TheRustyScupper said:
1) I am not sure what point the OP is trying to make.
. . . of course, large groups will wait longer
. . . of course, large groups may not be seated together
2) ADR's do not guarantee you a table at a certain time.
3) They only say you get the next available table of that size.
4) In many cases, even empty tables CANNOT be pushed together
. . . aisle space
. . . ressies for others at the same time frame
. . . fire code regulations
EDITORIAL NOTE: Folks, you are on vacation and at Disney. Chill Out.
Somehow I think you have not ever worked in a restaurant and I would not want to be your server.
Having worked in a restaurant and then two different hotels that had big restaurants we would have to sometimes set up for banquets. That of course meant getting long tables for the big families.
At each place, my job was to take names when there would be a wait and then I was repeatedly reminded not to SLAM the server because if you kept doing that, they would put all their food orders in at the same time and then they would be "In the weeds" and never get everything right. I would just about be in tears because I was at least 99% right when I would tell the person how long the wait would possibly be and I would always have that one person who would stand there with stopwatch in hand and literally call me a liar. One time I thought another 'guest' was going to physically haul one such person out the door. Then of course you cannot do anything about the table that decides to "Camp Out" I swear one table brought out the playing cards.
You cannot please everyone but I was determined to do whatever I had to do even if I had to go into the kitchen to help.
As a patron in any restaurant it is very hard to see 'open' tables but unless you work there, you do not know the reason. Also remember that in most states the servers get paid a minimum wage that is less than the regular minimum wage. They have to depend on tips and that has to be spread out between themselves, bussers and sometimes bartenders. Back in 1990 here in Pa that was $2.38 an hour and I would bet it is not much more now.
Just remember to sit back, take a breath, then step aside with your server or manager and privately chat to come to a an agreeable end. And, then if you are not satisfied, afterward be sure and let the manager know, BUT also please let the manager know when your server was spreading Pixie Dust. I cannot begin to even tell you how just hearing the praise from my manager the next day or after the shift did my heart good.
It has been over 13 years since I have worked in food service but I remember every time when I step into a restaurant so I can fairly present my side if needed.
AND YES this is a vacation but it is so much more because you have spent a lot and it took probably months to save for.