Prayers for myself and dd

[goofy4tink]

I never really knew this board existed. don't know how I missed it! But, at any rate...I need some prayers/pixiedust for myself and my Katie. I lost my beloved mother on Friday. Very suddenly. I just don't know how to cope with this and find myself worrying constantly about almost 10 y/o Katie. She was so very close to her Meme and is so strong. Any advice from those of you who have gone through this would be wonderful. My mom was only 73 and although had some health issues was so vital and full of life. Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[goofy4tink]

Oh man. Now you all must have some idea just how distraught I am. I can't even seem to post in the correct spot. I wanted to be in the prayers thread. Sorry for hitting the wrong spot

 

[Aurora63]

Lots of people post things like this on this thread, so don't worry about it. If anything, more people will see it here.

I lost my grandma when I was twelve. I think what helped me most was having people around who wern't focusing on it, instead, who were doing normal, everyday things with me. Maybe plan a "fun day" for just you and her, to get her (and your) mind off it for a little while...go roller skating, to the zoo, eat at McDonalds, stuff like that, whatever floats her boat. I had an older sister who would do things like that with me, and it very much helped during that time. It didn't make the hurt stop, but it helped a bit.

I will say a prayer for you and her!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Hi Diane, and a big hug for you and your Katie both. My prayers will be with you in the days ahead. Certainly losing ayour mom and Katie her Meme is about as tough as it comes. Especially if sudden and unexpected. And so happy you found this board, sure is a good place to spend some time, sharing sadness, in your case, and happiness too. And you will smile again. Today though, sadness is in your heart and you are with some extended family here, friends. Try to share the happy times with Katie, have Katie share them with you, console each other, you both are better for your mom.

Again, Diane, a {hug}, a prayer, a good thought. And glad you posted off the other thread, you will share a lot more thoughts from people here on the regular board. God bless you both, God speed to your mom.

Dan

 

[momsal]

Hugs and Prayers to you and your DD!

 

[pumba]

have support groups for kids that have lost someone that is close to them.......maybe she could go and get some of her grief out....I am sure that this age it is horrible to lose someone that they love so much.....my heart goes out to you and your family........

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Oh dear, I'm so sorry about your loss.
We've been finding that sharing our memories has helped us deal with the loss of my dad..but we didn't lose him suddenly, so I'm sure it's a lot more difficult for you right now......

I'll send along some prayers for you and your family, to help you cope with your sudden loss.

 

[snuggles]

I'm saying a prayer for you and your DD. Check with your dd's school and see if they have a grief program. Ours has a great one called Rainbows. The councelors are in charge of the meetings and it seems to really help. I'm sorry for your loss. Loosing a parent is not easy....

 

[NHAnn]

No advice, I'm sorry, just wanted to give my condolences to you and your family in your grief. ((HUGS))

 

[Princess Michelle]

I'm so sorry for your loss, I don't have any advice but I will keep you both in my prayers. {{{hugs}}}

 

[lynetteSC]

Prayers and hugs headed your way!!!

 

[chell]

Hugs and prayers for you and Katie!

 

[TLinden16]

Diane, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I will keep you and Katie in my prayers. I hope you and Katie can find comfort in all of the wonderful memories you have of your mom. If you need anything, drop me a PM.

Karen

 

[Bacrd]

HUGS to your family. Losing someone is the hardest thing we have to go thru. You are in our prayers.

 

[Beauty]

I am so sorry, I will keep you and Katie in my prayers!

 

[browneyes]

I'm sorry about your mom. Just said a prayer for you and Katie.

I wanted to be in the prayers thread. Sorry for hitting the wrong spot

I think you hit the right spot.

 

[goofy4tink]

Thank-you all so much. I have realized that poor Katie wants things back to normal or at least as much as possible. So, you are correct in saying to not put so much focus on the sad parts. Thanks for reminding me of this. The power of prayer is a mighty thing. My mom was incredibly spiritual so I know the prayers are helping. Thanks again. You guys are terrific.

 

[CRB#33]

It's terrible to lose a parent at any age. My deepest sympathies and prayers go out to you and your family.

Share wonderful memories of your mom with Katie. This is what she will remember, not the sadness that she's going through now. And that is the greatest tribute you can give your mom.

Take care.

 

[snoopy]

I'm so sorry that you lost your mother.

I have been through the loss of both of my parents, unfortunately, they were very young when they died and left behind minor children. I wasn't much past the age of adulthood myself, so it was difficult to take care of younger siblings when I myself was grieving.

As HauntedMansionGreek mentioned, we found that in time sharing memories of our parents was the single best thing we did in terms of healing. At first, though, its a bit hard. Each person grieves their own way, and children, while usually resiliant, tend to internalize their grief. I encouraged my younger siblings to talk to me about whatever was on their mind. In time, they were able to share with me, and also through the help of a grief counselor.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

My thoughts and prayers are on the way for you and Katie.