Planning Weddings for those Not-yet Engaged!

[Disneylover79]

Grad School...Congrats...I think thats the best place to celebrate..


You know something, Thats' always my defense with DBF when he asks why were going again? Because it's the HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH!! DUHH

Thank you.... it sure is the happiest place on earth

 

[ArelysAdriana]

DBF's prom was on Sunday night. This is my favorite pic from that day:

You guys look so cute! From what I can see your dress looks gorgeous.

Hi ladies! Long time no talk!

Well, about two weeks ago, after about almost three months of trying to work it out with DBF, we both realized it wasn't going to work...it's still hard to talk about it but I've accepted it. It's kind of personal but let's just say this: sometimes people change...and behaviors that you would've NEVER thought they would do...they did.

BUT, I had a fabulous first date with a guy I met on Facebook on Monday! I thought it was a little too early to venture back out on the playing field but this date was unlike any other....it was fantastic! But that has it's own drama . But that's a story for another time .

How are you ladies? Hopefully all your relationships are going wonderfully! I've missed you guys! Now that all the drama is out of the way, I'm hoping to be on this thread more often!

Maria! Welcome back! I'm sorry to hear about you and Jon, but I'm so glad things are looking up for you. Good luck with the new guy! That's fantastic that your first date went so well.

I think we're all doing pretty good around here. Happy to have you back


Oh! By the way, have any of you guys seen Bolt? I just watched it with DBF and it was super cute and funny. I highly recommend it if you haven't seen it.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I've posted on here once or twice but never came back. I managed to get bitten by the wedding bug again after going to my boyfriend's cousin's wedding. It was weird. They had this thing where you came in and put your name on a paper and put it into a bowl. His parent put all of our names in thinking it was some kind of drawing. Well... you know how at weddings they clink their glasses to get the bride and groom to kiss? Any time they did that they pulled a name out and the bride and groom had to kiss however that couple did it.

Guess whose name was second? Aaron and I have only kissed once before, the height difference makes it very interesting. (He's literally a foot and a half taller than I am). I ended up climbing on a chair to make it work. Everybody thought our kiss was the best.

I did see some things I liked, but a lot I've decided I won't do. The kissing thing is one of them. They also had a dollar dance. I'd only ever heard of those, first time I'vee seen it in action. Definitely won't be doing that.

I really want a Wishes Wedding at Disney. Probably in the Wedding Pavilion. At my reception I want Mickey and MInnie, and Belle and her Prince. I have done enough weddings when I worked entertainment that I want Mickey and Minnie there. It was one of my favorite things I got to do and it would be very special to me because I have been on the other side of it.

I'm starting to really get serious about this. Aaron agreed to start Pre-Cana (the classes you need in the Catholic Church in order for them to recognize your marriage) in the fall if he is still in the area! That's a very good sign!

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

Did I scare everybody off?

 

[Raecheal]

 

[Shyvioletisme]

They also had a dollar dance. I'd only ever heard of those, first time I'vee seen it in action. Definitely won't be doing that.

not to offend anyone, but I HATE the dollar dance...we definitely did not have that at our wedding, but it runs rampant at weddings here and I just think it is SO tacky! I was a bridesmaid in one of my best girlfriend's weddings in March and they did it luckily I wasn't the only friend who thinks it is stupid and didn't participate!


and I love the idea of having Belle and her Prince at your reception...you don't really see them picked that often, so it would be really special!!!

 

[Caribbeanprincess]

I don't know about all these tradition.

I would love a Wishes wedding also, but I'm not sure we would be able to afford it. However, I heard you can have up to 25 guests at an Escape wedding now, which is awesome, but I'd still like to have a reception rather than a dinner.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

No, I'm here!!

I"ve never heard of that kissing game before... but it would def. be dbf and I's luck to get our named pulled out!!!

I"ve never heard of the dollar dance..

I really want a Wishes Wedding at WDW too.. but the more we talk about it.. it looks like it will be a Escape Wedding.. Most likely in the Wedding Pavilion also.... Dbf loved the look of it.

Where did you use to work"?

Thats great news that Aaron has agreed to start pre-Cana ...being Catholic myself... I havea quick question... Does BOTH partners have to be Catholic to get married in a Catholic church?

My first CP I did rides in Fantasyland. My other two I was in entertainment. Aside from doing the normal sets and special events (including lots of weddings) I performed in Share a Dream Come True Parade (closing cast), Disney Dreams Come True Parade (Opening Cast), Spectromagic, Disney Stars and Motorcars Parade and its Christmas equivalent Disney Happy Hollydays Parade, and Celebrate the Season (castle show for Christmas).

In the Catholic Church both partners do not have to be Catholic but you must still do Pre-Cana and you must agree to raise the children in the Catholic church. If you decide not to get married in a Catholic Church (done when one partner isn't Catholic) you have to get what is known as dispensation of form from the Bishop. I plan to do this as I am the only Catholic in my family and Aaron is Lutheran. Plus it means I can get married at Disneyworld!

I don't know about all these tradition.

I would love a Wishes wedding also, but I'm not sure we would be able to afford it. However, I heard you can have up to 25 guests at an Escape wedding now, which is awesome, but I'd still like to have a reception rather than a dinner.

I haven't heard that they changed it. Last time I checked their site (Yesterday or he day before) it still lists 18 guests as the maximum.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

I haven't heard that they changed it. Last time I checked their site (Yesterday or he day before) it still lists 18 guests as the maximum.

I think I saw someone mention that it is also an extra $500 and they did hear it from DFTW, but I guess maybe it hasn't been officially put on the site yet hopefully it's true as I know it would help out a LOT of brides!

 

[Raecheal]

 

[ArelysAdriana]

I think the money dance is the tackiest thing ever. I don't like the removal of the garter either...and I'm not a prude or anything, I just personally wouldn't want my new husband digging up under my dress, really close to the goods, for a piece of fabric in front of my entire family, that he will then throw to his groomsmen. It's skeevy

I'm actually really not a fan of most wedding traditions. Unity candles, sand ceremonies, the giving away of the bride, really religious ceremonies, shoving cake in each others faces...none of that is me at all. I'm so nit-picky.

I think I'd be in the same boat with the Wishes vs Escape wedding. Both of us have SO much family that inviting them all would cost an arm, a leg and a few organs. And Lord knows my family at least would be super butt-hurt if they didn't get an invite. I mentioned it to DBF that we could do an small Escape with our parents, siblings, grandparents and best friends and then do an at-home reception in New England where most his family is and one in South Florida where most of my family are and he said that idea was dumb and it would cost too much.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I very much disliked the dollar dance. I'm also not a fan of the garter and I'm pretty sure Aaron would have a heart attack if he had to do that.

I actually like what the unity candle/sand ceremony represent, and I think it's neat for the father to give his daughter away. If more of my family (and my fiance) were Catholic a Mass might be nice, but as I'm the only one it seems silly. I'm also not one for shoving cake. Somebody on the wedding board mentioned that they fed themselves the cake, and I think I like that a lot.

 

[Disneylover79]

Well ladies... DBF has told me to start looking at DFTW... I know some of you have seen my posts on the wedding board... I started a wish book and DBF and I are going to sit down tomorrow to figure out what we want..I am so excited about it....

 

[ArelysAdriana]

My issue with the whole giving the daughter away thing is that I don't consider myself an object to be given away. I'm not the property of my parents, nor will I ever be the property of my future husband. I'm all for my dad walking me down the aisle, I just don't like the "who gives this woman" part where the dad is then supposed to say "her mother and I." I'm also not really thrilled about having to give up my last name, but that's just my feminist side showing.

I think feeding each other is cute, but I would require some forks. I don't like the idea of unwashed hands feeding me cake, even if they are my husband's hands. And now that's my germaphobe side showing.

 

[ArelysAdriana]

Well ladies... DBF has told me to start looking at DFTW... I know some of you have seen my posts on the wedding board... I started a wish book and DBF and I are going to sit down tomorrow to figure out what we want..I am so excited about it....

Congrats! That's so awesome. Are you going to start a PJ on here?

 

[MainStMandy]

Hi ladies! Long time no talk!

Well, about two weeks ago, after about almost three months of trying to work it out with DBF, we both realized it wasn't going to work...it's still hard to talk about it but I've accepted it. It's kind of personal but let's just say this: sometimes people change...and behaviors that you would've NEVER thought they would do...they did.

BUT, I had a fabulous first date with a guy I met on Facebook on Monday! I thought it was a little too early to venture back out on the playing field but this date was unlike any other....it was fantastic! But that has it's own drama . But that's a story for another time .

How are you ladies? Hopefully all your relationships are going wonderfully! I've missed you guys! Now that all the drama is out of the way, I'm hoping to be on this thread more often!

Oh Maria I am so sorry things didn't work out. But I have to tell you a story. I was dating this guy (only about 7 months) and I took it kinda hard when we broke up. I decided to go on a dating website, just to meet some new people and get out of the house. I met 2 great guys and began talking and emailing. Well I went out with guy #2 on our first date and it was AMAZING. I had already figured out that the ex was all wrong for my by that point, but this was the most amazing guy I had ever been out with and the best 1st date ever. On April 5 that same guy brought me back to the location of our first date and proposed You'd be suprised what life has in store for you. Everything happens for a reason! Good luck with everything!!

 

[MariaLovesJon<3]

Oh Maria I am so sorry things didn't work out. But I have to tell you a story. I was dating this guy (only about 7 months) and I took it kinda hard when we broke up. I decided to go on a dating website, just to meet some new people and get out of the house. I met 2 great guys and began talking and emailing. Well I went out with guy #2 on our first date and it was AMAZING. I had already figured out that the ex was all wrong for my by that point, but this was the most amazing guy I had ever been out with and the best 1st date ever. On April 5 that same guy brought me back to the location of our first date and proposed You'd be suprised what life has in store for you. Everything happens for a reason! Good luck with everything!!

Aww!! Thanks for that Mandy! And I must say, my date with this guy last Monday was amazing! I thought it would be kind of tacky to elaborate on it in the same post that I was "grieving" my relationship with my ex-DBF but I have to share my giddiness about this new guy now that you mention your own love story with your DF!

So, I met this guy on Facebook. I friended him first because I just thought he was so cute and something about him (well, as much about him as a profile picture and a couple lines about himself can tell me lol) struck me. I was totally intrigued. So, I message him and friend him. We get to talking...and then all of the sudden he just stops replying! Boo! A week after our "conversation", my best friend tells me "Maria, you're so into this kid. Just drop him one final line and tell him 'Look, I think you're really cute and a nice guy, let's hang out one day' ". So I do just that, verbatim . He literally messages me back in less than an hour saying "Definitely, pick the time and date and let's do it!" I message him my phone number and he texts me and we set a time and date!

Well, that's about all we did till the next day (our date!). lol...I received no further texts, nothing. The morning of, the worst thing happens; my freakin' car won't start! Bah! So, I text him and say "Hey, my car won't start. I'm so sorry can we reschedule?" and he texts me back "Well, if you want. But I can totally pick you up and we can do something by you!" Now I was all because he lives about 45 minutes away....to see someone you've never met before, 45 minutes is a long drive! Haha, so I agree and he comes, scoops me up, and we take off! We went to see a movie (Angels and Demons) and had a great time. As we were leaving the theater, the rain starts POURING DOWN! So, we head back to theater and watch another movie (this time, Wolverine).

Now, in the first movie, there was absolutely NO physical contact. Like, I literally sat with my hands together and so did he . With the second movie, I had bought popcorn and a diet coke (I'm a diet coke junkie!) and offered it to him and sat it down on the arm rest. During the movie, I start feeling something almost tickling my hand. At first, I totally thought I was imagining this haha! I mean, c'mon, this was my first "first date" in 3 years (to the date!)! When I finally realized it was his fingers tickling my hand, I opened my hand and he instantly YANKED it! He held it for a little while and then he moved his arm to wrap me up and, ladies, I literally MELTED into his arms! It was surreal! We stayed like that the remainder of the movie....I honestly can't tell you what the movie was about or how long it was or anything. All I can remember was being on cloud nine . It was amazing...

Afterwards, we went to this arcade-like place that had a couple of pool tables and he taught me how to play pool! I was horrible but, gosh, he was so encouraging! I can't remember feeling so carefree and just happy in such a long time!

Of course, here comes the drama: he hasn't called since then. But, he did mention he was in law school and finishing up a huge project so I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt...and he did try to talk to me for a little bit on Facebook (after I texted him first...sigh, MEN!). So we'll see how it goes. I texted him yesterday to hang out again and he told me that he was really busy...but his project is due tomorrow so we will "definitely be hanging out this week!". Hopefully this actually happens....I'm really excited about this guy!

And, in the spirit of my story, ladies, do tell your first date stories! I wrote a book LOL, so feel free to tell every single detail!

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

Hmmm, to be honest I don't really remember our "first date" I don't think we had a traditional one.

I met Aaron in grad school. We were both taking Content Area Literacy (a night course) and Measurement and Evaluation. He was still an undergrad, in his graduating semester. We discovered that we have both worked at theme parks. He is a supervisor at Worlds of Fun (owned by Cedar Fair) and I am a former Disney Cast Member. He used to walk me to my car, even though it was never on his way and we would talk for like twenty or thirty minutes. Occasionally we would ge a meal on campus together. He ended up not being accepted into our graduate program and went elsewhere.

I could tell he liked me, but I have a rule that a guy has to make hte first move. I finally broke the rule and confessed my feelings over Facebook. He said he had felt the same way for a long time but was too scared to say anything. For our first "date" he came by train to my hometown to visit me. We've been dating ever since and have done a couple of little trips together.

 

[Raecheal]

 

[Raecheal]