Please help...what would you do??

[Blessed_wth_Triplets]

I asked a similar question a while back...and while I know asking a bunch of stranger won't get me my answer and I need to figure this one out...I thought hearing other's opinions could hurt! I know this is probably silly to ask...but I'm having a hard time with this one...

We have 4.5 year old triplets and always thought we'd have #4. Well...DH wants to start trying NOW as the boys are getting older..yada yada. Well...we came back last month from our first trip and had an AMAZING time! It was truly a dream and I had the most fun I've have with my kids and DH ever! The original plan WAS to start trying as soon as we came back from WDW....BUT I had so much fun that we booked the bounceback for next year!

Is it crazy to wait another whole year to have another baby just to go to WDW..even though it's a YEAR away! If we have another baby now we def. won't go for a few years...till our youngest is at least 3 years...that's just what we think. SO...I really want to go one more time next fall while my boys are still young and enjoy the "magic" in their eyes. I'm 27.5 so will be 28.5 next year...hopefully not affecting my fertility too much...but the boys will be 5.5 so that much older than any future sibling? I don't know what to do?? I def. decided I think we should go for #4...I think you never regret having the children you have...but I don't want to be 40 and regret not having another one..ya know? Sorry to go on and on...I'm venting...any responses really appreciated!

 

[disneywith4boys]

I asked a similar question a while back...and while I know asking a bunch of stranger won't get me my answer and I need to figure this one out...I thought hearing other's opinions could hurt! I know this is probably silly to ask...but I'm having a hard time with this one...

We have 4.5 year old triplets and always thought we'd have #4. Well...DH wants to start trying NOW as the boys are getting older..yada yada. Well...we came back last month from our first trip and had an AMAZING time! It was truly a dream and I had the most fun I've have with my kids and DH ever! The original plan WAS to start trying as soon as we came back from WDW....BUT I had so much fun that we booked the bounceback for next year!

Is it crazy to wait another whole year to have another baby just to go to WDW..even though it's a YEAR away! If we have another baby now we def. won't go for a few years...till our youngest is at least 3 years...that's just what we think. SO...I really want to go one more time next fall while my boys are still young and enjoy the "magic" in their eyes. I'm 27.5 so will be 28.5 next year...hopefully not affecting my fertility too much...but the boys will be 5.5 so that much older than any future sibling? I don't know what to do?? I def. decided I think we should go for #4...I think you never regret having the children you have...but I don't want to be 40 and regret not having another one..ya know? Sorry to go on and on...I'm venting...any responses really appreciated!

In my very humble opinion, if it was me, I would wait 6 or more months to start trying. This way, you'll be 5 mo preg or less when you go, and shouldn't be a prob.... but with your history of multiple births, if you were preg with twins or triplets again, you prob couldn't go at 5mo. I went 4 mo preg with twins, with a 5 year old and 13 mo old and had a great time. I don't think at your age fertility would be a factor if you waited a year, although certainly not guaranteed. What does DH think about waiting?

 

[Blessed_wth_Triplets]

If we do go to WDW next fall we wouldn't start trying till we get back...I don't want to be pregnant AT ALL while we are there....last pregnancies had bad morning sickness and low energy...that could really spoil the trip for me..not worth it. As far as waiting another year to try...DH is pretty easily convinced but he just thinks with the boys already almost five there will be that much more of an age gap between the kids..ya know?

 

[Desnik]

I'm all for age gaps between kids!LOL My dd is 9 and DS is 4. I love the age difference. It was like they were each only children and I got to give them undivided attention. I am a SAHM and it was so great to put DD on the bus and be able to be here to play with DS!! She was a great help when I had him, like a little mommy! My best friend went with us to WDW and she was pregnant with triplets and was about 5 and a half months along and she did great. She also had along her 4 yo DS and I kept telling her she was superwoman!LOL I went to WDW when I was 3 months pregnant and will never do that again! I get very sick with my pregnancies so I can relate to you. I also know what you mean by not regretting the kids you have but if you don't try for another you will regret it later on. I think that with your age you could wait another year and enjoy one last trip with your family before you welcome a new addition. Your children will be close because of the way you raise them, not because they are close in age. My older sister and I are 5 years apart, and my younger sister and I are 17 years apart. We are all extreemly close and have always been.

 

[Princess Roo]

Take it for what it's worth, but IMO a Disney trip isn't a reason to postpone #4 - especially if DH feels strongly about it. If you don't tell the triplets it's planned, then you can start TTC and see what happens. It may take a while to get pg, you may not have morning sickness this time, etc.

I would be a little concerned that if you went two years in a row and then "waited until #4 is old enough" that it could cause resentment from the triplets toward the baby. You also may find that baby #4 is a lot easier to handle (especially if it's just one - LOL) and a Disney trip might be something you'd be interested in doing when that child is younger than you thought.

 

[Frankiesmom]

you can always take a baby to WDW-my youngest is almost 3 and his 1st trip was when he was 10 months old-they fly for free and they get in for free!
We are taking a trip in dec. to wdw and it's 2 weeks before his 3rd bday! I had to get in another trip with him while he's still free! LOL

 

[Blessed_wth_Triplets]

Thanks for you responses!

 

[twinmom2]

I have twin girls who are 3 and we just went on a Disney Cruise last month. Well.....we were going to try again for another, but we had such a terrific time, that we re-booked for next Sept

There are rules about how far along you can be and how old a baby can be to cruise. Anyway, we could cancel and I can't see going on a cruise with a little one. My plan is to hold off trying until next summer and go with whatever happens.

I think I rather be pregnant on a cruise than have an infant, but I rather have a infant at WDW, than be pregnant....Did you get that??

Good luck with your decision...oh, we are a little older 33/37...so time is ticking on my side.

 

[lighttech]

I know I responded to your question before, but I can't even remember what I said! But, it seems to me that if you are having this much trouble w/ a decision, and posting to us "strangers" again, there's probably a little more going on than just the trip. How have the talks w/ DH gone? What does he think of the situation? As others have said, you COULD take a baby to WDW, or you COULD go pregnant. They would be vastly diff't trips than w/o, but it is a possibility.

(Just an FYI, DH and I started talking about #2, and we had trip planning in the works. I did ask if it would be o.k. if we waited until after, and he agreed, although somewhat reluctantly. But, I admitted to him [and to myself] that there were some other personal reasons I wanted to wait little too. And, the WDW trip would only put off our plans by 2 or 3 months. To me, I just needed a marker of some sort that was a reason to start, and a WDW trip seemed as good as any. Once I explained that it wasn't just b/c I wanted to ride a roller coaster or try a wine flight in WC France, he was much more receptive to my feelings.)

Its so hard to try and logically decide these things, and its hard to emotionally decide them too. Sometimes I think we'd all be better off if we just weren't sure HOW babies were made. Then, we'd stop worrying and have wonderful little miracle "accidents." (JK of course!) But, maybe its time to drag out the old "list" game. Mark down the pros and cons of all options. Don't leave anything out, no matter how trivial or "silly" it seems. Then, use that list to try to figure out what exactly is on your mind. And, remember, just b/c the pros outweigh the cons or vice versa, doesn't mean that side wins. Sometimes one con can be worth a million pros or the other way around.

Good luck, and I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

(Not to preach, but if you pray, you might want to look for some answers that way too. I don't consider myself a heavily "religious" person [whatever that means], but sometimes I find that talking to the man upstairs clears my head and is easier than talking to anyone of them down here.)

 

[daisyduck123]

Just me, but, for something as important as having a child, I would never put vacation over having another child (if I knew I wanted another child). I'd work on getting pregnant, & take it from there.

Disney is very high on my priority list, but not as high as having another child (if I wanted more).

 

[DisneyMagicMommy]

This is a very personal decision for you and dh. I personally would have another baby 1st and put off the trip...but that is just me. Like other people have said...there may be more to your reluctance than just the trip. DH and I have been trying for #4 for a year now...and I would have happily moved our trip that is scheduled for next month if the need arose...however...unfortunetly it has not happened yet. I'm really hoping to become pregnant this month so I can surprise DH with the news at WDW next month. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

[MSSANDRA]

Just me, but, for something as important as having a child, I would never put vacation over having another child (if I knew I wanted another child). I'd work on getting pregnant, & take it from there.

Disney is very high on my priority list, but not as high as having another child (if I wanted more).

I agree 100% but also trun it around. If you have doubts enough over another baby that you would rearrange the conception over a trip to WDW, I would wait to make sure that you know where you want to go right now. There is NOTHING wrong with doubt but with a decission this big you need to be 100% sure.


I am not a fan of travel while pregnant as my DS was born very premature after a completly normal, non high risk pregnancy. Two weeks later we would have been on vacation.


Good luck in you making good choices.