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[diznygirl]

I don't think you are asking too much. Since you are paying her, I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to make sure to set some guidelines.

 

[chell]

Have you talked with her about this before? Maybe she doesn't realize what you expect. Sit down with her and tell her what changes you would like to see take place but don't come off like you think her way of doing things is wrong. Let her know what a huge help it would be to you if she did these things.

Does she feel overwhelmed and feel like she doesn't have time to do that stuff? When I watch my nephews there are times I simply can't get them dressed or get the dishes done because the require so much attention and don't give me the time to focus on the other stuff. Could it be the same for her?

This reminds me how much I miss my nephews. Good thing I get to see them tomorrow night!

Good luck to you!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

You're not being weird, but maybe you need to make your expectations clear. Do you have clothes picked out and ready for your kids? Do you have the brush out? I still get clothes out for my 6yo even if my DH is responsible for him for a morning. When I went out of town for a week I had one weeks worth of clothes, on hangers, so all my son/DH had to do was to grab a hanger. Make it as easy as possible for her.

Maybe try asking her if she would please wipe off the highchair because it's harder to clean off after the food has dried. Make sure you ask her when you are not irritated.

 

[C.Ann]

Wow! I would NOT be happy about that at all.. Now that my DD has been promoted and normally isn't here in the morning anymore I make sure my DGD is dressed properly for school, hair brushed, good breakfast, and has all the materials she needs for school each day.. She does most of this herself, but I DO check to make sure it's done correctly.. When she gets home in the afternoon, it's a snack and homework right away.. I check the homework and sign her log book.. To me that's just "normal" behavior.. On her days off she doesn't hang around in jammies all day - she gets dressed, brushes her hair, etc., and cleans up her room before she starts to play.. Granted, she's 7 years old, but all of this started when she was very young..

I'm stumped as to what you can say though without causing a huge battle.. Maybe something along the lines of, "I'd like to try something new with the kids so I've made up a short list.. Do you think we could try this for a week and see how it goes?"

Honestly, I would be VERY angry if I came home to my kids in those conditions - pay or no pay!!

 

[disykat]

I can't even imagine what they do all day if they don't even get dressed. When my kids were small those things were kind of part of the daily entertainment. I can see it if someone is sick, but a normal day? How much supervision/ guidence is she providing if such a simple thing is beyond her?

 

[FreshTressa]

We have one of those stacky things that goes in the closet and every sunday night I put an outfit in each bin which is labeled by the day, that way the kids know where their clothes were and can get dressed.

If you put the clothes out for the week and say....these are their clothes for the day.

The hair thing..if they aren't going anywhere, I would pass on.


The dishes wouldn't bother me much, as long as she was spending time with the kids and not watching TV all day. You have to do dinner dishes anyway.

I would mention the highchair though...how it gets sticky and hard to clean if it sits. It is not fair to have to wipe it off before you serve dinner..you have enough to do getting dinner ready.

So...I would compromise. Decide what you can live with and what you can't. For me, the clothes and the highchair would not be tolerable. The hair and the dishes I could compromise on.

Your kids are lucky to have someone that cares watching them. I hope they have fun during the day!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

"She even gets paid to watch them"...??? She ought to.

Sitters shouldn't have to do dishes, but they ought to clean up food.

Maybe you could get the kids up and dressed before you leave?

Or, hire another sitter.

 

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[FreshTressa]

Wow...I would find a new sitter after the baby on the floor incident.

It doesn't sound like she is all that interested in CARING for the kids.

 

[inaminute]

What do you mean, the state pays her? To babysit your kids? Or, is that her income from another source?

I'd hire another sitter. Heck, I'd babysit them for $1,200 a month!

 

[aprilgail2]

Why would the state pay her to watch your kids?? I don't get that one. I usually have my daughter up, dressed and cleaned up before I go to work so this way I know that she is good to go for the day....

 

[Marseeya]

$1200 a month for watching two kids who are grandchildren? That's sick! Bring them to me, I'll watch them for you for that amount (my mind boggles at that... I probably won't bring home that much as a teacher!). I'll brush their hair, play with them, clean them, pick up after them, and give them lots of love! I'll even throw in some "enrichment activities" to boot.

 

[aprilgail2]

(my mind boggles at that... I probably won't bring home that much as a teacher!). :

You need to change states then LOL...my friends daughter was just hired in my district as a first year teacher and she starts at 46,000. I go to the Board of ed meetings and that is standard for the starting teachers here...once she gets her masters in 2 years then her salary will jump up.
But I can't believe that a sitter in someones house would make 1200 a month...and especially not when the state is paying, though I STILL can't figrue out why the state would pay for someones sitter if they are working.

 

[Marseeya]

You need to change states then LOL...my friends daughter was just hired in my district as a first year teacher and she starts at 46,000. I go to the Board of ed meetings and that is standard for the starting teachers here...once she gets her masters in 2 years then her salary will jump up.
But I can't believe that a sitter in someones house would make 1200 a month...and especially not when the state is paying, though I STILL can't figrue out why the state would pay for someones sitter if they are working.

Maybe lower income? When I had my first child, I was eligible for subsidized daycare. The OP has five kids, so that probably factors into it, even though only 2 are being watched. But $1200???

How much more will your friend get with the masters? In my local school district, the masters is only worth $200 extra per year! This is just local though... the state average is higher than that. My income isn't really necessary, so I'm not worried about how much I'm making, but rather that I'm in a school where I enjoy teaching.

 

[aprilgail2]

How much more will your friend get with the masters? In my local school district, the masters is only worth $200 extra per year! This is just local though... the state average is higher than that. My income isn't really necessary, so I'm not worried about how much I'm making, but rather that I'm in a school where I enjoy teaching.

I am not positive of the exact figure for that but its a few thousand dollars a year (like 2 or so...) I can check and find out....my brother teaches in the city and he started out low but now he is over 60,000 a year.

 

[Christine]

By the OP's signature, it looks like she has 5 kids. My guess is that it is subsidized child care.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Sounds like a complete absence of child-care to me.
I would be very concerned.

I would not find that acceptable at all.

I would look into other options.

 

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