Pixie dust please...

[Ember]

Today I have to go home again after spending 2 wonderful months with my husband. He has one more year on his PhD (well, on more year here anyway) before he's home for good. It's been an emotional roller coaster these past weeks as we talked and cried and sorted out all the little issues that arose over the last year. He'll be home for 3 weeks on Sept. 25th, which I know isn't that far away, then 2 weeks in Nov. and 3 more weeks over Chirstmas... But it's so hard being together only part time.

I will perk up again but today feels like the world is gray and my little heart is hurting.

We're still quietly talking about privately renewing our vows once this is over, but I haven't decided if I think it's silly or not.

 

[hiwaygal]

You've been through a lot but all of this will make you both stronger when you can be together all the time. (And I still don't think renewing your vows is silly!)

I wish I had words of encouragement to make your heart hurt less...just try to be strong and know that every day that passes is one day closer to the day you are together!

Hang in there!

 

[lurkyloo]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this! And I love your idea of renewing your vows when DH finally comes home - I think you mentioned you were considering a private ceremony at a little church in the English countryside? SO romantic - and so deserved!

 

[Tabetha]

Being apart is so hard - Greg and I were apart for 16 of the last 24 months so we have an idea of what you're going through. Not totally, though. We won't be married for another month. Anyway, goodbyes are the WORST.

But it gets easier, and even if it doesn't, the more time passes, the less of it there is to live through.

Good luck, and I think renewing your vows is a beautiful idea.

 

[DecemberBride]

i say renew your vows!

and tons of pixie dust for you!!!!!!!!! it'll get better!

 

[Ember]

Thank you, all.

I'm home again, and indulging in a bit of a pity party. But I'll suck it up by tomorrow. I'm going to spend some time with my mum, and then the next day with my girls.

And you're all right, this too shall pass. Thanks for the virtual support, it is much appreciated.

 

[Lynn5700]

Aww I'm sorry you have to go through that The year will fly by and you will have your DH all to yourself!

 

[*Valdez*]

I totally understand what you are going through. DH and I have been married 4 years. He is a teacher and I am a full time student. I live in another town. Well, only for another year anyway. It is hard and it definately gets rough. Sometimes I feel like I want to throw in the towel and run home to him, but other times I think only one more year. We are on the phone constantly, when we have the time. I think to myself that if we can make it through this we will be able to make it through anything. We are planning on a VR next summer. It is something that is important to us both. In fact, this summer we were both so busy after our WDW visit in June that we are both taking a couple of days off and will be in WDW tomorrow for an extended weekend. This is how we keep our relationship strong, random weekend getaways. So, good luck and keep your head up, it will fly by. I know the tears that flow as the car pulls away. Cherish every moment that you are together, even it it is brief.

 

[Scrap_Vamp]

Sending you hugs and pixie dust

 

[Risnsun]

I know how you feel. I have been through this before. Being strong is extremely hard. But when you strive and continue to love and support your husband, It will pay off in the end and your relationship will be better then ever. You will know you have the strength to make through almost everything. I wish you the best of luck. The strength of the world. Don't be ashamed to cry, cuz tears of love, will make you stronger. Grab one of his shirts....and hold it tight. Write a journal of how you feel about him and how you feel you marriage will survive. Then when you do that vow renewal, give it to him as a gift.

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

BF just went to LA to help emergency medical services with what will happen from Hurricane Gustov. Right now he will only be gone a week...it might be two...Who knows. We know in our minds that our men will be gone only a short time...Our hearts feel like it will be an eternity. Hang in there!

I don't think that renewing your vows is silly. I think ( and this is just my 2 cents) that if you've had a trying year that saying those vows again will make your bond stronger. I had a teacher tell me once in a class I was in that when you say those vows they are forever and they are simple to live by. He even said to go back to them from time to time...I think its a wonderful idea!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

hugs to you!

i say renew your vows! you guys deserve it!

 

[WithDisneySpirit]

I am also thinking of you You are both very strong and you will get through this! Obviously, this feat deserves a vow renewal

 

[Stephanie218]

Separations suck, plain and simple. I'm sorry you both have to go through this. My husband's in Iraq right now, so I am definitely not liking being alone. First married Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day, birthdays...all are going to be alone. It's really frustrating, and hard to deal with, but I'd rather be married to him and separated than with anyone else. We eloped in January, but will be renewing our vows for family next summer, so I think that would be a wonderful idea for you guys as well!

 

[Ember]

I totally understand what you are going through. ... I know the tears that flow as the car pulls away. Cherish every moment that you are together, even it it is brief.

Aww, I'm glad it's almost over for you guys, too. How often do you get to be together?

Separations suck, plain and simple. I'm sorry you both have to go through this. My husband's in Iraq right now, so I am definitely not liking being alone. First married Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day, birthdays...all are going to be alone. It's really frustrating, and hard to deal with, but I'd rather be married to him and separated than with anyone else. We eloped in January, but will be renewing our vows for family next summer, so I think that would be a wonderful idea for you guys as well!

You are very brave, and stronger then I am. When I think about people in your position my heart just aches and I feel bad for complaining. I hope the time flies by for you (and me).

 

[DecemberBride]

BF just went to LA to help emergency medical services with what will happen from Hurricane Gustov. Right now he will only be gone a week...it might be two...Who knows. We know in our minds that our men will be gone only a short time...Our hearts feel like it will be an eternity. Hang in there!

Off topic, but i think it's great your bf is doing this! My df went up there to help rebuild after Katrina and I was sooo proud of him... good for you and your dbf for giving back!