Platonic friends. Inspired by CB.

[BabyPiglet]

Saw this thread on the CB, thought I'd get your opinions.

Do you think if you're in a relationship, you should have a friendship with a person of the opposite sex?

Let's say you were married to a guy, and he has had this friend who's a girl since middle school. They are the best of best friends. Would you be jealous?

 

[imabrat]

If they hung out a lot and she knew more about my husband than I did, heck yeah I'd be jealous!

 

[acesupercoolme]

Both me and my boyfriend have friends of the opposite sex.
I don't think I'd be jealous because a lot of my best friends are guys anyways, so for me to be jealous because my boyfriend is friends with girls is just insane.
I don't get why having a boyfriend or girlfriend should get in the way of any relationships with other people.

 

[HouseMD1120]

No I wouldnt get jealous, unless like Sonya said, the friend knew more about my husband/boyfriend than I did.I have a lot of friends that are guys, so it wouldn't bother me for my boyfriend/husband be friends with girls. As long as they werent taking over my place.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

No I wouldnt get jealous, unless like Sonya said, the friend knew more about my husband/boyfriend than I did.I have a lot of friends that are guys, so it wouldn't bother me for my boyfriend/husband be friends with girls. As long as they werent taking over my place.

ITA.

 

[DramaQueen]

This kind of pertains to me, my beeest best best friend in the world is a guy.
Derek (my bf) has told me that in the beginning of our relationship he was a bit jealous, but that now he's not anymore because he has seen how our friendship really is. (who knows if that's true or not but he says it is hehe)
Even though I've been dating Derek for almost 3 years, I've been friends with Mark (my bff) for alot longer, and we have such a great time together that it'd be hard to ditch him, Derek always comes first for sure.

He has ALOT of girlfriends, which kind of makes me jealous sometimes, but not really, because I know that he loves me more than anything (his words not mine! hahaha) and that I can trust him and that I mean more than any of the girls he hangs out with. And I know I would always come first for sure.

I can't lie though I DOOOO get a bit jealous sometimes.
But then he always does something to reassure me so I'm not jealous anymore.

 

[Courtney88]

I'll be honest... I'd be jealous. I know that personally I've had a crush on most of my close guy friends at some point. But I would try to keep the jealously to myself.


Kinda ironic actually, because my ex (who I was with for over 2 years) had a close girl friend who had a huge crush on him forever. He knew this even before we were dating and had no interest. I worked hard at not showing my jealousy and was totally cool about it when they hung out. Well, he is now dating her and will not remain friends with me because she freaks out.

 

[Axel]

I wouldn't care, really. Who he's friends with is his business (or her business...depending on who I'm dating here). Unless it starts to directly affect our relationship, he (or she) can be friends with whomever he or she likes.

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

I have tons of guy friends, and I wouldn't be willing to give any of them up if I got involved with a guy.

But of course I'd get jealous every once in a while.
Because I know that I end up flirting with most of my guy friends. It's harmless, but I wouldn't like dealing with my boyfriend flirting with other girls.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Nah, it doesn't bother me. Because it's usually pretty obvious when it's platonic. My ex, has this best friend who calls him at 4 in the morning wanting to talk, and stuff like that, but it doesn't bother me at all. She's a sweetie, and he definitely doesn't like her, so it never bothered me. They're fun together, and I love this girl, she's one of my best friends now too.

Although, lately he's being hanging around with my other best friend.. and well I think he likes her again and she leads him on... well yeah, I am jealous. Mostly due to that fact that I'm not over him.
But I will be soon enough.

 

[BandGeek911]

Honestly, yes if I didn't know the other girl well. but I'll trust my boyfriend/husband until he gives me a reason not to.

 

[CastawayJ]

who cares who your friends are?

 

[hkrox]

your friends shouldn't matter. I'm friends with guys and girls and I would hope nobody would care.

 

[Sparx]

i'm the least jealous person on the face of the planet. i don't care who your friends are, as long as they're good friends to you. when you're in a really serious relationship you shouldn't worry about your signifcant other having friends of the opposite sex, it should just be understood that you love each other.

and i know that people cheat and get cheated on every day, but still. if there is cheating, there are also other problems in the relationship that lead to it, 99% of the time.

 

[StitchfansJr]

If they hung out a lot and she knew more about my husband than I did, heck yeah I'd be jealous!

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

In many ways i would be considered the problem.

Ya see I have this "brother" (hes not really my brother, but i call him that because we argue like brother and sister) but EVERYONE knows that thats just what we are. Nothing more, never will.
I mean, i know thats what happens most of the time
"This persons like a brother to me...but i think im falling for him" but im telling you I know that wont happen to us. So if he ever got a girlfriend or if i got a boyfriend, they would have to accept that hes my brother, and the majority of my attention will be spent with my boyfriend.

but on the other hand...

I'd be okay with it, it just depends on what type of girl it was.
Like..most of the worlds population (okay THE worlds population) is prettier then me, and i dont mean to say that all guys go by looks but most of them do (i know they dont mean to, but..come on..lets face it) and if i were going out with someone i would be slightly cheesed if he were spending most of his time with some other girl.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I think it is really hard to have a strictly platonic relationship especially if it is a close one. Almost always does one or both friends of the opposite have feelings for eachother....

 

[BabyPiglet]

Honestly, I would probably get jealous. Probably because I've never really been friends with a guy who I haven't partially fallen for. Not like 'good friends & we see each other at least once a day' kind of friend. But it seems that I fall very easily.

If he assured me many times that the friendship was strictly platonic, then I might be a little more relieved. My guy might not having feelings, but what about the girl? It would be strange knowing that my boyfriend's bestfriend was in love with him.

 

[pigletgirl]

Ooh that is a tough question my dear! I have to think about it. But, my initial thought would be that I would be jealous.