"Please schedule a conference..." (vent)

[Cinderellafifi]

Those words have ruined my evening. When I picked up DS4 today, I was told he is in the "book" (reserved for boo-boo's and such). My note was that the pre-school director and DS's teacher want a conference. Nothing more, nothing less.

So now I wait until morning to see what in the world is going on. I am assuming that because he is in the book, it probably isn't going to be good. He is never in trouble and I am always told what a pleasure he is...but still...
I am worried. A million things are running through my mind.

I think it was unfair of them to leave me hanging like this.

So, why am I venting my worry here? Because I like the fact that I can come here and be somewhat anonymous and, frankly, to get some good vibes for worry-over-nothing type situation. (sigh) Thanks, if you have made it this far.

 

[becjlek]

If he has gotten such good comments before I wouldn't worry about it. It is probably something very minor but enough to let you know he is normal 4 year old.

 

[AC7179]

Try not to worry.

I know, easier said than done---but there really are a million things it could be.

Maybe they just want to update you on his progress.

Maybe they want to recommend a type of early intervention therapy like speech----which can work wonders to prepare a child for kindergarten. Maybe they are concerned about something else, but if he isn't a discipline problem then I'm sure it is nothing horrible.

Good luck. (((HUGS)))

 

[Viki]

No worries - everything will be fine. You'll handle whatever they want to say beautifully!

 

[KatelynnsAuntie]

I have to say, I would be annoyed too if I were left hanging like that. I hope everything turns out okay.

 

[Cinderellafifi]

Thanks, everyone, for such kind words and thoughts!!

 

[ilovejack02]

last time DS4 prek teacher sent home a note saying please call it was regarding the fact that DS wasnt completing his worksheets not that he was misbehaving.
No big deal at all. If yours had done something horrible like smack a kid you would have been called right away, so try not to worry to much.

 

[kdibattista]

Can you get anything out of your son?

 

[Freyja]

I´m sure everything is fine. Good luck, if you need it!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Can you get anything out of your son?

I was wondering that too.

 

[DVCLiz]

I put up with this once, and the next time it happened (over something so minor I was amazed) I called the teacher at home and said, "I'm concerned that there is a problem, and I'm not available in the morning because of a prior commitment. Could you please let me know what the issue with DD is?" She was a little embarrassed to admit it was something really minor.

I think preschool teachers, at least some of the ones in my city, have been given enormous power, and they sometimes abuse it. I've had friends on the boards of preschools who heard teachers berate working moms and say, "We just have to keep working to make sure they know the right way to be a parent."

I wouldn't put up with that for a minute. Call her at home and find out what's going on...

 

[lillygator]

do they normally have conferences? I know my girls daycare schedules conferences once a year to let you know their progress.

 

[Mrs. T-i-double-g-er]

The preschool my kids went to made sure the parents (or nannies) knew what happened on that day. I would be very angry if I had to worry all night. It's bad enough just having to find out...

 

[disykat]

I would assume that "please schedule a conference" just means the teacher wants to talk to you. I wouldn't assume it was bad or good, just that she wants you to call or stop in at time that is convenient for you when she isn't surrounded by kids or parents. If it was something really important, she would have been calling you immediately.

 

[dg39]

Believe me, if it was anything bad you would have received a call right away. Whatever it is, it can't be anything serious, so don't worry so much....

 

[clh2]

This would have ticked me off beyond imagination.

If someone took the time to write a note to "schedule a conference" - why didn't they go through the extra effort to give you a quick call or e-mail to actually schedule it.

If I want to meet with someone, I would certainly go through the effort to set it up.

You are not the one requesting the meeting. They are.

Ranting aside - you can't tick off your daycare workers. So, you'll probably have to just suck it up and call them.

 

[va32h]

I would just assume that she wants to tell you your child is a genius.

He is only four. He couldn't have done anything that bad!

 

[Mrs. T-i-double-g-er]

And if he did do something that bad (I had some crazy experiences with #3), remember we were all 4 once. I have to say that before I had a boy, I probably would have thought he couldn't have done something that bad either.

 

[leafette]

I would just assume that she wants to tell you your child is a genius.

He is only four. He couldn't have done anything that bad!

Could be, actually! When my DD was in K, her teacher sent home a note like this (please email me to schedule a conference). I tried all night to get something out of her ("Are you SURE you didn't do something?) Turns out, they wanted to talk about gifted testing! So think good thoughts.