Please! I need to vent.

[princessdisneybelle]

I am about ready to send out Newsletters for our wedding. My FMIL still hasnt given me their guest list. I have only been asking for 2 months... Am I being unreasonable? DF keeps telling her I need it. She says she is working on it. Please what should I do?

 

[DVCGirl49]

Sorry to hear that this is causing so much frustration! Have you called your FMIL in the past few days to tell her that you are sending out information to the guests and need the addresses? If not, I would call ASAP and say that you are planning on mailing these out tomorrow/this week/etc.

HTH
Brandi

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Yes over and over again. There is a bit of a language issue. But we talked indepth about it at Thanksgiving. I am just about to lose my mind. I mean I realize alot of people cannot attend. I just feel like I should invite them.

 

[StephSFL]

I'm sorry! The guest list is hard enough- so much work.
Is there another relative who may be a little more helpful? Do you think she is doing it on purpose or just doesn't get it?
Vent away! That's what we are here for.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

She is so doing it on purpose. We have had issues but I thought they were over. I am gonna call his Aunt that lives in the town I live in. I gave DF till next Friday to get them. I am just too much of a planner to wait forever.

 

[pooh98378]

This might be a little mean and sneaky , and I don't know how much you told her so I don't know if this would work or not, but - you could tell her that the people at Disney have to have the names for whatever reason and if they don't get it by 'x' date, then you won't be able to invite them to the wedding. Like I said, this might be a little mean, but it might make her a little more willing to give it to you.

Of course, then I guess you might have another problem if she finds out that you just told her that...

 

[BrideToBe82]

Aww how frustrating!! Give your FMIL a deadline...if she doesn't meet that deadline than just assume that she is not inviting anyone and start sending out Newsletters (have your FI tell her this).

 

[DIsNeYSweEtHrTs]

My future MIL is doing the exact same thing!!! DF has asked her what seems like hundreds of times, and at first, she was going to do it the next weekend, then she couldn't find the list on the computer, and it's been about two months and I still don't have the list. I have my save the dates all in envelopes ready to go without any addresses on them. SO frustrating! I wish I could give some advice, but I'm in the same boat, so I would love to know some good ideas too!!

 

[StephSFL]

This might be a little mean and sneaky , and I don't know how much you told her so I don't know if this would work or not, but - you could tell her that the people at Disney have to have the names for whatever reason and if they don't get it by 'x' date, then you won't be able to invite them to the wedding. Like I said, this might be a little mean, but it might make her a little more willing to give it to you.

Of course, then I guess you might have another problem if she finds out that you just told her that...

Hee!Hee! For the sake of sanity I would think about going the route!

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Hee!Hee! For the sake of sanity I would think about going the route!

Yep that's what i just did. I sent her a email telling her what they needed. And gave her the date of the Dec. 15. I'm sending them out right after Christmas. I have so many people asking for details already.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

 

[Belle1981]

I agree with the other ladies sometimes being a little bit sneaky will help you get what you need. Just remember despite how difficult she is it is your day and there is nothing wrong with wanting it to be perfect. If she wants to be a challenge I am sure you are more than able to get what you need. Just show her you are the better person its all about strategy!

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Thanks. Yes that is my goal. Not gonna let her bring me down.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Just a update. I got half the list from FAIL. Well she gave it to DF and told him she would get more. Yay!

 

[Sleeping~Beauty]

When my brother was getting married, my mother wasn't getting a list together. She's the biggest procrastinator ever, and that's the way she works. It's terrible. We were all telling her she had to get a list for my SIL.

Finally, my SIL asked if I could put a list together. My brother and I went over the guests from my wedding, talked to my Dad, and came up with a list. My mom got so mad, she immediately made a list of her own.

Then the addresses were needed and my mother didn't provide them. So I got all the addresses for them. I called aunts and uncles and friends that I didn't have.

It was smart of you to go to the aunt.