I completely understand!
I was terrified (we're talking the serious white knuckle kind) of flying until about 18 months ago when I had no choice but fly by myself. For some reason thatI still don't understand, I just sat back in my seat, closed my eyes and concentrated on relaxing each part of my body during take off. I told myself "the pilot knows what he's doing, he's been trained, and re-trained, and trained again. He's done this a million times." I kept silently repeating this to myself and concentrated on relaxing and breathing.
When I finally opened my eyes I looked out the window and saw the most beautiful sunset. I knew everything would be o.k. Since then, I've had minimal, if any, fear. Whenever I do get worried (usually when we hit turbulence), I just put down my book, close my eyes, and concentrate on something else. Now, though, I usually fall asleep!!! I would never have believed I could do that on an airplane.
And yes, I've flown to Orlando twice since September 11 and have another trip to Oklahoma planned for Christmas day. It doesn't bother me now any more than before.
I know it sounds silly and strange--but I urge you to try it. Practice before you get on the plane.
Another thing that's helped me is I'm learning to not think so much about the flight before we're actually in the air. This is more difficult. Whenever you find yourself thinking about it just change the thought process to something else.
It takes some work, but is worth it if you're dedicated to flying without a lot of fear. I've come to realize that flying is the only way to travel if saving time is a priority (it is for me).
Good luck!