
There are 8 of them sharing everything...5 girls and 3 guys...they are all in the marching band together, they all discussed this at a recent band banquet and decided to go together. They're all splitting the cost of a limo too. and they are all coming to my house 1st with all the parents, off in the limo, to the dinner then to a supervised after the prom "Celebration" (till 5am) with music and really good prizes! My daughter is more excited about the after prom party than the prom itself.
Best of luck to you.....enjoy the night...I'm sure he'll look sharp..take tons of pictures!...(I'd call the girls parents or have him ask her if it's okay for you to come by with the camera!)

 

[KimRaye]

For a few more thoughts, here's my recent thread: http://130.94.75.33/showthread.php?s=&threadid=543734

Since that thread, we went for the tux rental and, it's $95!!!!!!! That's WITH a $40 early-bird Prom special discount!!! This is also for a BASIC black tux, imo. The extra charges included a vest (cumberbund is standard) and, the shoes. $20 for each extra! There went the discount!! But, if I prepaid the entire amount, we got to choose a garter for the 'date'! Mind you, this is a neighbor friend and, not a DATE but, for something free, I prepaid and TOOK IT! Add to all this, this is NOT DS's school even and, he'll know almost no one. I had unfortunately already offered to pay 1/2 the Prom bid ($50 each) because the 'date' is taking care of all the flowers since her uncle's a florist.

As for pictures, the 'date' lives directly across the street from us so, I'll cross the street and, take some pics while her parents do the same.

Now, what to do with that GARTER?!?! No one has mentioned this at all!!

 

[Cindy B]

Originally posted by KimRaye
For a few more thoughts, here's my recent thread: http://130.94.75.33/showthread.php?s=&threadid=543734


Now, what to do with that GARTER?!?! No one has mentioned this at all!!

I know this may be old info.. but at my prom (16 years ago!) The guys did one of two things with the garter...

1) Put it on date/girlfriend

2) Put it on one arm. They would take the jacket off, roll up the sleeve, and the garter would go on the bicep area...

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by mtemm
I think he should cover the traditional costs (tux, tix, corsage, some form of transportation). Does your son have a job? Its been a few years, but I never knew any parents who paid for their kids prom. I would think if your son asked a girl to it, he should find a way to cover some of your costs, if you are generous enough to help him out with it. JMHO

Most of my friends pay almost everything towards their kids proms...very few I know actually had the kids pay themselves Tickets are 100.00 each for the prom here. Almost every kid goes in a limo, which they split with other kids but talking to some other paretns I know of girls if there are 5-6 couples going in a super stretch the limo is split 10-12 ways, each kid pays a portion of the limo. Guys have it easy, just rent a tux, girls have to go out and find a dress to BUY, buy shoes to match, a pocketbook to match, stocking.etc....boy would it be easy to just have to go rent a tux! The after prom weekend they usually split, some of them rent a house out east on the beach for the weekend and others go to the city or six flags....
Oh but they do all meet at one house and take the limo fro there so the parents drive to the other kids house and then they usually all take pictures there.
My god daughter is going to her boyfriends Jr Prom next month and its just liek a senior one! They have gowns and rent limos....so 2 proms in 2 years! YIKES!

 

[Blueeyes101817]

my brother is a senior in high sschool now and getting ready for his prom...
i know he is buying the tickets for him and the date--like 110 dollars...
His tux was 100
the corsage is 25 ish...
food is included..
but the big spending thing this year is a bunch of them are getting a stretch navigator limo which is 88 bucks a person..i think joe may even be paying for her for that...

 

[Blueeyes101817]

o about the camera thing..i went ot my jr prom, not sr..but we all met at one person's house..all the parents came and took about a MILLION pictures...we all just took our own cars..so we left from there.....

After prom, we had a get together at my house..it was like 10 of us..we all just watched movies and fell asleep in the family room..it was fun, but we were all tired..!

 

[BHFan25]

Tiggeroo,
I have a client whose son just did prom. She said it cost her 400.00! His tux was close to 150.00 though. I think the kids ALL split the cost of the limo. I think this was where she felt her money was best spent. She didn't have to worry about them out driving!! I would gladly chip in for the cost of a limo so that I didn't have as much to worry about there--IF I was ever going to let DD go on a date!

I think he should pay for his tux, the tix, her flowers but transportation should be split. It would be wonderful if money grew on trees and all but since it doesn't, I'd ask to split that cost. Unless her family just doesn't have the $, I'd think they'd be happy to chip in. I know I would. Good luck. I hope he has a safe and wonderful time.

Isn't dating expensive these days?

 

[battricia]

I went to prom in 1998, but when I went tuxes were about 100 bucks. My date (who was not a boyfriend, just a friend) insisted on paying for the tickets which were about 60 dollars I believe. I tried to pay but he refused. He drove so we didnt have a limo. My dress cost almost 200 after being altered I'm short and small so it's hard to find anything that fits, which is why I had to have it altered. my mother helped me pay for that, but I did have a job and payed for some of it. I also got my nails and hair done which cost about 40 dollars all together, but that was 6 years ago, it's probably more now. I also paid for a few tanning sessions so I didn't look too pasty, and a bouttinere (sorry about the spelling). My date came to pick me up and my mom took some pictures, then we went back to his house and his parents took some pictures. Then we went to the prom. There was food there.


tricia.