For my fairy tale wedding last year, some of my family stayed at POP, while my immediate family and myself stayed at POR. POP was very neat, from what I saw. The rooms seemed much smaller at POP than POR. Also, at POP, there is only one big pool. Personally, I love the quiet pools at the moderate resorts. I think they are more fun, and you have the ability to enjoy the pool itself more. The quiet pools are one of the main reasons I won't stay at the deluxes. If it were me, I would choose POR. The bigger rooms, note I did not say nicer, are incentive to stay at POR, as are the quiet pools. POR also has beautiful grounds. In the end, it is really up to your personal preferences, but I would go with POR.
VelvetGloves