please dont slam me - Does DCL let you in the dining rooms formal night in shorts?

[imgoingtodisney]

Since this seems to be the real reason behind DHs not being sure if he wants to cruise with DS & I, I feel I need to ask this question. Can DCL refuse DH to eat in the dining rooms on formal & semi-formal night in shorts? Or is it ok if DH feels ok doing this?
I guess they dont refuse him to come to the dining rooms in shorts on the "casual" nights?

I know what they suggest, ask, etc. DS10 & I are dressing accordingly. Thank you for not flaming me.

 

[Michelle]

Barb, DCL does not refuse service to anyone, whether they follow the requested dress or not.

 

[AnnMorin]

My goodness he is acting like a preschooler!!!

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by AnnMorin
My goodness he is acting like a preschooler!!!

I second that one LOL....I think you would have a better time if you went on the cruise and left him home!!

 

[LOVETHATMOUSE]

Shorts on formal night?! As WebmasterMichelle said, DCL does not refuse any guest entry. While we were in Palo's, someone had the poor taste to come in t-shirt and shorts and they had to let them in, which I thought was horrible since you do pay to dine there (even though it was not that much $).

You can tell you "husband" (he sounds more like your child) that he is welcome to wear shorts - just don't behave like a baby and sulk in embarrasement when everyone stares at him in disgust. Formal night is the one night he could stop thinking about himself and do something nice for his wife and dress appropriately.

 

[AnnMorin]

(In that wifely way -giggle giggle)

Really though I would refuse to sit with him if he dared to wear shorts when others are wearing suits and tuxes.

I just went and hugged my husband, I guess I am a lucky woman, he had no problem with me spending almost $ 200.00 for my gown, he took DS shopping and got him a new suit, and DH looks gorgeous in his black suit! He would never consider embarressing me like that to wear shorts at formal night, in fact he would never go against the guidelines that request that shorts not be worn in the dining room at all.

I don't know why your husband is acting like being civilized is such a chore but I feel terrible for you. I would never put up with his behavior (didn't from my son and don't from the preschoolers I teach two days a week). Why don't you just tell him to stay home and be manipulative to the cat instead of you. He sounds like a real drag!

 

[ennazus]

"staring at someone in disgust" doesn't sound very grown up either...

Would it be an option for him to order room service for dinner on formal & semi-formal night? I would really consider that as an option because I'd love to see him join the cruise with you & your ds!!

 

[kendall]

Hey Imgoingtodisney,

If your DH doesn't want to dress formally, there are alternate places to dine. Some things that come to mind

Topsiders has full meals available during regularly scheduled dining times

Pluto's by the pool

Room service

I understand you are in a tough position - I gather from your post you want to eat as a family, yet you certainly want to experience the formal night's festivities and environment.

I truly think shorts on formal night is pushing it - I would definitely encourage at least long pants at dinner if you choose to eat in the dining room! Indeed, there may be some unkind comments and glances from fellow cruisers if shorts are worn. I think you and your DS dressing up may encourage your DH - remember, there are photo opportunities available too - you will be able to have some nice family photos taken - perhaps you can encourage DH to dress up and "kill two birds with one stone" - dress for the evening and have a nice family portrait taken (that way he only has to dress up "once").

Good luck - you are in a tough position here, and I hope you, DH and DS can work it out so everyone can enjoy the evening!

 

[LOVETHATMOUSE]

"staring at someone in disgust" doesn't sound very grown up either...

I never said it was something I would do, but it is what I saw many people do when the man walked into Palo's dressed inappropriately. I don't think that guests were acting like babies, but were taken aback at what they saw. Kind of like a fish out of water.

Barbara - you need to decide for yourself if you will truly have an enjoyable cruise with him. To pay so much money and do so much planning and to have the level of excitement that you do - to have it ruined by your husbands attitude - I would hate to see that happen to you - you seem so nice. I hope you have the best time ever you deserve it!!!!!!!

 

[AnnMorin]

Barb, no one would ever want to flame you.. you seem like such a nice person, as for DH I personally say fire up the BBQ!

In regards to lovethatmouse's comment, I agree many people may stare in disgust. A lot of people pay over $5000.00 to do this cruise, some spend over $10,000 and expect an ellegant evening on formal nights, that is the point of having a formal night. If your husband strolled up to my table dressed like that when you and DS are dressed appropriately I will admit I would certainly stare at him! I would have a great deal of sympathy for you and wonder to myself why is that man dressed like that, did his luggage get lost? To suggest it is childish to stare at someone so utterly innapropriate seems strange to me. I stare at the girl at the supermarket too that has purple hair and every orifice pierced.. put on a display and people do stare.

 

[Hygiene99]

husband cant wear a pair of pants for a couple of hours too have dinner with family , on there vacation,,, something like this does not come around every day , tell Dh if he does not smarten up im going to Come to central MASS and deal with him .....
PETER lol
Good luck on the trip sounds like u will need it

 

[LOVETHATMOUSE]

As AnnMorin says - ....... put on a display and people do stare.

YEAH BABY!!!!

 

[sjm]

Hi Barb,

Would your husband wear shorts to a wedding, or to a funeral. I know that Disney is less formal then most other cruise lines, but I think there is a limit, to how informal you can go, esp on formal night.

If DH refuses to get dressed up, there are other places he can eat. I leave it up to you, if you join him or not.

Good luck with him,
sue

 

[ppiew]

Personally, I think he is pushing you so if there is an excuse not to go he will put it on your shoulders. I guess, just say 'yes but you might be more comfortable wearing long pants', or suggest eating a Topsiders. Either way don't let him 'bait' you, let HIM make the decision and then any consequences are his alone and not yours.

 

[Melrosgirl]

If he doesn't want to follow the dress code, have him stay in the room and order room service. That's what we did when we first went on a cruise (RCCL)...had room service. Doesn't seem fair that because one doesn't like to dress up, one gets to make his own rules.

On our last cruise (Princess) we dressed up, bought formal gowns, dark suit for dh and had a great time! There were a few couples that did not dress up on formal night and they really looked out of place. Dressing up is part of cruising.

 

[alexandrew]

He can always eat at Pluto's...

 

[LOVETHATMOUSE]

Or he could eat with the kids club in Topsiders.... Sounds like he would fit in nicely. (just a joke - don't flame me )

 

[tecdavidt]

If this is the issue, tell him he can were shorts. As was said before, DCL will not refuse service to any one. If others are upset it is there problem. This is a petty issue we are only talking clothing. In our family we love the formal nights but hey, your husband is entitled to his opinion. Go and have a great vacation life is just too short for this issue to cause problems. Kathy

 

[Buckaroo's Dad]

Barb, your husband's "problems" extend far beyond wearing inappropriate attire on a requested/suggested formal night. Like I said before, he has no sense of - or consideration for - family. In this instance he is also demonstrating a lack of respect for what one might call "community," as in fellow cruisers. I am glad he will not be on the same cruise as me, and it might prove better for all concerned if he weren't on the same cruise as you and the child. From the image you have portrayed, he seems to be an abusive person and by recommending therapy I don't fell as though I am being either out of line or incorrect. I wish you all the best, Barb, and feel sorry you have to curb your enthusiasm for the Magic which Disney provides for us - children - of all ages due to the outrageous antics of a self-absorbed self-righteous immature condescending flagrantly-flawed ... Oops, think I overdid it? Nah...

 

[my3kids]

If he doesn't want to go, then why not let him out gracefully. If you and your son do want to get dressed up, then by all means go to the formal dinner. It wouldn't be the end of the world to dine without your husband for the night. He can get a delicious dinner in Topsiders if he wants a casual meal without the pressure. Sure, it would be nice to have a family dinner, but is it worth making yourself misearable over. Yes, DCL will let him in the door, but if he doesn't want to be there....then what fun is that anyway. There are plenty of fun things to do together. It is okay if you do some things apart. To each his own. My husband didn't care about attending the Tropical deck party, so I went up by myself. No big deal. I didn't give him a hard time about not wanting that particular activity, not did I give it up myself. Don't try to plan too much in advance. If you try to stick with a schedule, you'll drive yourself carzy.