phorsenuf
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Caro I'll be thinking of you and your mom. Sometimes things sound far worse than they really are. I know this from experience. Please don't take this as being callous and unfeeling, but sometimes, things also move much more quickly than we'd like. Even if it's not as bad as it sounds, please, get your plans laid out NOW. In the middle of grief and emotional turmoil is the worst possible time for everyone. Once that's done you can put all your energy into doing everything you can to keep her with you as long as possible but don't let another day go by without having a solid plan!! My sister, my daddy and I went first to the hospital to make sure all the medical directives were properly filled out and copies sent to all my Drs. Then we went to a lawyer and did a very basic will. Lastly, we went to the funeral home, planned my service and paid for it. Bruce had to be dragged kicking and screaming every step of the way. If/when it happens he'll be a quivering, devestated mess because he refuses to prepare himself. I can't imagine how hard it would be on my entire family to deal with him and all the plans at the same time.
Very sound advice!