starry_solo
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- Nov 19, 2010
I agree. I wouldn't call it a funeral. A celebration of life is what it sounds like
I like the idea of the event "before" for the person that has limited time left. Personally, I also feel very strongly that funerals/memorials are for the bereaved left behind so I wouldn't want one to preclude the other. We've discussed this lots on the boards - I'm satisfied to let everybody do what is right for them.A popular local business owner had a celebration of life before he died. He got to see everyone and they him before he passed. When he died a couple weeks later their were no services.
My Dmom "teetered on the brink" for 10 years or so before we finally lost her at the age of 99. You bet we joked about "Mother's 7th Annual Last Christmas" or whatever number it was. Our whole family actually found it quite hilarious and it was never mean-spirited.I think people are put off by calling it a Pre-Funeral. I think it is really just a gathering. Nobody knows when their time will come and we all have an expiration date. This is just a party for family and friends to gather and spend time together. Much like you would at Christmas. If he is still alive at Christmas, I doubt they will call it "Joe's final Christmas dinner." It will just be Christmas dinner.
Anyone ever heard of/been to something like this? A co-worker’s husband is not doing well. His doctors say he has less than a year to live. He was at the hospital last weekend and was told his kidneys were beginning to shut down. I am not super close to her so I am only going on what I’m being told. They supposedly told them that there’s nothing else they can do. He told them he wanted to die at home so they discharged him. I’m really not sure how close to death he is. Anyway...they are having a “funeral” for him today, before he passes. I have never heard of that and can’t imagine doing it for myself or a close relative. It is hard enough to go through a funeral, much less with the loved one sitting there. I’m not sure what you would say. I’m not attending because I’m not close to her and don’t know her husband at all. It just seems awkward. Just wondering what others experiences were with something like this.
I like the idea of the event "before" for the person that has limited time left. Personally, I also feel very strongly that funerals/memorials are for the bereaved left behind so I wouldn't want one to preclude the other. We've discussed this lots on the boards - I'm satisfied to let everybody do what is right for them.
My Dmom "teetered on the brink" for 10 years or so before we finally lost her at the age of 99. You bet we joked about "Mother's 7th Annual Last Christmas" or whatever number it was. Our whole family actually found it quite hilarious and it was never mean-spirited.
“Pre-death funeral”- those were actually my words. Not sure what they are calling it. I had no idea so many people did this. They do not plan on doing anything after he passes.
Anyone ever heard of/been to something like this? A co-worker’s husband is not doing well. His doctors say he has less than a year to live. He was at the hospital last weekend and was told his kidneys were beginning to shut down. I am not super close to her so I am only going on what I’m being told. They supposedly told them that there’s nothing else they can do. He told them he wanted to die at home so they discharged him. I’m really not sure how close to death he is. Anyway...they are having a “funeral” for him today, before he passes. I have never heard of that and can’t imagine doing it for myself or a close relative. It is hard enough to go through a funeral, much less with the loved one sitting there. I’m not sure what you would say. I’m not attending because I’m not close to her and don’t know her husband at all. It just seems awkward. Just wondering what others experiences were with something like this.
He's not on a kidney transplant list? Or dialysis? Less than a year - that's a long time where other options, and a second opinion, cold be helpful. Where exactly does this person live?
Yes, sadly it would be, but then why would the doctor say less than a year? That gives a much longer expectancy than kidney shutdown would give. That's why I questioned it. It just sounds like the medical people haven't done the full deal for this guy? Just sending him home to die? Sounds like they've all given up, which they can choose to do, of course. I think a get together while the guy is feeling up to it is a wonderful idea.With "kidneys shutting down", and no plans for dialysis, I believe death would be imminent?
out of curiosity, how old is this man?