You don't have to have the music. We are going to have it just because we think it will feel really special but it's not a requirement.
Also we are having the Mickey Ice Cream bars available BOC (based on consumption) that is why only 1 is showing up. We will actually have more available. I don't know if they are less or the same if you order multiple. The extra fee might be because of the transport.
You should definitely be able to have a DP as a catered event and not part of your DFTW, I know if its at a park you can't wear your wedding attire though if its a catered event and not a DFTW.
Are you sure about this? I think that if you book a DP on the same day as your wedding and under the same name, they smell a rat and refer you DFTW and then,of course, it becomes a catered event attached to the wedding and triggers the dreaded minimum!! You can wear your wedding attire at SC whether you go through DFTW or not.