Prayers needed WWYD?

[adisneymama]

My grandmother is dying of cancer. We just found out and so far they have determined it is in her pancreas and lungs and most likely in her bones as well. We don't have all the details but she is going downhill fast and I'm sure there isn't much time left. So any prayers you would send that she doesn't suffer would be most appreciated. My family is holding up the best that we can, but I am at a loss of what to do. We are suppose to leave Friday for WDW. My Mom and Dh say we just go (unless something happens before then) and if anything happens while we are there, we will make the arrangements to get back. Part of me agrees, but part of me feels guilty for not cancelling right now. This is so hard as I am close to my grandmother and we just lost my grandfather last year. Also, we have had a rough year this year ourselves. We found out our 5 yo DD is having seizures (thankfully, she should outgrow them) among other things going on with DH's job. So we have really been looking forward to this trip. I just don't know what to do. So I guess if you could really just spare some prayers for all of us, they are definitely needed. Thank you.

 

[GraysMom]

I'm so sorry about your DGM and the tough decision you are facing.

For me personally, I would cancel the trip to spend the time with my DGM. She might hold on for months or she might go quicker. I know I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if I missed the time she had left because I was off having fun, but that's just me and the guilt trips I lay on myself. Even if I did go ahead with the trip, I'd probably just spend the time worrying myself sick about DGM and not be able to enjoy myself. I figure WDW will always be there and DGM won't so I would base my decision on that, but only you know what decision is best for your family. Please do what you feel comfortable with, and best wishes for your family and DGM in this difficult time.

 

[safetymom]

You have to listen to your heart and decide what you think is best. If you are going to spend your entire time at WDW worrying or feeling guilty then you should wait till later to take the trip. I would take the time now to let her know how you feel about her.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I agree with the previous posters......WDW will be there for a long time, but your grandmother is ill and may not be. Ultimately, it is your choice, but depending on how close you were with her, you might want to spend the time she has left with her..

Also....how far will you be from home and for how long?? Can you get back quickly if needed.. these are all things that should enter into your making the decision to go or stay.

If you can go without worrying, no guilt, and spend the well needed time with your family, then go, but if you are going to be worrying, calling home, being upset because you are not with her and your family, I would stay..

Tough decision for you, I know.. Hugs and prayers..

 

[adisneymama]

Thanks everyone. My grandmother and I are close, but we are not in the same state. I am working on trying to get there to see her as soon as possible. She was moved to a nursing home prior to our trip and is stable and in pretty good spirits. She insisted that we go on our trip so we did. We had a good time despite everything. I did call my mom or gma often to check in. So far she is doing really well. We are hoping to hear from hospice soon and are hoping she might be able to live with my mother with hospice care. Thanks for the thoughts. Merry Christmas!

 

[kamgen]

My prayers go out to you and your family. I lost my dad to cancer last year and he suffered so much. It was excrutiating to see....and though I miss him so much it aches, I am glad he no longer suffers that way. I pray your grandma does not suffer long. Cancer is such an evil thing. Hugs to you!