'Pregnant' man stuns medical profession

[poohandwendy]

OT, but just curious about this:

"Could you be pregnant"
"no"
"Well are you sexually active"
"yes"
"well how can you be sure"

"Gee ,cause I do not have sex with men. " I think they get the point right about there that I might be a lesbian.

I wonder why not just answer the first question with "No, I am a lesbian" instead of beating around the bush?

I get asked that question and I respond with "No it's very unlikely, I had my tubes tied 13 years ago" It's simple and to the point. They obviously can't read your mind and this information is relevant, so why be coy?

I guess I just think if you want doctors to treat is as something that is just a matter of fact type thing, why not treat it as a matter of fact type thing?

And I agree that it's important for doctors to know information like sexual orientation, etc. I think they are more likely to give good medical care when they know the whole picture.

 

[Disney Doll]

For me personally I lead a very open life. I do not hide that fact that I am gay. I talk about my partner just as you all would talk about your husbands. The topic does come up. They want to know about your sexual history. I mean how can they not know when they ask you a question like this

"Could you be pregnant"
"no"
"Well are you sexually active"
"yes"
"well how can you be sure"

"Gee ,cause I do not have sex with men. " I think they get the point right about there that I might be a lesbian.

The problem is, many unmarried heterosexual couples refer to their significant other as their partner, so that may not necessarily tell a medical professional about your sexual preference. And, good or bad, like it or not, anyone's sexual preference, depending upon what it is, can be a potential health issue.

I would probably respond to the "Could you be pregnant?" question by saying "No, because I am a lesbian and do not have sex with men, nor have I been artifically inseminated", rather than doing what seems to be like setting up your MD by making him ask "are you sexually active?" & "how can you be sure?". I get the feeling that by being a bit coy, you are collecting more evidence as to why gay people are treated differently by the medical profession, when in fact, as a medical professional, if I need to know the answer to a question and I don't get a straightforward answer, I'll keep digging till I get the information I need. In this litiginous society, it's not always good enough for someone to give you a yes or no answer. We also need to document the "how do you know?" part...the "supporting evidence" so to speak.

I am heterosexual. I am unable to have children. When I have gone for x-rays, one of the questions they ask is "Can you be pregnant?". I say "No, because I am infertile, so there is no chance of pregnancy". It pretty much answer the question and ends the discussion. The medical person gets the answer to their question in addition to the background information as to why I am not pregnant.

And BTW, a lesbian can still be pregnant...Rosie O'Donnell and her wife and Melissa Etheridge and 2 of her wives are a testament to that.

 

[Nikel]

OT, but just curious about this:I wonder why not just answer the first question with "No, I am a lesbian" instead of beating around the bush?

I get asked that question and I respond with "No it's very unlikely, I had my tubes tied 13 years ago" It's simple and to the point. They obviously can't read your mind and this information is relevant, so why be coy?

I guess I just think if you want doctors to treat is as something that is just a matter of fact type thing, why not treat it as a matter of fact type thing?

And I agree that it's important for doctors to know information like sexual orientation, etc. I think they are more likely to give good medical care when they know the whole picture.

You could. Course then you upset those who don't like teh lesbians to be all up in people's faces about their "lifestyle". Really though, I think it was really just to illustrate the point that one's ob/gyn is going to be made aware of one's sexual orientation and it is relevant to one's care. I don't think the poster was purposely trying to be coy.

 

[autumnbaby9]

I'm sure the majority of the world isn't ready for pregnant men either.

I don't know about the rest of the world but I am SOOOOO ready for men to be the ones having the babies . There is no way in the world I am going through 9 months of torture again, it would be wonderful if the man could get a taste of it instead.

As to the man in the OP, good for him. I can't imagine it was an easy decision to make and I doubt he came to it quickly. Sounds to me like a well planned for, much loved baby that is going to be taken good care of. Can't ask for much more than that.

 

[Mr Man]

I don't know about the rest of the world but I am SOOOOO ready for men to be the ones having the babies . There is no way in the world I am going through 9 months of torture again, it would be wonderful if the man could get a taste of it instead.

As to the man in the OP, good for him. I can't imagine it was an easy decision to make and I doubt he came to it quickly. Sounds to me like a well planned for, much loved baby that is going to be taken good care of. Can't ask for much more than that.

Not gonna do it. I heard it hurts.........

 

[cteddiesgirl]

and on the flip side, its discrimination to force a doctor into treating a patient who violates his religious beliefs which he is legally protected from exercising under the Constitution.

I guess my biggest issue with this whole thing is ultimately it boils down to a lesbian couple having a baby, and really whatever that doesn't bother me...what bothers me is its being successfully turned into a way to "push" an agenda. I support equal "rights" for gay couples...I do not support having an agenda shoved down my throat that if you have a religious or moral objection to homosexuality that you are a bigot...which has been stated several times in this thread. I'm a live and let live kind of person and what happens in your bedroom is your business...it doesn't need to be splashed all over the place as front page news (something this couple sought out by granting interviews and making media deals) and you do not need to force people to accept your lifestyle if you are unwilling to accept theirs.

Each doctor swears to the Hippocratic Oath before treating people.

According to this:
"I swear to fulfill, to the best of my ability and judgment, this covenant:

I will respect the hard-won scientific gains of those physicians in whose steps I walk, and gladly share such knowledge as is mine with those who are to follow.

I will apply, for the benefit of the sick, all measures [that] are required, avoiding those twin traps of overtreatment and therapeutic nihilism.

I will remember that there is art to medicine as well as science, and that warmth, sympathy, and understanding may outweigh the surgeon's knife or the chemist's drug.

I will not be ashamed to say "I know not," nor will I fail to call in my colleagues when the skills of another are needed for a patient's recovery.

I will respect the privacy of my patients, for their problems are not disclosed to me that the world may know. Most especially must I tread with care in matters of life and death. If it is given me to save a life, all thanks. But it may also be within my power to take a life; this awesome responsibility must be faced with great humbleness and awareness of my own frailty. Above all, I must not play at God.

I will remember that I do not treat a fever chart, a cancerous growth, but a sick human being, whose illness may affect the person's family and economic stability. My responsibility includes these related problems, if I am to care adequately for the sick.

I will prevent disease whenever I can, for prevention is preferable to cure.

I will remember that I remain a member of society, with special obligations to all my fellow human beings, those sound of mind and body as well as the infirm.

If I do not violate this oath, may I enjoy life and art, respected while I live and remembered with affection thereafter. May I always act so as to preserve the finest traditions of my calling and may I long experience the joy of healing those who seek my help."



So I guess this couple and child are not human beings?
These doctors have no obligations to these people?
I guess it's their obligation not to treat them when they seek those doctors help.

 

[PghLybrt]

You could. Course then you upset those who don't like teh lesbians to be all up in people's faces about their "lifestyle". Really though, I think it was really just to illustrate the point that one's ob/gyn is going to be made aware of one's sexual orientation and it is relevant to one's care. I don't think the poster was purposely trying to be coy.

Thanks, you are correct I was not trying to be. Believe me i have no issue telling my doctors but some of my friends do. There are various stages to coming out and some of my friends are just not ready to deal with what is thrown at them.

 

[Imzadi]

This pregnant man/woman will be on Oprah sometime this week.

 

[beattyfamily]

This pregnant man/woman will be on Oprah sometime this week.

Thursday

 

[ROIE01581]

Wow! I understand the idea of wanting to have a child. But, why not consider adoption instead of this?

She is a women first and thats all she is doing using her body to have a child. Her child. What is the problem. Maybe it will help her understand her body better.
Good grief.. Let people live their own lives..

 

[DISUNC]

HE IS HAVING TRIPLETS!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

HE IS HAVING TRIPLETS!

April Fools!

 

[DISUNC]

April Fools!

...And it's TWINS!

 

[Imzadi]

HE IS HAVING TRIPLETS!

April Fools!

...And it's TWINS!

Now if we can just get him/her to admit this whole thing was just a long drawn out April Fool's joke.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

...And it's TWINS!

I was expecting a PM from you asking me to remove my April Fools guess. Yes, it was a guess...I had to go online and make sure it wasnt true.

 

[DISUNC]

Now if we can just get him/her to admit this whole thing was just a long drawn out April Fool's joke.

I was expecting a PM from you asking me to remove my April Fools guess. Yes, it was a guess...I had to go online and make sure it wasnt true.

Would you beeeeeeeeeeeelieve he just swallowed a Grapefruit?

 

[It's A Happy Day]

"Pregnant' man stuns medical profession" is the title of the article...

Regardless of what is on the drivers liscense, he was born a she with female anatomy. No amount of alterations will make that person a "whole" male. "He" will never be able to produce viable sperm, father a child, etc. It is a matter of genetics not choice IMO. You are born 1 or the other and can choose to follow a lifestyle as that gender or alter yourself to be the opposite gender. It does not change the XX or XY genes, you are what you are.

I really don't care who has children as far as heterosexual, gay, lesbian, transgender, etc. as long as the parents are caring, loving, and take care of the child. It also doesn't matter to me how that child came into the world - I can understand the want to have a biological child vs. adopting a child. But to claim a man is pregnant just isn't true IMO.

 

[KariC]

This pregnant man/woman will be on Oprah sometime this week.

This must have been their media contracts that were limiting them from talking to other outlets.....