Pregnant after Vasectomy?

[jenrose66]

I am going to hang myself...I swear. My period is almost 2 weeks late. My DH had a vasectomy about a year and a half ago and went for his follow up testing and was told everything was fine.

My DD was a complete surprise as I got pregnant with an IUD...that is why DH finally went and got snipped.

I know stress can delay a period, so I keep telling myself it should be coming, but what's worrying me is I've had lots of dull cramping and I'm so tired. I'm so tired I could cry, I'm having trouble waking up with the kids and I've been napping in the afternoon.

I should just take a pregnancy test. DH is being a complete jerk though. He says I'm ridiculous and nothing is wrong...etc...so I just feel stupid going and getting a test.

Sorry, just wanted to vent...I will now go back to waiting for my period.

 

[shoney]

I could have written this myself about 2 years ago. I went and bought the test and it was neg! Thank goodness!!!!! A few days later I got my period. I think it put my mind at ease. My husband thought I was crazy too. I did research on the internet and found that it is extremely unlikely IF the follow-up test was done. (and my DH did have it!)

Good Luck....I hope it all works out for you!!!!!!!!!

 

[akclayton]

Just go by a test. It doesn't hurt to get one and it'll cost maybe $8.

 

[Christine]

Just go buy a test and do it. It's best to know. The stress and agony of worrying about it is not worth it. Believe me, I've had this happen. Husband with a vasectomy too. I just buy the test and get it over with when that happens.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

It can happen. I dated a guy whos mom had her tubes tied and his daddy had a vasectomy BEFORE he was born. If that can happen, I believe anything can.

I would just go get a test to check. More than likely its just stress.

 

[Octoberbride03]

Just go by a test. It doesn't hurt to get one and it'll cost maybe $8.

Dollar Tree sells them for just the $1. Same tests as the big makers without all the extras.

 

[Jennasis]

Buy a test. You'll sleep better.

 

[mickeyboat]

When your DH gets home from work, go buy a test. Take it in the morning. You will be sure to get your period as soon as you waste the test.

I hope you get some rest, soon! Good luck!

 

[daughtersrus]

Dollar Tree sells them for just the $1. Same tests as the big makers without all the extras.

I shop at Dollar Tree but I'm not sure I'd trust a pregnancy test from there.

 

[Wendy31]

Obviously, by the ages of my kids, our younger DS was a surprise! (But a happy one... once I got over the shock!)

Anyway, since then, I've been scared to death myself a couple of times... even though DH will swear up & down I'm not pregnant.

I got to where I keep a spare pregnancy test in my medicine cabinet. So, when I'm completely freaking out, I can take it & put my mind at ease. Normally, a couple of days after I take the test, my body will get back on board w/ things!

 

[Minnesota!]

Go to Dollar Tree and get one. They EXTREMELY reliable...

Or if you don't have one around...Walgreens, Target, etc. have the generic versions...they are like $5/box. Worth the peace of mind.

BTW - btdt..DH was fixed 2 years ago and there are still times I freak out...

It can happen...just go take a test.

 

[jenrose66]

You guys are right. I should just get the test. This probably makes me a terrible person, but I just can't do this again. I know children are a blessing, but I'm not cut out for this. I've had 3 kids in 4 and a half years and every day feels like purgatory...and I feel bad for saying that, but it's the truth. My DH works mid shift or nights depending on the day. I get up with the kids 5 days a week while DH sleeps in (even if he only worked till 9). I have to do dinner all by myself, I have to do baths all by myself. I do doctors appointments and food shopping alone (but with kids in tow). I feel like a single mother. I am barely hanging on and I know as they get older it will get better...and I'm just waiting because I don't want to blink one day and realize my kids are grown and I've wished away their childhood, but it is just SO HARD for me most days.

 

[SaraJayne]

You guys are right. I should just get the test. This probably makes me a terrible person, but I just can't do this again. I know children are a blessing, but I'm not cut out for this. I've had 3 kids in 4 and a half years and every day feels like purgatory...and I feel bad for saying that, but it's the truth. My DH works mid shift or nights depending on the day. I get up with the kids 5 days a week while DH sleeps in (even if he only worked till 9). I have to do dinner all by myself, I have to do baths all by myself. I do doctors appointments and food shopping alone (but with kids in tow). I feel like a single mother. I am barely hanging on and I know as they get older it will get better...and I'm just waiting because I don't want to blink one day and realize my kids are grown and I've wished away their childhood, but it is just SO HARD for me most days.

 

[jennyjinx3]

Oh Boy! Dh and I think about this sometimes too, as he has had a vasectomy also. What if...... Not that we wouldn't be happy but we are pretty much at our limit with our lovely DD's whom we adore! Let us know how it turns out!! Sending you pixie dust either way!

 

[disneychic2]

My neighbor almost got a divorce over her pregnancy that happened after the vasectomy. Her DH didn't think it was possible for her to get pregnant, and thought she had cheated. Nope, the baby they had was a clone of their two sons...who look just like daddy! Hope yours is just nerves, but I'm with everyone else who says get the test. Good luck!

 

[jennyjinx3]

You guys are right. I should just get the test. This probably makes me a terrible person, but I just can't do this again. I know children are a blessing, but I'm not cut out for this. I've had 3 kids in 4 and a half years and every day feels like purgatory...and I feel bad for saying that, but it's the truth. My DH works mid shift or nights depending on the day. I get up with the kids 5 days a week while DH sleeps in (even if he only worked till 9). I have to do dinner all by myself, I have to do baths all by myself. I do doctors appointments and food shopping alone (but with kids in tow). I feel like a single mother. I am barely hanging on and I know as they get older it will get better...and I'm just waiting because I don't want to blink one day and realize my kids are grown and I've wished away their childhood, but it is just SO HARD for me most days.

Oh you poor thing. I know, it can be overhwhelming sometimes, and it sounds like you do an awful lot on your own. Do you have family nearby? Don't feel guilty for saying how you feel, I for one am not judging you.

 

[mhsjax]

You guys are right. I should just get the test. This probably makes me a terrible person, but I just can't do this again. I know children are a blessing, but I'm not cut out for this. I've had 3 kids in 4 and a half years and every day feels like purgatory...and I feel bad for saying that, but it's the truth. My DH works mid shift or nights depending on the day. I get up with the kids 5 days a week while DH sleeps in (even if he only worked till 9). I have to do dinner all by myself, I have to do baths all by myself. I do doctors appointments and food shopping alone (but with kids in tow). I feel like a single mother. I am barely hanging on and I know as they get older it will get better...and I'm just waiting because I don't want to blink one day and realize my kids are grown and I've wished away their childhood, but it is just SO HARD for me most days.

Go get the test, if you are 2 weeks late, you don't have to wait until morning, it should show up now. I also had this after DH vasectomy, I bet your is stress. And with 3 young kids, yep you are tired add stress and even more tired.

Also I feel your pain, honestly I do. I was you years ago. I had a 4, 21month and a new born. The new born had extreme colic and reflux. If he was awake , he was crying. I couldn't even play with my other 2 kids, they would just look at me and wonder what was wrong. The baby took everything. My DH worked nights and weekends. I literally thought I would lose my mind and so did my pediatrician. Hang in there, it will get better, mine are now 15, 13 and 11. and so much fun. I don't know how I did it, but I did.

 

[Carnie]

Vasectomy watch 2012

 

[luvmy3]

I am going to hang myself...I swear. My period is almost 2 weeks late. My DH had a vasectomy about a year and a half ago and went for his follow up testing and was told everything was fine.

My DD was a complete surprise as I got pregnant with an IUD...that is why DH finally went and got snipped.

I know stress can delay a period, so I keep telling myself it should be coming, but what's worrying me is I've had lots of dull cramping and I'm so tired. I'm so tired I could cry, I'm having trouble waking up with the kids and I've been napping in the afternoon.

I should just take a pregnancy test. DH is being a complete jerk though. He says I'm ridiculous and nothing is wrong...etc...so I just feel stupid going and getting a test.

Sorry, just wanted to vent...I will now go back to waiting for my period.

Don't feel stupid because your dh is being a jerk. You know your body and if you are feeling off in some way WTH is he to tell you you are ridiculous.
Go get the test, if its negative don't even mention you took it.

 

[Hannathy]

You guys are right. I should just get the test. This probably makes me a terrible person, but I just can't do this again. I know children are a blessing, but I'm not cut out for this. I've had 3 kids in 4 and a half years and every day feels like purgatory...and I feel bad for saying that, but it's the truth. My DH works mid shift or nights depending on the day. I get up with the kids 5 days a week while DH sleeps in (even if he only worked till 9). I have to do dinner all by myself, I have to do baths all by myself. I do doctors appointments and food shopping alone (but with kids in tow). I feel like a single mother. I am barely hanging on and I know as they get older it will get better...and I'm just waiting because I don't want to blink one day and realize my kids are grown and I've wished away their childhood, but it is just SO HARD for me most days.

First of all you are not a single parent! And your DH doesn't work 7 days a week. They are his kids to. There is no reason you have to do everything by your self. Grocery stores are open 7 days a week. Give him a choice go to the store or watch the kids.

Why does he get to sleep in? speak up. He can give baths or they can skip a day-it won't kill them.

I totally understand where you are coming from but it doesn't have to be so bad, HE needs to help more, and you need to expect and get it.