Pretty upset

[handinpocket]

I have had some hardships in my life as of late. Nothing I can't get through, but I felt like I needed some support. I don't have all that many friends, and felt like my best support system would be my pastor.

He was wonderful and was a great ear, at first. He then asks if I have a computer and if I have MSN messenger. I tell him yes. We talk for a while and I'm starting to feel a lot better. He then starts telling me how beautiful I am. I feel flattered of course, but somewhat awkward. After much adoration on his part, he then flat out asks me to send him some nude pictures of me if I don't mind. OH.MY.GOD.

Nice to know my stupid pastor must think I am Mary Magdelene. Before anyone asks, no, I did not lead him on. I have been married for the better part of 20 years and my husband is good friends with him too. I am very disappointed and I'm not going back to church. Sad to know a cad heads what used to be my church.

 

[redlight]

I'm so sorry.

 

[Cowgirlroy]

Can't blame you for not going back. Very wrong of him to ask you that. Friends seem to come from the most random places. Sometimes the hard part is just starting the converstation with someone new. I am sure you will have support from ur friends on here.

 

[portocall]

So sorry that happened to you. Sometimes we forget that pastors are human beings and as human beings go, some are good and some are bad. I know that some people would be shocked if they really knew what their pastors were up to.

 

[sunnyday123]

Wow. I suggest contacting and reporting him to someone above him, but they'd probably just move him.

 

[disykat]

You need to report him. No question. I hope you consider finding another church. Not all pastors are sick like him.

 

[TheBigBadWolf]

I'm so sorry.

 

[SereneOne]

I am so sorry that he used his position to put you in a vulnerable situation.

Please talk to your husband and the two of you go over his head. His behavior is unacceptable.

 

[ericamanda01]

You absolutely need to report him. He's a predator. He gained your trust, made you feel comfortable with him, complimented you then went in for what he was after. He's looking for a woman he can take advantage of. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

 

[Art 1]

You owe it to others to report him.

 

[luvmy3]

Definitely report him. You shouldn't have to leave the church and the community within it, he should.

 

[PixieTopaz]

Copy the email
Mail it to church authorities

Stop the abuse

 

[Allison]

Copy the email
Mail it to church authorities

Stop the abuse

I thought this was one face to face conversation not via email.

I'm sorry this happened OP.

 

[Tinijocaro]

Get some solid evidence (recorded conversation, printed email...) and report him. What a pig.

 

[MushyMushy]

Oh my goodness, you poor thing.

Please report him. There are so many abuses going on in churches that just get covered up (been there myself). This guy probably won't stop taking advantage of vulnerable women until he's caught and put in his place.

 

[PixieTopaz]

Is MSN Messenger like email? Can it be copied?

 

[AlleyKat]

I have had some hardships in my life as of late. Nothing I can't get through, but I felt like I needed some support. I don't have all that many friends, and felt like my best support system would be my pastor.

He was wonderful and was a great ear, at first. He then asks if I have a computer and if I have MSN messenger. I tell him yes. We talk for a while and I'm starting to feel a lot better. He then starts telling me how beautiful I am. I feel flattered of course, but somewhat awkward. After much adoration on his part, he then flat out asks me to send him some nude pictures of me if I don't mind. OH.MY.GOD.

Nice to know my stupid pastor must think I am Mary Magdelene. Before anyone asks, no, I did not lead him on. I have been married for the better part of 20 years and my husband is good friends with him too. I am very disappointed and I'm not going back to church. Sad to know a cad heads what used to be my church.

My uncensored opinion on this matter would get me kicked off of the Dis!

Did this nit-wit ask for nude photos via an email message? I sincerely hope so as a paper trail is solid proof of his un-Godly ways (and the quickest way to hang him)!

He needs to be reported to the powers that be ASAP!

Sadly enough, I'd bet you are not the only church member he has victimized!

 

[OceanAnnie]

That's a double whammy. Turn to a pastor for help and he reveals himself. I agree with pps, report him. Find someone you can trust for what you are facing. You must feel betrayed on top of everything else. I'm sorry for what you are going through.

 

[AlleyKat]

This guy probably won't stop taking advantage of vulnerable women until he's caught and put in his place.

I'd blab this information to everyone, as quickly as I could, hoping it got back to the pastor.

Let him sweat, while he tries to clear his name.

It wouldn't surprise me if others came forth, claiming he'd also done this to them!

I'm now left wondering how many requests were filled and what transpired from there!

 

[Erin1700]

I am so sorry this happened to you! I agree you should report it, but understand why you may be uncomfortable doing so. I dont know what reporting it involves.

Sadly, we have had too many priests like this go through the church I used to attend. Note I said used to!

If you need a friend, please PM me!