POLL: Would you EXPECT coffee after dinner?

[Sleestack]

I am hostessing a rehearsal dinner. I keep asking questions hoping (beyond belief LOL!) that the majority here will say something like "Oh dont worry about that!" LOL but I keep being wrong. Thanks to everyone for taking time to reply to my silly little questions. Its really helpful to be able to ask a wide range of folks these things when you just have no idea what to do.
I think I will be serving, or at least offering coffee with the cake. I want it to be nice, and it sounds like enough people would like coffee.
(I personally would rather have a cold diet Pepsi in a can, but I know that woudlnt fly with 99% of the people )

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I voted no, but I can't stand coffee and won't drink it at any time of day.

You might have a pot ready to brew just in case--but anytime I've attempted to offer it post-dinner...noone hardly drinks it.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

I don't drink coffee and thus do not have a coffee maker (or coffee). So, my friends know not to expect coffee when they come for dinner.

This. My friends know that if they want coffee at my house, they need to stop at Tim Horton's before opening my front door.

If I'm invited to dinner, the ONLY thing I expect is that I will thank the host/hostess who invited me.

 

[Minniemama350]

I would definitely be delighted to be offered a cup, but I would never expect my host/ess to offer it. I think it is rude to expect anything. I am greatful for any and all kindness shown me as a guest in anyone's home.

 

[Gigi22]

Standard around here would be offering a choice of coffee or (hot) tea. We don't see too much decaf. offered in private homes, probably everyone is too put off by bad memories of nescafe decaf.!

 

[mhsjax]

I wouldn't expect it, but I would gladly accept it. Now when you come to my house you can 100% expect to get offered coffee, even if you just come to visit after dinner. In fact, my pot just got done brewing. Gotta go get a cup.

 

[tink_n_pooh]

If you are serving desert than I would expect that coffee would also be served, they just seem to go together. The except would be if you are serving after dinner drinks, we don't normally do coffee and drinks unless we are serving coffee and drinks together (like an Irish coffee or nutty irishman)

 

[MariDisney]

I'm still stuck on the choice to use the word 'expect'. I think I'd assume coffee would served rather than expect it would be served.

I agree with this. I'd assume any meal which included dessert, at any time of day, would include the offer of coffee and tea. I wouldn't think of serving a meal without offering it. In fact, pretty much any time you come to my home you will be offered coffee unless you're staying for just a few minutes. Growing up, the usual phone call among adults was "put the coffee on, we're coming over".

 

[Shyvioletisme]

I don't know that I would ever expect coffee with dinner.

this...I LOVE coffee....but not with meals.

 

[alexandria674]

It is welcomed, sure. But I don't go to someone else's house for dinner and EXPECT something.

 

[tasha99]

I wouldn't expect it, but I would like it. When I have people over, I like to serve coffee with Baileys in it to counteract the caffeine.

 

[Planogirl]

Most of my family members always offer coffee after a meal. It's expected in our case even though I don't drink coffee.

 

[disykat]

I remember my parents having coffee in the evening when they had guests. However, I honestly can't recall being offered coffee at someone's home after midday in the last 20 years. Maybe I just don't know coffee drinkers?

I have a coffee pot in case I'm having people over for brunch. I have also served coffee in the afternoon. It would never even occur to me to offer it in the evening.

 

[shortbun]

No, but my parents do.

I think the age group might change the answer. My parents would have served coffee no matter what.

 

[LJRJR]

Where I live people drink coffee all the time. I would definately put on coffee after having dinner, and I would offer it to someone who came to my house anytime of the day. I dont believe any one would be insulted if they werent offered any, they just might ask me "do you have any coffee ready". From reading the posts, I think that it is definately an age (I am in my mid 40s) and a regional (I live in New York City) thing.

 

[wildernesslodgelover]

No, and nobody I know in my circle of friends do either (we're in our 40s). My parents, however, always did expect coffee after dinner.

same here!

 

[MerMom60_94]

Yuck, I hate coffee! We offer coffee for formal dinners, such as Thanksgiving or Christmas, but not necessarily if we are just having people over. If my DH is there, he is a big coffee drinker so he may offer it. If it's just me and my friends, I don't even know how to make coffee. If anything, I may offer a cup of tea.

 

[powellrj]

I just had family over last night for dessert and didn't serve coffee. I guess they pretty much expect it from me because I don't even own a coffee pot!

When we first got married, my mom told me I should always offer coffee to guest, so I bought some instant. I never used it and threw it away after awhile.

I did offer milk, juice, water, tea and soda.

 

[Buckeye Princess]

I never expect anything when invited to another's home except good company.

 

[eeyore65]

I used to offer but no one ever took me up on it so I have even stopped offering now. We usually just keep drinking wine!

Also in my mid-40's.