Police Report Question

[Callie]

I've had an incident at work where a former friend and I are no long speaking due to some drama (work place has taken care of this)

But, she's given out my phone number, and picture to these men she meets online, and via Xbox, she's also told them where I work. Now i'm scared she'll tell them even more info and do this all again, and they might come harm me (they are real big creepers, controlling her life, and she's never met them before).

Would a police report be a good thing in case something were to happen?

 

[okeydokey]

Have you asked her to stop? I think I would call the non-emergency number at the police station and seek some advise on what they think you should do. How scary.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Yes, I would file a police report. If they are not helpful I would go and speak with someone in the DA's office. Sometimes a police officer may not think of something as a crime and refuse to file a report, but a prosecutor may see things differently and in the end they are the one that will pursue the case anyway.

I would also complain to HR, she is giving out your work address and putting you and other employees at risk.

 

[Callie]

Yes, I have. This has been going on for almost a year now! I'm just fearing she's going to use these men to get back at me, or one of her boyfriends friends will seek revenge on me.
She knows so much about me, where I work, where I go to school, etc. Thankfully she does not know where I live. It just freaks me out they even have my pictures!
I think I'll talk in depth with my boss about these concerns. I'm just wondering if she has pictures of me on her phone, if they can be deleted by the police? She has no copyright on most of them, and the others were taken when I was underage (they aren't anything bad at all, just wondering).

She already had tried to get me fired from my job, because the guy she was dating got fired.
I guess I'm just scared to death now, I'm a young female that could be easily hurt by a grown man.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Well if she doesn't know where you live, and your only connection is your job maybe for your peace of mind you are better off quitting and moving on with your life. Unless it is your dream job, it doesn't seem worth this headache, and she sounds like a nutjob that can't be reasoned with.

Normal people do not post pictures and give out the phone number of other women, no matter how much they may dislike them. That my dear, is the sign of a classic wackadoo.

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

Talk with your boss, HR people, police and change your phone number.

Hopefully it will stop soon but in the meantime, you need to protect yourself.

 

[LuvOrlando]

WOW To be honest I think her behavior has crossed over from spiteful and moved into criminal psycho territory. Assuming you have printouts ect & other forms of proof of her behavior I personally think it's time to not only file a report but also take out an order of protection against her. If she is dong all this for that amount of time she is spending entirely too much time obsessing on you and that screams unstable to an alarming degree IMO. Nothing normal at all about a person who would behave this way.

You poor thing, stay safe

 

[Anna114]

A police report in and of it self will not help you other help substantiate your case in the future if there is one. Can you prove that she is doing what you have accused her of? If you are concerned I would make changes to your phone number, email address and the like. From what you said she really hasn't committed a crime, to the best of my knowledge. Morally and ethically she really is a cow. You may also want to check with human relations on your job and see if she has violated anything.

 

[Callie]

Well, I've had a long talk with my management today about what's been going on, but I'll think I'll talk to them again as this is really scaring me.

I don't want to quit my job, as I love it. I've been there 3 years, and there isn't one thing I dislike, besides this drama. It's part of the path to my dream career.

I changed my number once because of her, and crazy people calling my phone and harassing me, but I honestly don't have any proof as I just upgraded my phone a few weeks ago. But she's bound to hit the crazies again as she's already told me how two weeks ago she met a guy on xbox, said where she lived, and now she was being a bit nervous he'd show up at our job.

Last year I put up with her telling me these horrible things this one guy was saying about me. It creeped me out how much she told him. I was called a fat cow, whale, and other things I don't want to repeat. Its the same story over and over. All her friends text me, some hitting on me. Sigh.

Some of it is a sad case of being jealous I think. Which I dont want to get into.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Hold on a second, so this is a friend of yours? The last post sounded like she and you are friendly and that she gives out your info to her friends out of foolishness, not out of spite. But then she tells you about the mean things these guys say about you? Why on earth would they say anything at all about you unless she provokes them in some way?

I don't know what you've got going on there but whatever it is, its weird.

 

[Callie]

Hold on a second, so this is a friend of yours? The last post sounded like she and you are friendly and that she gives out your info to her friends out of foolishness, not out of spite. But then she tells you about the mean things these guys say about you? Why on earth would they say anything at all about you unless she provokes them in some way?

I don't know what you've got going on there but whatever it is, its weird.

It's complicated. We've worked together for 3 years. We were friends until she started doing this, giving out my number and pictures to creepy men, and telling me all the stuff they were saying about me. I cut her out of my life (besides work, where I remained nice) last fall.

But now she's hating me because her boyfriend got fired from where we work, and she blames me. I've already had that issue documented, but I'm fearing as revenge she'll give out my info to these men she meets. She's already given her boyfriend my number.

 

[Stacerita]

You need to talk to HR and to the security department at you work. Something like this can put you and all those you work with in danger at the work place.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Can I ask, how do you know she blames you for her boyfriend getting fired at work? Why does she blame you?

I don't think this is complicated at all, she's got you in her sights for some reason and is keeping you close so she can watch you squirm. She sounds messed up.

Just curious, does she have any female friends?

 

[cm8]

OP, did she use your name to pick up guys? or did she fasly assume your ID to get dates and then facilitate you being harassed by the persons she gave your info to? I would get a restraining order on her and have it include emails, phone, and giving other people your info. I know there has to be a lot more to this story and I know you don't want to go into details, but if you feel threatened by what she has done to you ,this needs to end before someone gets hurt. Also take your employer information that you filed with them to help you get one granted, this would show that you are not making this up and need to get it officially documented for your protection. I am sure that she has to realize that you feel threatened by all of this and you should start taking steps to prevent some type of harm.

 

[Callie]

Can I ask, how do you know she blames you for her boyfriend getting fired at work? Why does she blame you?

I don't think this is complicated at all, she's got you in her sights for some reason and is keeping you close so she can watch you squirm. She sounds messed up.

Just curious, does she have any female friends?

I know that she blames me because she texted me yesterday blaming me for it, saying that because i talked to our boss about the fact she gave him my number, and that he texted me, was why he got fired. She then said she was going to get me fired.

I'm not replying to her at all now. Honestly, her only female friends that I know of are her cousins. Otherwise its all guy friends.

I think part of it is the fact she is jealous that some semi-pro athletes give me the time of day, and not her. Also I have more freedom, and she is still pretty much controlled by her parents. (I'm in college, she's in high school). Also I have a older sister, along with a ton of female friends. She's very shy and doesn't think highly of herself, which I've tried to help her with.

 

[golfgal]

Well, I've had a long talk with my management today about what's been going on, but I'll think I'll talk to them again as this is really scaring me.

I don't want to quit my job, as I love it. I've been there 3 years, and there isn't one thing I dislike, besides this drama. It's part of the path to my dream career.

I changed my number once because of her, and crazy people calling my phone and harassing me, but I honestly don't have any proof as I just upgraded my phone a few weeks ago. But she's bound to hit the crazies again as she's already told me how two weeks ago she met a guy on xbox, said where she lived, and now she was being a bit nervous he'd show up at our job.

Last year I put up with her telling me these horrible things this one guy was saying about me. It creeped me out how much she told him. I was called a fat cow, whale, and other things I don't want to repeat. Its the same story over and over. All her friends text me, some hitting on me. Sigh.

Some of it is a sad case of being jealous I think. Which I dont want to get into.

Is this the same job you had all the issues with last winter?

 

[Callie]

Is this the same job you had all the issues with last winter?

No, thankfully. That one was over once the Holidays were done. I survived it. This one, is a job I've held for over 3 years thats just in the summer, and I've never had a problem besides this.

 

[Tink888]

She's in high school? I would talk to the police and file a report with them. Maybe the police can also talk to her parents. Speaking from a parent's perspective, I'd want to know if my high school daughter was giving out personal information and meeting men online in addition to what she's been doing to you. It's dangerous for both of you.

Change your number and email and end all contact with her. She sounds mentally unstable.

 

[Callie]

She's in high school? I would talk to the police and file a report with them. Maybe the police can also talk to her parents. Speaking from a parent's perspective, I'd want to know if my high school daughter was giving out personal information and meeting men online in addition to what she's been doing to you. It's dangerous for both of you.

Change your number and email and end all contact with her. She sounds mentally unstable.

Her mom already knows what she's doing I believe, as her brother is older and does the same. Her mom allows her to go meet up with these people along with her brother out of state, yet her mom thinks I'm the mentally unstable one.
She's 18, so I'm not sure what they can do.

 

[lizandjason]

Her mom already knows what she's doing I believe, as her brother is older and does the same. Her mom allows her to go meet up with these people along with her brother out of state, yet her mom thinks I'm the mentally unstable one.
She's 18, so I'm not sure what they can do.

Document EVERYTHING and present it to the police.

This person does NOT have the right to take away your sense of security. There are new 'cyber bullying' laws, and what this person is doing definitely sounds illegal. But whatever you do, don't react to HER. Don't talk to her, call her, text her, email her or react in any way...it will just fuel her fire. Ignore her if she tries to engage you in conversation. If a strange man contacts you and makes you feel uncomfortable, CALL THE POLICE and let them deal with him...and her.

A bully needs an 'active' victim and if you don't react she'll lose interest. Stay strong, sister...you do NOT have to let stupid people ruin your life.